Tertia Riegler

Feminine Embodiment Coach

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Reclaiming your feminine energy: break the cycle of burnout

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Female burnout is a hard reality. And, as women, we seem to be especially vulnerable to burnout.

We live in a world that doesn’t really allow for our feminine practices of connecting into the body, of slowing down, and aligning with our own energy cycles.

Our minds are amazing, but our minds move a lot faster than our bodies. If you are going to be plugged into your mind all the time, you will have you move faster in the world, than what is true for your body.

Added to that, we tend to relate our worth to external measures of success, and how productive we are, or how much we give.  It is simply exhausting to live in this way.

In this video, I explore how reclaiming our feminine energy can break the cycle of burnout.

Reclaiming your feminine energy: break the cycle of burnout

I share:

  • My challenge with the personal development industry
  • How leading with the mind is not sustainable
  • The importance of dropping into your body
  • What do to with challenging boundaries

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DEEPEN INTO FEMININE ENERGY: WHY I’M NO LONGER RAISING MY POSITIVE VIBRATION

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On this journey of exploring the sacred feminine, you will find that you let go of certain views and ideas along the way. One view of mine that has changed, is the view I had around being high vibe all the time.

I am no longer raising my positive vibration, and in this video, I share with you why I’ve stopped doing it, and what I’m doing instead that’s letting me deepen into my feminine energy.

Prefer reading instead? Here is the transcript.

In today’s video, I want to talk to you about why I’ve stopped raising my positive vibration, and I fully acknowledge that my experience might be completely different to yours. And so that’s why I am just with this video sharing my view and what I am doing instead. My name is Tertia and on this channel, I talk about self-worth and self-love, feminine energy and femininity, manifesting, mindset, and all of the things that you can do to access and stand in your personal power. If that’s something that sounds interesting to you, then I invite you to join us and subscribe, and also make sure that you hit the little bell, and this way, you’ll get all of the notifications each time I upload a video. So I’ve made many videos about raising your positive vibration on this channel, and I’m not going to take them off. They’re still going to stay there because many of you might be on a different path or in a different aspect of your journey. But I really wanted to talk to my experience with why I’m no longer going for raise your positive vibes. So the reason I’m not doing it is because I believe that there is an inherent danger in doing this. So if I just take you back a couple of years to when I first started learning about the power that we have of creating our own reality through our thoughts and through our mind, I was in my early 20s, and for some reason, I interpreted this as very literal, as in positive thoughts create positive experiences and attract positive things into your life. So my interpretation was, you can’t really have negative thoughts because negative thinking brings bad things your way. So you have to do everything that you can to make sure that you stay positive and that you only think positive things and don’t allow any negative feelings or any negative thoughts in. So you can see where this is going. The solution that I had was to take all of the negative things and turn them around and make them positive. The problem was though, whenever I said affirmations, and don’t get me wrong, affirmations have a place. You can still use affirmations very effectively. But the way that I used to use affirmations back then is whenever I said them, and I expressed this affirmation, in the back of my mind, I could still hear the thing that I was actually believing and the thing that I tried to avoid thinking about. And also whenever bad things happen to me, bad things, I would always blame myself. And I would always say, it’s probably because I wasn’t positive enough or I was thinking negative thoughts. So that’s why I’m saying that there’s an inherent danger in thinking that the only or the best way is to raise your positive vibration, because I know that I’m not the only one who has interpreted this concept in this way. Okay, so this is the problem. When we don’t allow ourselves to feel certain negative feelings, or when we don’t allow ourselves to have negative thoughts, when we go into a spiral of feeling down, which is a normal reaction, because we are human, so we are going to feel done at times. But when we are in this place of being down and we judge and we criticize ourselves for not being more positive and for not being more upbeat, what you end up doing is you end up suppressing and denying your feelings. And the thing with feelings and emotions and our life experience is you can think of it as a scale. So you’ve got, let’s call it, extreme darkness and heartache on the one end and extreme joy and bliss on the other end. Now, because we don’t want to feel what is on this side, on the darker side, we suppress that and we shut down our feelings. So our feelings, our ability to feel, the scale and the bandwidth of our feeling this, becomes shorter. But what we don’t realize is that it also becomes shorter on the other side, because things are balanced, the scale is balanced. So as much as you, and I hope this makes sense, as much as you suppress and deny these feelings, as much of the joy and the bliss and the pleasure you prevent yourself from feeling. So you end up playing and having a bandwidth of only this much. So you only allow yourself to experience this much of sadness and this much of joy instead of this entire bandwidth that is available to you. So if we look then at vibration through a feminine lens, what does this look like? Now, I think collectively, we have this idea that higher is better, right? High vibrations, positive vibrations, we always want to ascend. And we also want to work with the upper chakras and the higher chakras, but from a feminine embodiment perspective, we say instead of going high, we want to go deeper instead. So what does this look like practically? Going deep means that you face those tender parts of yourself and you are vulnerable to them. Going deep means that you speak your truth, even if it is something that makes you really uncomfortable. Going deep means understanding where your boundaries are and being able to enforce them with compassion. And these are the things that’s going to change your vibration. By virtue of you going deeper, by virtue of you exploring those tender parts of yourself and releasing the shame and the tension that you unconsciously carry inside of you, you are changing your vibration. And this change in vibration is going to cause you to resonate with others, other people, and other experiences that is more harmony with where you are vibrationally right now. So my invitation to you is instead of going for the high positive vibration, what would it look like if you could go for the deeper, more heartfelt tender change in your vibration? I’d love to know your thoughts about this, so let me know in the comments. And also, I have some ideas of future videos that I’m going to be making for you, and I’d also love to know from you what videos would serve you. So what videos would you like to see here on my channel? And you can also drop some comments for me around that in the comments section below. As always, if you’ve enjoyed this video, then please give it a thumbs up and share it with anyone who you think might find it helpful. If you’ve been watching up until now, and you are still not a subscriber, then please do join us and subscribe to my channel. I’ll really welcome you and I’ll appreciate the support. And then finally, thank you so much for watching. I love you, I appreciate you, and I’ll see you in the next one. Bye.

