Tertia Riegler

Feminine Embodiment Coach

personal growth

How To Embody Your Self-Worth, Feel More Confident And Overcome Self-Doubt

Self-doubt and insecurity often stand in the way of personal fulfilment and believing in yourself.

When you have confidence in yourself you can finally start speaking up for your needs, stick to your resolutions and trust your decisions. 

A big barrier that many women have is they think that they need to fix certain things about themselves first before they can have the confidence to be themselves, (I use to believe this too!).  

Of course, it is not true.  You are not broken. There is nothing about you that needs to be fixed. 

But this is how our minds can work against us.

We have a habitual way of being, and we have all of these patterns that are an automatic replay.  It is part of the wonderful efficiency of our brains, and it just makes it easier for us to get on in the world.

And now of course, if this pattern or this narrative is one that’s supporting you, then that’s great. But the truth is, for so many of us, this habitual way of being which feeds our thinking can work against us in so many different areas of our life. 

Whether it’s at work where you don’t want to speak up for yourself, whether it’s in a relationship, where you keep on attracting the same people, or whether it is you trying to change your lifestyle, but you always go back to your old ways of being. 

3 Keys To Overcome Self Doubt 

So this is the obvious question then, how to create a new habitual way of being that eliminates self-doubt? 

It starts with the belief that it is possible even for you to cultivate a deep sense of your own self worth and the confidence that comes as a result of that. 

In this video on confidence tips for women,  I share with you 3 keys to overcome self doubt, and I take you through a model that I use with my clients and also apply in my own life which will help you have more confidence and self esteem, and create personal freedom within. 

I speak about

  • Creating a new narrative
  • You don’t need external validation
  • Getting to know yourself and your triggers

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Unexpected Ways To Build Your Inner Confidence

Growing your inner confidence and self esteem is the medicine for women who seem confident to the outside world, but who are secretly plagued with self-doubt.  

It is so normal for us to struggle with self-doubt. Everybody experiences self-doubt at some point in their lives. 

It’s a problem though when your self-doubt and self-judgment stop you from believing in yourself.  You need to grow your inner confidence and self-esteem if this is the case so that you can go after your dreams, and speak up for yourself.

You may think that self-doubt is only a thought process, but here’s the thing.  Your thoughts can be felt in your body.  And when that voice of self-doubt rears its nasty little head, your nervous system gets activated.

Highly sensitive people have sensitive nervous systems.  This means that their nervous system gets activated and triggered more easily than people who are not highly sensitive. And now when you combine this with your nervous system which also gets activated when you experience self-doubt, it’s easy to see why it can feel like you are freezing up, and why the experience keeps you stuck.

To build your inner confidence and self-esteem, you need to start by making the decision to reclaim yourself and reclaim your own worth.

Unexpected Ways To Build Your Inner Confidence

This is what true inner confidence is: to stand firmly in your own corner.  To reclaim those parts of you that you have been taught are not lovable, whether that was through your cultural conditioning or your family system.

Fully loving and accepting yourself will allow you to flourish in all areas of your life, so you can show up fully self-expressed and self-sovereign.

In this episode, you will learn

  • Meet self-doubt where it lives in your body. 
  • Don’t believe everything that you think. 
  • Release the good girl and connect with your wild woman. 
  • Follow the path of reclamation and liberation
  • Be with your desires before taking action.

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The Secrets Of Empowered Highly Sensitive People

Overview

Since learning a few years ago that I was a highly sensitive person, I have explored different things to help me navigate my sensitive nature. Highly sensitive people have a more sensitive nervous system, and they become easily overstimulated if this is not managed.

In this video, I share with you what I believe are the secrets of empowered highly sensitive people who thrive. So, if you are also someone who feels too much, I hope you find this helpful!

