If you can feel the energy when you walk into a room or you pick up on what people are going through without them even saying anything you might realize it leaves you feeling frustrated or overwhelmed. Maybe even emotionally exhausted! If that sounds like you, chances are that you’re an empath or highly sensitive person.
The better empaths or highly sensitives can navigate their sensitivity, the more healed and whole they will feel.
It is disheartening to always be triggered, or feel the emotions and moods of others and think you can’t do anything about it. Fortunately, it’s not the case and in this post, I share with you 6 key strategies for empath healing to help you thrive as an empath.
1 Make a mindset shift
I see this a lot in the empath community and with my clients. This might already trigger some of you, I know that I struggled with this myself for a very long time!
It seems that empaths often tend to have a victimized outlook. Meaning, often we expect the world to treat us differently. We expect the people to treat us with kid gloves because we are so sensitive and over-reactive.
Often, we blame people when they don’t treat us in a way that keeps us protected.
How does this happen? When we realize that we are sensitive or that we get affected by the events in our world we start developing a mindset that says our uniqueness is also potentially a weakness.
We then expect the outside world to tread carefully and make sure that this weakness does not get triggered in us.
This is not to upset you, but rather an invitation for you to go within and start examining the beliefs that you have around being sensitive or an empath.
Thinking that the world is an insensitive place and that there are many insensitive people who don’t understand you, or that they take advantage of you, brings more of that into your life!
Your brain is always going to find proof of your belief systems, and that is why it is so important to start challenging those unconscious beliefs.
It can be hard to face the mirror and reflect and the beliefs that are not useful. But, once you start recognizing them and replacing them with beliefs that are more supportive to you, you come from an empowered worldview rather than a victim worldview.
You’ll then notice how everything in your life begins to change. Your relationships will improve and the way that people engage with you will change.
You’ll be able to manage the things that cross your path with more ease, and you will start feeling more confident and centered.
Empath healing starts with making that mindset shift that says: I don’t have to be a victim.
2 Take responsibility for your wellbeing
Get to know your triggers. Get to know what really upsets you and make sure that you do what you can to eliminate that out of your life.
Now, I don’t mean that you need to become a hermit and isolate yourself from the world it’s quite the opposite.
You don’t want to shut the world out but you do need to decide what you are letting into your world.
What media will you consume? How will you take care of your physical body? How much sleep or exercise do you need?
3 Set strong boundaries
As empaths it’s very easy for us to assume that whatever we are feeling or experiencing is our responsibility to fix. We’ve got this innate need as empaths to help people and to support.
While it is a gift, it can also count against you. It can work against you when you assume responsibility for the things that are not yours!
Create stronger boundaries and you will find you stop doing that.
In practice it means that whenever you are going through emotional turmoil when you’re talking to someone, and you feel affected by this is to not jump into rescue mode!
Do not try and fix them or help them or solve the problem for them. Allow the person to solve their own problems. Allow the person to go through their own emotional growth period or emotional healing in their own way.
Be there to support them, but don’t take that on as your own.
Where in your life are you rescuing people at your own cost?
4 Heal Core Wounds
Core wounds are deep seated wounds in our psyche and energy body that affect our daily lives.
There are 3 types of core wounds
- Wounds from childhood. This comes from our experiences and the things that people told us about our sensitivity. Usually it has created some idea within us that we that there’s something wrong with us or that we are lacking in some way.
- Self-created wounds. This is through the belief systems that we start developing about who we are and what our value is. It also includes ideas about what our place is in the world and in the universe
- Wounds from past lives. These are energetic wounds that were unresolved in our past lives.
The way to start healing these core wounds is through connecting with your Higher Self.
In that connection, there is no space for judgement as you are only observing. Now you can start to get insights which can help you transform.
Often, transformation doesn’t come from actively doing something, instead it comes from insight.
For example, when you get an insight into what a typical behavior is costing you, how much you are paying either in energy or emotion, that is often enough to start the process of change.
You can also try journaling while you are in a meditative state to capture messages from your Higher Self. You might even just ask yourself a question such as: what do I need to know right now that could help me or bring me closer to becoming healed and whole as an empath.
A third tool that is really super effective when it comes to healing core wounds is EFT tapping.
EFT tapping collapses the charge connected to specific events that create unconscious beliefs and core wounds.
Think of the pain body as a giant web where all the things that hurt us are linked. That is why it’s often difficult to start the healing process because we don’t know where to start!
EFT tapping works so well, because you don’t need to know which specific event lead to which beliefs, you simply work on the things in your life that bother you when you think about them.
You only need to work on a few of these events that really bother you and all of the others will start collapsing.
5 Regular grounding
This is easily one of the most important things for empaths and highly sensitives to regularly do.
Grounding makes you resilient and helps you think on your feet.
It is very easy to do, you simply use your imagination!
Imagine that a bright light, waterfall or tree trunk comes out from your root chakra which is located in your pelvic region, and goes down into the earth. Imagine that it grounds you and connects you securely.
You can use the grounding cord to clear negative energy and emotions that don’t belong to you. Simply imagine it flowing down your grounding and into the earth.
5 Clear and Balance Chakras
Your chakras are the 7 main energy centers that are in your body. They start at the root chakra at your spine and go all the way up to your crown chakra which is on the top of your head.
One of the ways that I like to quickly just balance my energy is to work with my heart chakra.
Your heart chakra is the center chakra of the seven chakras. Imagine a green, white or pink light radiating out of your heart chakra. Allow your heart chakra to open to the perfect size for you.
See how the light from your heart travels down towards your root chakra and up towards your crown chakra, bringing each chakra into balance and alignment and as it travels through each chakra.
See how the light purges all of the energy, the emotions, and the stuckness that doesn’t belong to you out of those chakra centers and away from you.
Use your imagination
If you are new to energy work, your imagination is a wonderful tool to bring you closer to the world of energy healing. Your imagination helps you be creative, it connects you to your inner wisdom and intuition.
Use these empath healing tools as a way of life and notice how your reality begins to change for the better!