WHEN YOU CAN’T STOP PEOPLE PLEASING, HERE’S WHAT TO TRY

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Are you in the habit of people pleasing? If you put the needs of others above your own, and you feel responsible for the happiness of those around you, you may also struggle to say no.

In this video, I share with you how to stop being a people pleaser, and how you can learn to say no without feeling guilty about it.

Prefer to read instead? Here is the transcript.

In today’s video, I want to talk to you about how to stop being a people pleaser. How do we stop pleasing people and how do we learn to finally say no without feeling guilty? If you are someone who is always the nice guy and you are always helping other people out to the cost of yourself, then you’re going to find today’s video very helpful. My name is Tertia and on this channel, I show you how to use your inner power and the laws of the universe to completely transform your life. My videos are all about feminine wisdom, self love, self worth, self growth, feminine spirituality, and if any of those things resonate with you, if it calls to your soul, then I invite you to subscribe, join our community, and also make sure that you hit the little bell so you can get notified each time that I upload a new video. If you’ve been trying to stop people pleasing or you’ve been trying to behave differently and you’ve noticed that it hasn’t worked, then I think the things that I’m going to be sharing with you will be very helpful to you. The first thing is the awareness. It’s always the awareness and I say this in so many of my videos. You cannot begin to change anything, you cannot begin to transform anything without the awareness thereof. And the awareness specifically is not just the head knowledge of yes, I’m a people pleaser, I can’t say no, people always take advantage of me because I never turn anyone away, that’s head knowledge and head knowledge doesn’t help me at all. The awareness that I’m talking about here specifically is to connect into the body and to notice when your people pleasing mode gets activated. Become curious and pay attention, is this usually around certain type of people, the same person? Is it usually in a certain situation? Is it when you get asked specific things? Is it with all things? So really become curious as to when this program is triggered and they notice what happens in the body when you resist it. What feelings are they? Can you notice any, I want to call it, energetic turmoil? Is there any turning or agitation that happens inside of you when you even think about resisting or saying no? And ask yourself, what is it that I’m afraid of? What is it that I’m afraid of if I don’t please these people, if I don’t give these people what they want? And that’s going to lead you into beginning to explore what is the driver that keeps this habit in place. Even though we all might have experienced the same thing as children, where we were being a peacekeeper or we were working for the approval of our parents, it manifests in different ways for all of us, even though we carry the same wounding when it comes to being a people pleaser. And that’s why it’s important for you to, as part of your self-awareness, begin to notice when does your pattern get activated. And then following it and understanding what happens in my body energetically, how does it feel? What are the emotions and these sensations? What is it that I’m trying to get away from because what you’ll notice is as soon as you give in to the urge to be accommodating or to be helpful, or to put yourself… or to put others, rather, ahead of yourself, there is going to be kind of a transaction that happens inside of you energetically. And if you can find out what this transaction is, it’s going to allow you to begin to change it. Can you see, it’s really moving from just thinking patterns and trying to think yourself out of a behavior to really working on it on a more energetic level. That’s the short-term solution is the awareness. In the moment, as soon as you notice that you become activated to go into people pleasing mode, notice what is going on with me. The second two points that I want to share with you are more long-term solutions. And the first one is to work around your self worth and your self love. The reason why you are people pleasing, if I can simplify it, is because you