Prefer to read instead? Here is the transcript

In today’s video. I want to share with you some empowering tips for highly sensitive people. Now, these are the tips that I have come to rely on myself, as I’ve navigated my life and my journey as a highly sensitive person. If you’re new to my channel, my name is Tertia. I’m a coach. I work with mostly highly sensitive women and on this channel, I talk about things around self-worth and self-love and feminine energy. I talk about manifestation. There are some meditations on here. I do energy healing videos and I also talk about things around mindsets. If any of that sounds interesting to you, if you are looking for a place where you can find ways to learn about accessing your inner power, then join our community and subscribe, and also make sure that you hit the bell, this way you will get notified of my new videos. I haven’t made a video on high sensitivity for quite a while, and I really wanted to make this one for you because I think that the things that I want to share with you are really, really helpful if you are a highly sensitive person. My biggest challenge that I had when I first discovered I was highly sensitive, I found that in the beginning, at least, I used to filter my whole life and all of my experiences through this lens of being highly sensitive. Even though I believe that it’s very important to know yourself as a highly sensitive person, that’s not the only thing that defines you. This is something that I see time and again. When we are sensitive, we kind of interpret everything in our lives, through that filter. I think that that can be very limiting. I want to share with you my empowering tips on how you can step into your full power as a highly sensitive person. Now, the first tip is to understand your triggers. You’ll know by now, if you know that you’re a highly sensitive person. You’ll know by now that there are certain things that trigger you. There are certain things that seem to amplify your sensitivity. And so it’s very important for you to embark on a, call it a journey of self-awareness, where you get to know yourself, you get to understand what are the things that trigger you. Now, you can really look at the triggering aspects in two parts. We have internal things that trigger us and external things that trigger us. As sensitive people, we are more susceptible to things in our environment; to being hungry, to being cold, to being exposed to loud noises, to being exposed to bright lights. But not everyone has got the same level of resilience when it comes to this. Some people can handle a lot more than others and that’s why it’s important for you to kind of learn what are your triggers? How much of something can you stand before it begins to affect your nervous system? Because that’s really what high sensitivity is all about. We have a very sensitive nervous system. So if you can begin to understand what are those things in your environment, in your external environment, that causes your nervous system to become over-stimulated, you can begin to navigate that. You can begin to manage that better because it’s your responsibility at the end of the day. It’s your responsibility to take the best care of yourself that you can and knowing what your triggers are, and then accommodating for them in your life, as best as you can, is part of that responsibility. The second is to take care of your emotional and your mental health. This ties in again with being knowledgeable, or being aware of what our triggers are. All people, no matter if you are highly sensitive or not, we all have emotional and mental triggers but it seems that for sensitive people, the impact of these triggers are a lot more intense and we feel them a lot quicker than what non-sensitive people might do, for example. So it can happen that our resilience and our bounce-back time is a lot less than people who aren’t as sensitive, whose nervous systems aren’t as sensitive. That’s why I believe it is so, so, so important for us as sensitive people to do the inner healing work. I think that a big thing that can contribute to us struggling with our emotional and our mental health is resistance against accepting who we are. We don’t want to accept our sensitivity. We fight against it. We think that it’s a curse or that it is something that’s a bother in our lives, and we wish it wasn’t so. But the truth is your sensitivity is a beautiful gift when you begin to honor that, and when you begin to live your life, allowing for that to be the way that it is. Then the final tip that I have to share with you is to be discerning with the information that you take on. We live in a age where there is so much information available, on every topic under the sun. But not all of this information is necessarily the truth for you. So really be discerning with all of the information that you take on. Even the information that I share with you, the things that I tell you on my channel, don’t just take my word for it. Always listen with a critical ear and see, does this really apply in my life? And does this speak true to who am and to who I want to be? One of the things I specifically want to talk about are some of the Facebook groups that are out there. Now, there are many, many Facebook groups that are wonderful, wonderful communities for highly sensitive people, and they really provide support and that can really help you on your journey. But they are also those groups where the vibe is very much woe is me. In my mind, I’ve been in some of these groups and I’ve since left them. They create a separation between everyone else and highly sensitive people and there’s almost an expectation that everyone else should treat us in a different way because we are sensitive. They should accommodate our sensitivity in the way that they treat us. I don’t agree with that because I believe that it’s our responsibility to accommodate our sensitivity. It’s up to us to make sure that we live our lives and we make the choices in our lives that honor us. It’s no one else’s job to take care of our sensitivity. Now let me know in the comments, which of these tips resonated the most with you and perhaps, which is the one that you are going to start using first because there’s not been enough of that in your life up until now. The bottom line that I want to leave you with is as a highly sensitive person, your first priority is to take care of yourself. Don’t wait for other people to do that. Don’t wait for other people to change who they are to accommodate your needs. It’s your responsibility to make sure that you honor your sensitive nature, know what are those things that trigger you, take care of your emotional and your mental health. It really is in your power to live as your most empowered version. I really hope that you found this video helpful. If you did, please share your thoughts in the comments below. Also give it a like. It really helps to get my video shown to more people, if there’s interaction and comments on my video, so I’ll really appreciate you helping me out in this. 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As always, thank you so much for watching. I love you and I’ll see you in the next one. Bye.

