Tertia Riegler

Feminine Embodiment Coach

self-care

Nourish Your Feminine Energy: Unveiling the Power of Self-Care


Self-care can empower and nourish your feminine energy. 

And yet for many of us, self-care is not something that comes easily.

By understanding the resistance we often encounter we can overcome these barriers and discover how to integrate self-care seamlessly into our lives.

The Overwhelming Busyness

One significant stumbling block preventing us from prioritizing self-care is our perpetual busyness. Our lives brim with responsibilities, leaving little capacity to hold space for ourselves. 

However, as we delve deeper into our feminine energy and essence, we gradually develop the ability to expand our capacity. We learn to hold more space, more love, more grace, and we honour our authentic selves.

The Role of Boundaries

Boundaries play a pivotal role in prioritizing our own needs, not in a selfish manner, but as a means of resourcefulness. By setting healthy boundaries, we empower ourselves to show up as the best and most authentic versions of who we truly are. 

We have become experts at nurturing, but often neglect our own well-being. Failing to conform to external standards of nurturing can evoke feelings of inadequacy and guilt. This guilt-laden cycle leads us to overcompensate by giving too much, ultimately resulting in resentment. It is crucial to recognize this detrimental pattern and break free from its grip.

Dispelling the Myth of Expensive Self-Care

A common misconception about self-care is that it requires a lot of financial investment. 

While there is an entire industry built around commercialized self-care products and services, true self-care transcends material possessions or products. 

Authentic self-care involves taking action and being in a that deeply fulfils us. It entails consciously support into our daily lives to nourish our feminine energy.

Overcoming Blocks and Choosing Differently

If you resonate with any of the four blocks hindering your self-care journey, it’s time to take action. 

If self-care continually finds itself at the bottom of your to-do list or you believe you simply don’t have time for it, consider exploring the limiting beliefs that anchor this mindset. 

Challenge them and choose differently. 

Choose to commit to making self-care a non-negotiable.

This commitment harnesses our masculine energy, providing the necessary structure and support for our feminine energy to relax, be nourished, and have her needs met.

How to Nourish your Feminine Energy

Walking the path of the feminine involves developing a profound connection with your intuitive wisdom, self-compassion, self-love, and self-acceptance. Embracing embodiment as a way of being, empowers us to infuse our lives with self-care. 

A simple practice to cultivate embodiment is to check in with yourself upon waking and before sleeping. This mindful moment enables you to tune into your feelings and emotions, fostering a deeper connection with your truth.

By embodying our divine feminine essence and embracing intentional living, we unlock the wisdom and compassion within, allowing us to embark on a journey of self-discovery and fulfilment.

Setting Boundaries As An Embodied Woman

By establishing boundaries, we send a powerful message to ourselves that we are deserving of protection and that our needs matter. 

Upholding healthy boundaries and assertively expressing them to the world not only increases our self-worth and self-esteem, but also allows us to reveal our authentic selves, communicate our availability, and express our requirements for thriving. 

Boundaries extend beyond mental and physical limits to encompass emotional boundaries and what we are willing to accept or tolerate in relationships. It’s essential to understand that boundaries encompass more than simply setting limits and saying no; they reflect how we value our emotional, physical, mental, and energetic needs.

To embark on the journey of creating boundaries, we can approach it from two angles: embodiment and mindset. 

Embodiment involves being in tune with our bodies and recognizing when something feels off. By becoming more skilled at using our bodies to guide us, we can identify when our boundaries are being violated and when it’s time to establish new ones. 

On the other hand, mindset is about having a positive perspective regarding our self-worth, rights, and what we are available for. When we cultivate a clear mindset aligned with our needs, desires, and tolerances, upholding limits becomes easier.

Know yourself

The more we know ourselves and deepen our relationship with ourselves, the more embodied we are and the more authentic we become in navigating the world. This authenticity allows us to thrive, express ourselves fully, and trust that our decisions and presence reflect the best versions of ourselves. 

In this video, you will learn about the transformative practice of connecting with your true self so that you can become skilled in upholding boundaries.