are looking for validation outside of yourself. You’re looking for others to let you know that you are okay, that you are valued, that you are worth something, that you are good enough. That’s part of that turmoil that you are trying to quiet inside yourself. And if you can begin to source your self worth from inside of you, instead of going to look for it everywhere outside, you won’t need to accommodate people at the cost of yourself in order to start feeling better, because you’ll be able to do that for yourself. The second long-term strategy that’s going to help you to stop people pleasing is to learn how to take back your own sovereignty, learn how to take back your own power. When we people please, because we are looking for that validation outside of us, because we are looking for the approval of other people, you will also find that there are so many things that you just go along and you don’t even know how you feel about that personally, because you’re always just the easy one, you’re always just going with the flow, you’re always following the crowd, not to rock the boat and to keep everyone happy. One of the things that you can do to begin to stand in your own sovereignty is to identify what are the things that I like? What are my goals? What is it that I long for and that I yearn for? In this process of getting to know yourself better, you can understand what are the things that drive you, what are your values. Part of what happens when we people please is not only are we unable to say no, but we also compromise our own values. And a lot of time, we don’t even know what these values are even though they are operating in the background on an unconscious level. By you learning what your values are, understanding what are those core things that you value most above everything in the world, you can begin to align yourself with that value. And by the act of aligning yourself with these values, by the act of you knowing this is what is important to me, and so I will choose actions and responses and behaviors that honor this which is important to me, that is going to create within you the ability to draw boundaries. If you don’t do that, you will notice that you become resentful. You’ll feel that people take advantage of you, but you don’t have to subject yourself to that. And by honoring your values, by knowing what your goals are, what are those things that are important to you, it’s going to help you stand in your own power. Another part of standing in your own power is learning the ability to hold self compassion and to be able to soothe yourself, to be able to soothe your inner child. So many times, the inner child is the one that pleases. The inner child is the one that is looking for that affection and approval and validation from outside. By learning self-compassion and self soothing techniques, you’ll be able to work with your inner child. And then another point that I can add here is, and this is especially for sensitive people or for empaths is as part of being sovereign is to learn how to separate what you feel from what others feel. A lot of times as empaths, we assume that the feelings of other people are our own and we take responsibility for making people feel better. And that’s also unfair because you’re taking away the opportunity of those people to have their own life experience. I’d like to hear from you now, so let me know in the comments below if you are a people pleaser. I’m assuming you are if you watch this video and perhaps more importantly, which of these strategies that I shared with you resonated the most. The answer to stop being a people pleaser and having the ability to say no without feeling guilty, it isn’t an overnight thing. You can’t just think yourself out of it, but there are definitely some practices that you can do where you take this habit from being just an automatic program that runs in the back of your mind and you bring it into your awareness, and from this point, you can start to change it. I hope that you found this video helpful. And if you did, please let me know in the comments. Also, let me know any other videos that you would like me to make for you around the subject of feminine wisdom or self worth or self love. Also, share this video with anyone who you think might find it helpful. As always, thank you very much for watching and I will see you in the next one.