The Power Of Shadow Work With The Divine Feminine (5 Powerful Exercises)

Overview

In this video, I share 5 powerful activities to get you started on doing shadow work with the Divine Feminine.

Shadow work heals us on a deep soul level and opens the space for us to fully love and accept all parts of ourselves. This is a powerful way to free up your life force energy, embody goddess energy and awaken the Divine Feminine.

Thrive As An Empath (6 Keys To Healing)

If you can feel the energy when you walk into a room or you pick up on what people are going through without them even saying anything you might realize it leaves you feeling frustrated or overwhelmed.  Maybe even emotionally exhausted!  If that sounds like you, chances are that you’re an empath or highly sensitive person. 

The better empaths or highly sensitives can navigate their sensitivity, the more healed and whole they will feel.   

It is disheartening to always be triggered, or feel the emotions and moods of others and think you can’t do anything about it.   Fortunately, it’s not the case and in this post, I share with you 6 key strategies for empath healing to help you thrive as an empath.

1 Make a mindset shift

I see this a lot in the empath community and with my clients.  This might already trigger some of you, I know that I struggled with this myself for a very long time!  

It seems that empaths often tend to have a victimized outlook. Meaning, often we expect the world  to treat us differently. We expect the people to treat us with kid gloves because we are so sensitive and over-reactive.  

Often, we blame people when they don’t treat us in a way that keeps us protected.

How does this happen?  When we realize that we are sensitive or that we get affected by the events in our world we start developing a mindset that says our uniqueness is also potentially a weakness. 

We then expect the outside world to tread carefully and make sure that this weakness does not get triggered in us.

This is not to upset you, but rather an invitation for you to go within and start examining the beliefs that you have around being sensitive or an empath.

Thinking that the world is an insensitive place and that there are many insensitive people who don’t understand you, or that they take advantage of you, brings more of that into your life!

Your brain is always going to find proof of your belief systems, and that is why it is so important to start challenging those unconscious beliefs.

It can be hard to face the mirror and reflect and the beliefs that are not useful. But, once you start recognizing them and replacing them with beliefs that are more supportive to you, you come from an empowered worldview rather than a victim worldview.

You’ll then notice how everything in your life begins to change.  Your relationships will improve and the way that people engage with you will change.  

You’ll be able to manage the things that cross your path with more ease, and you will start feeling more confident and centered.

Empath healing starts with making that mindset shift that says:  I don’t have to be a victim.

2  Take responsibility for your wellbeing

Get to know your triggers.  Get to know what really upsets you and make sure that you do what you can to eliminate that out of your life.

Now,  I don’t mean that you need to become a hermit and isolate yourself from the world it’s quite the opposite.