I share

  • Showing up as your authentic self
  • How the inner felt sense acts as a useful guide
  • 3 helpful practices to get started

My Deep Flow Embodiment Practice (Feminine Embodiment)

I have a feminine embodiment practice that I do three to four times a week, and it has become my go-to practice for connecting with my feminine flow, my ease and my creativity.

It’s also one of the first practices that I teach all of my clients to support them to connect into their own depths, and in this video, I show you how I do it.

The intention of doing a feminine embodiment practice like this is to become vulnerable, intimate and honest with yourself, and meet yourself where you are. 

As we go through our days, there are so many things that occupy our minds and our thoughts. And so throughout the day, you might find that you really get disconnected from your body. This movement practice is really going to help you to drop into the body, and into the truth of what you are feeling or experiencing.

There’s no wrong way to do this because you’re following your own body’s cues, you’re expressing the language of your internal world.  And so your movement will look different to my expression and what I feel or sense or experience. 

When you do this feminine movement practice, because you follow the cues of your body, it’s different to dancing where you would follow the rhythm and the cues of the music.

I love this feminine embodiment practice

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Reclaiming your feminine energy: break the cycle of burnout

Female burnout is a hard reality. And, as women, we seem to be especially vulnerable to burnout.

We live in a world that doesn’t really allow for our feminine practices of connecting into the body, of slowing down, and aligning with our own energy cycles.

Our minds are amazing, but our minds move a lot faster than our bodies. If you are going to be plugged into your mind all the time, you will have you move faster in the world, than what is true for your body.

Added to that, we tend to relate our worth to external measures of success, and how productive we are, or how much we give.  It is simply exhausting to live in this way.

In this video, I explore how reclaiming our feminine energy can break the cycle of burnout.

Reclaiming your feminine energy: break the cycle of burnout

I share:

  • My challenge with the personal development industry
  • How leading with the mind is not sustainable
  • The importance of dropping into your body
  • What do to with challenging boundaries

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3 Real Ways To Embody Self Love

When you embody self-love you go from mind-based living to whole being living.

As someone who is walking this path myself, I discovered how my self-love and self-worth have been activated through deepening into my feminine self.

It has helped me uphold my boundaries and overcome self-doubt.

Now often when we hear about self-love and how you can love yourself more, what comes to mind are practices like doing something nice for yourself, or using positive affirmations and self-talk to boost your self-esteem.

We think about things like going for a facial or buying yourself something nice.

These things are all supportive of helping us to deepen into self-love, but they are not really going to help you when the going gets rough.

So how then can we create sustainable change when it comes to self-love, our self-worth and truly showing up as our most authentic selves?

There are three areas that I have identified

  • your inner critic
  • your boundaries
  • becoming skilled in your feminine energy

Through a deeply compassionate exploration of how your inner critic and (lack of) healthy boundaries feed into your low self-esteem, you can start to unravel the hold they have on you.

A sense of internal safety is foundational to not becoming influenced by self-criticism and even self-hatred that the inner critic can create.

3 Real Ways To Embody Self Love

Self-love asks of us to be courageous and to believe in ourselves.

In this video, you’ll learn about 3 practices to embody self-love to create real and sustainable self-worth on a deep level.

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Self-Care Action Plan For Hsp (+ Free Workbook)

This post is part 2 in the 2-part series on Self-care for Highly Sensitive People (HSP). Find part 1 here.

In this post, I want to share with you a self-care action plan for highly sensitive people (HSP), which you can create specific to your needs, and some of the most important things that we need as highly sensitive people in our daily self-care practice.

Defining self-care

Contrary to what you may see on social media, self-care is not a luxury!  

Self-care is not about pampering yourself with facials, manicures and spending money on expensive treatments.

The kind of self-care I’m talking about is doing the things that nourish your soul.  The types of things that honor you and fulfill you.

Self-care is any activity that restores you, revitalizes you, and recharges you.

If you prefer to watch this on my YouTube channel, you can do that here.