WHY YOU SHOULD STOP BELIEVING YOUR THOUGHTS (USE THESE 3 SIMPLE HACKS)

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In this video, you will discover why you should stop believing your thoughts as your brain has a unique way of tricking you – even if it is unintentional.

I share with you 3 simple hacks that you can use to stop believing everything that you think, and you will also discover an easy way to reprogram your subconscious mind so that you can become free from thoughts that don’t serve you.

Prefer reading instead? Here is the transcript.

Your brain lies to you, and it lies to you a lot. Now, if you’ve ever had the experience of thoughts running through your mind, that makes you feel bad, you want to watch this video. I’m going to tell you to stop believing your thoughts. You can’t believe everything you think. Now, by the end of this video, you’ll have a clear understanding of how the brain lies to you. And I’m also going to be sharing with you, three hacks that you can use to deal with these thoughts, so that you can start choosing different thoughts instead. If you’re new to my channel, my name is Tertia. And on this channel, I show you how to use your inner power and the universal laws to transform your life. Now, I don’t know if you know this, but we only think about 5% of original thoughts every day, right? It’s said that at least 95% of our thoughts are automatic. So this means that we keep on thinking the same things without thinking about what we are thinking, right? Our thinking happens without us being active participants in this for 95% of the time during our day. So these things that we do every day, like walking, or talking, or eating, or climbing stairs, or sitting down, or standing up, your brain takes over the thinking function of that. But it also takes over the thinking function of many other things that we do habitually, many other things that we do over and over and over. So some of these automatic thoughts that we have is the belief systems that we build up through our own experiences, about your “failures”. These belief systems that we have that say, I’m not good enough, I’m not lovable. All of these thoughts come up, and you feel powerless. It makes you feel powerless. So the first hack is to understand that your brain does these things automatically. When you start hearing the thoughts of, “You’re not good enough. You screwed up. You’re being disrespected. Your partner doesn’t love you. Nobody can love you, because you’re not really lovable. You really are just such a loser.” When you start hearing these thoughts, understand that it’s a lie. It’s part of that 95% of automatic thoughts that the brain is thinking. And when you realize that it’s not a true thought, but a thought that comes from some pattern in your past, now it empowers you, because you can begin to change it. Now you might be familiar with this Harvard experiment, where they studied subjects to see their level of attention and how selective their attention really was. How it worked was you had two groups of people, white t-shirts, black t-shirts, and the subjects had to count how many times the white t-shirt group pass the ball amongst themselves. So, while this was happening, during this experiment, the people were throwing the balls, and then a gorilla came into the group of people, pounded its chest, and then walked off again. The question then that they asked the study group was, how many times did the people with the white shirts pass the ball? And the second question they asked was, did you see the gorilla? And more than half the time, the subjects didn’t see the gorilla. So, I knew about this experiment, and in preparing for this video I went to look at the video again, you can find the video on YouTube if you want to take a look at it. I went to look at the video again. And even though I knew that there was going to be a gorilla that comes up, my focus was still on counting how many times this ball was passed. So if you have to ask me, was the gorilla there? Yes, the gorilla was there, because I kind of noticed him in my peripheral vision, but I never looked at the gorilla. So if you asked me, what did the gorilla do? I still wouldn’t have been able to tell you. And I knew what this experiment was all about. So, our brains really are selective. Our brain focuses on only the things that it deems important. In my case, still counting the balls and noticing whether there was a gorilla or not. So this is the second hack. In your brain you’ve got this control center, let’s call it a control center, called your reticular activating system, or RAS for short. And we take in so much information through our subconscious mind. We’re aware of everything