You don’t want to shut the world out but you do need to decide what you are letting into your world.

What media will you consume?  How will you take care of your physical body? How much sleep or exercise do you need?

3 Set strong boundaries

As empaths it’s very easy for us to assume that whatever we are feeling or experiencing is our responsibility to fix.  We’ve got this innate need as empaths to help people and to support.  

While it is a gift, it can also count against you.  It can work against you when you assume responsibility for the things that are not yours!

Create stronger boundaries and you will find you stop doing that.

In practice it means that whenever you are going through emotional turmoil when you’re talking to someone, and you feel affected by this is to not jump into rescue mode!

Do not try and fix them or help them or solve the problem for them.  Allow the person to solve their own problems.  Allow the person to go through their own emotional growth period or emotional healing in their own way.

Be there to support them, but don’t take that on as your own.  

Where in your life are you rescuing people at your own cost?

4 Heal Core Wounds

Core wounds are deep seated wounds in our psyche and energy body that affect our daily lives.

There are 3 types of core wounds

  • Wounds from childhood.  This comes from our experiences and the things that people told us about our sensitivity.  Usually it has created some idea within us  that we that there’s something wrong with us or that we are lacking in some way.
  •  Self-created wounds.  This is through the belief systems that we start developing about who we are and what our value is.  It also includes ideas about what our place is in the world and in the universe
  • Wounds from past lives.  These are energetic wounds that were unresolved in our past lives.

The way to start healing these core wounds is through connecting with your Higher Self.

In that connection, there is no space for judgement as you are only observing.  Now you can start to get insights which can help you transform.

Often, transformation doesn’t come from actively doing something, instead it comes from insight.

For example, when you get an insight into what  a typical behavior is costing you, how much you are paying either in energy or emotion, that is often enough to start the process of change.

You can also try journaling while you are in a meditative state to capture messages from your Higher Self.  You might even just ask yourself a question such as:  what do I need to know right now that could help me or bring me closer to becoming healed and whole as an empath.

A third tool that is really super effective when it comes to healing core wounds is EFT tapping.

EFT tapping collapses the charge connected to specific events that create unconscious beliefs and core wounds.

Think of the pain body as a giant web where all the things that hurt us are linked.  That is why it’s often difficult to start the healing process because we don’t know where to start!

EFT tapping works so well, because you don’t need to know which specific event lead to which beliefs, you simply work on the things in your life that bother you when you think about them.

You only need to work on a few of these events that really bother you and all of the others will start collapsing.

5 Regular grounding

This is easily one of the most important things for empaths and highly sensitives to regularly do.

Grounding makes you resilient and helps you think on your feet.

It is very easy to do, you simply use your imagination!

Imagine that a bright light, waterfall or tree trunk comes out  from your root chakra which is located in your pelvic region, and goes down into the earth.  Imagine that it  grounds you and connects you securely.

You can use the grounding cord to clear negative energy and emotions that don’t belong to you.  Simply imagine it flowing down your grounding and into the earth.

5 Clear and Balance Chakras

Your chakras are the 7 main energy centers that are in your body.  They start at the root chakra at your spine and go all the way up to your crown chakra which is on the top of your head.

One of the ways that I like to quickly just balance my energy is to work with my heart chakra.

Your heart chakra is the center chakra of the seven chakras.  Imagine a green, white or pink light  radiating out of your heart chakra.  Allow your heart chakra to open to the perfect size for you.

See how the light from your heart travels down towards your root chakra and up towards your crown chakra, bringing each chakra into balance and alignment and as it travels through each chakra.  

See how the light purges all of the energy, the emotions, and the stuckness that doesn’t belong to you out of those chakra centers and away from you.

Use your imagination

If you are new to energy work,  your imagination is a wonderful tool to bring you closer to the world of energy healing.  Your imagination helps you be creative, it connects you to your inner wisdom and intuition.

Use these empath healing tools as a way of life and notice how your reality begins to change for the better!