HSP and self-care

If you’re a highly sensitive person your nervous system becomes more easily overwhelmed and overstimulated than people who don’t identify as highly sensitive.

Therefore,  highly sensitive people need self-care more than anyone, to be able to cope and to really thrive.

It really is a non-negotiable for us! And we want to make self-care a daily part of our lives and not a weekly task or when we are feeling exhausted. 

Highly sensitive people have three very specific self-care needs that supports our wellbeing.

1 HPS’s need movement

Any type of movement is very important for highly sensitives.  

Part of the HSP trait is overthinking. The deep level at which we process information leaves us spending a lot of time in our minds.

Movement has the effect of automatically grounding us back in the body.  This is a really good thing as our bodies are already in the present moment.

The present moment is right here, and right now.  When we are present in the moment it becomes almost impossible to think about our past or worry about the future.

2 HSP’s need time to process

We need time to think about the things that we have experienced.  

We really do well when we have time to think about our observations and the things that we’ve noticed and to really process and work through all of the experiences that we had.

3 We need alone time

Having or taking alone time it helps you to process all the information your taken in during the day.

Alone time (away from your phone, your laptop, and your “people”) allows you to become introspective and reflect on your thoughts, which really feeds our souls.

Self-care action plan for HSP

Download your free action plan workbook here to help you complete this activity.

self care action plan for the highly sensitive woman download

Our aim here is to create a practical and useful self-care action plan for the HSP that you can do every day.

There are five core self-care categories that you can consider as you complete your action plan.

  1. Physical self-care (activities to take care of your body, movement, healthy diet, enough sleep) 
  2. Emotional self-care (activities that you do to support your emotions, healing core wounds, meditation, journaling)
  3. Mental self-care (activities to feed your mind, restricting social media, reading, using affirmations)
  4. Social self-care (engaging with other people in your life)
  5. Spiritual self-care (connecting to something greater than yourself through prayer and meditation)

Step 1

The first step in creating your self-care action plan is to brainstorm all the things that bring you joy.  Think of the things that restore you and make you feel recharged.

Allow yourself to daydream and don’t hold yourself back. At this point you are simply brainstorming ideas.

Step 2

It is useful to know what your particular triggers are, and that is what we explore in the next step.

When you know what your typical triggers are, you can create a plan, and anticipate what to do in a situation that has the potential to trigger you.

You might have your own signs that tell you you are triggered.  I tend to feel fried, or wired. You may cry at the drop of a hat, feel irritable or dizzy.

Some of the things that might trigger you are bright lights,  loud noises or crowds.  You may respond strongly to feeling hunger or being too warm or cold.  And how do you feel when you haven’t had enough sleep?

Step 3

The next step is to notice where you place your focus.

The fastest way to feel like you are powerless and a victim, is to focus only on those things that are out of your control.

So, take a moment and write down all the things that you can control.

Think about your emotional response, the way that you take care of yourself and the types of media and news that you choose to consume.   What about the way that you show up for yourself and for the people in your life.

This is such an important part of the self-care process,  because it has to do with personal healing.

Changing your focus from an external locus of control to an internal locus has power.  Now you can begin to choose how you show up  and how you will emotionally respond to the things that are happening in your world.

This will give you a sense of being more grounded and stable. When you focus on the things that you can control it gives you the ability to be there for yourself.

Step 4

The final step in your action plan is to put together a routine.

Routines are super helpful because

 a) it’s easier to stick to a routine and, 

b) you don’t have to think about what it is that you need to do.

Our brains like routine as it eliminates the need to think about what to do next, so routines are very useful when you want to begin to create a new habit.

Review your list now and take a look at everything you wrote down in the different steps.

Choose one thing from this list that you will be able to do every day,  keeping in mind your lifestyle and your current life situation.

Ideally you want to choose something that will be easy to implement and not change things so much that you would rather not do it, because it is too much effort!

Implementing your HSP action plan

The secret to creating good habits that stick is to start small.  Do a little bit every day and build your way up.  

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