that happens to us, but we only register those things which are deemed important. And our subconscious mind sends us this information, this data that it thinks is important, based on what we tell it. Now, when we use our reticular activating system in a way to support us, it means we can begin to reprogram some of these automatic thoughts that we have. When you keep on thinking the same thing over and over, when you keep on reinforcing your belief of I’m not good enough, or I’m unlovable, these core beliefs, you are always going to find proof of this. It’s always going to be brought to your attention. And by starting to think different thoughts, by starting to input different ideas and different beliefs into the subconscious mind, through the conscious mind, you’re starting to reprogram some of these automatic thoughts that run. So that the automatic thoughts that run in the future are going to be more supportive to you, rather than breaking you down and making you feel bad about yourself. The third hack that I want to tell you about is, where you become the observer of your thoughts, so you don’t buy into the story. Now, this is a little bit more of a trickier one where you become the observer. I’ve been able to maybe two or three times in my life do this spontaneously, where I was caught in a downward cycle, in a negative cycle, and I was able to remove myself and observe my thoughts and my feelings. And just by that act of observing, you’re putting distance between whatever is going on in your brain and in your emotions. And from a higher perspective, a higher vision, you’re observing this. And there are two kinds of questions that you can ask yourself, that’s going to support you to become the observer and to remove yourself from whatever it is that your brain is automatically thinking. So the first question is, is this helpful? And by asking yourself is it helpful, it’s forcing you to begin to analyze and study and critically explore these thoughts that you are having. So you no longer just stuck in the feeling of it, but you are really considering whether this is helping you, and often that’s enough to kind of get you out of it. The second question that you can ask yourself is, is this true? And here, I just want to say don’t go on your feeling. Don’t go on your gut feeling that says, “Yes it true.” Look for hard evidence, okay? Often we might be getting crossed signals from our intuition when you’re caught in feeling bad thoughts, okay? And it might not be the truth that you’re finding from your intuition, because it’s not really your intuition talking. So, look for facts, where before has this happened for real? And also this fact finding is going to allow you to kind of take a step back. What you just need to know, it doesn’t help if you only do it once, okay? It’s a process, you are then training your brain. You’re also reprogramming your mind. You’re giving yourself new automatic thought patterns. So, the reason why your brain lies to you, it’s because it is just how the brain works. It fills in the blanks. It’s very selective in its attention, because it’s trying to be efficient, and it is efficient. I mean our brains work, but it can work against you, if you allow yourself to believe all of these things that your brain tells you, okay? We want to become self-aware. We want to have self-inquiry, want to be able to separate ourselves from our thoughts and our feelings, so that we can see them for what they really are. So I hope that you have found this video helpful. And if you did, then please let me know by giving it a thumbs up. Also, if you like enjoying, or if you like enjoying, if you like videos about this, then let me know in the comments below as well. I can create some more for you, on how you can reprogram your subconscious mind, how you can counter these belief systems that we all have, because we are all human beings, okay? Share this video with anyone who you think might find it helpful. Subscribe, if you haven’t yet subscribed. And then, thanks very much for watching. I’ll see you in the next video. Bye.

MY TOP 5 TIPS TO RESET YOUR MINDSET & RAISE POSITIVE VIBRATION

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In this video, you will discover my top 5 tips to reset your mindset and raise your positive vibration. Highly sensitive people and empaths especially are often challenged by some of the experiences that cross their paths, because their experiences can be very intense.

You will learn how to, following the Law of Attraction, reset your mindset so that you can raise your positive vibration and attract better experiences into your life, how to clear your energy and stand in your power as far as narcissists are concerned.

Transcript

Your mindset determines the outcome of so many different things in your life. You actually create your experiences every day by the types of thoughts that you have. So, in today’s video I want to talk with you about how you can reset your mindset to raise your vibration so that you can start attracting the things in your life that you really want. So, we’re going to be looking at a couple of things. I’m first going to talk about what is mindset? Then I want to look a little bit into thoughts and frequencies and how they are linked? Thoughts and energy frequencies and then finally I’m going to share with you my top five  tips that’s going to help you reset your mindset. If you are new to my channel, my name is Tertia. I’m an EFT practitioner and a coach and I help highly sensitive people get unstuck break through the blocks that hold them back. So, that they can live better and feel better. Please say hello to us in the comments, subscribe. I’d love to have you as part of our community and remember to click the bell so that you can get notified of my weekly videos.  So, let’s kick off talking about what is mindset and the best and easiest way to think about your mindset is to think of a filter that filters how you see things. It filters how you experience conversations that you have with other people, interactions that you have with other people. It filters or colors in how you observe people doing something, your interpretation of what you see happening around you. So, your mindset is type of a mental attitude. It’s, type of a mental outlook and it really is made up of a whole lot of different things. So, it’s made up of some of the belief systems that you develop as you grow up and as you experience things. Some of the things might be what were transferred to you from your parents, from your society, the culture that you grew up in. So, we’ve got some beliefs about how we think, how we think things should be and how things should work and how people should be? Our mindset also has a lot of unwritten rules, right. So, we tend to create rules about how people should behave and how people should respond to us and how people should do things and how the world should work? So, we have these unwritten rules and that also forms part of our mindset. Let’s talk a little bit about how our thoughts actually then affect the way that we experience our life? Now if you’re a law of attraction student, you’ll know that our thoughts and our feelings have energy and energy has a vibrational frequency. The universe is also made up of energy and this energy also has a vibrational frequency, right.  Now, if you think of your thoughts and your feelings like a radio transmitter and you think of the universe, the energy in the universe as a receiver, then what will happen? Is the universe is always going to try and match the frequency that it receives from the thoughts and the feelings you pull the people and the experiences into your life. Who are on level with? Who you are being and if you don’t like what you are attracting into your life, if you aren’t happy with the things that show up for you. You can’t try to change those things out there. You have to start with changing who you are being and you do that by becoming aware of your thoughts and feelings. You do that by grounding yourself, you do that by clearing residual energy. Something that I see, shows up often when we talk about the law of attraction and changing your thinking, is there seems to be quite a big drive towards positive thinking? Think only positive things because if you think negative things, you’re going to attract negative things into your life and that’s not completely true in terms of how it works because our thoughts and our feelings have messages for us. And if you are going to simply try and paste positive thinking onto these thoughts and feelings, what you are doing is you are suppressing what is actually going on there but it’s still going to come out through your subconscious mind, right. And that’s a mistake that many of us make when we start to use the law of attraction in our life.  When we start working with energy and we start working with the universal vibration, is we become afraid of our own thoughts and our own negative thoughts because we think that it’s going to bring negativity in our life. But this is actually an opportunity for you to start clearing those lower vibrational frequencies that you have start clearing the residual energy and start working with the core wounds that are giving you emotions that aren’t of such a high vibration. Now, I want to share with you my five tips on how you can actually then begin to reset your mindset to raise your vibration to attract these positive things into your life. We can’t just live with our brains. We have to live with our minds, our brains and our entire energy body because we are both spiritual and physical beings. So, we need to bring both of those elements in. When we start on this journey of creating a life that we really want in a way that we really wanted, all right. So, let me get on to the tips then. So, the first tip for resetting your mindset, to raise your vibration is to practice compassionate self-responsibility. Now I’ve made a video about that before which I will link up here and it will also be in the description below. You can go, look at this video or go watch this video rather and in here I talk about how important it is that we start taking responsibility for our own feelings, our own emotions and our own triggers now. One of the big things when it comes to compassionate self-responsibility or practicing self-responsibility is understanding that we cannot wait for other people to change. Often we might walk around with this expectation to say that you know who how I am? That’s the right way. This is now the unwritten rules that we have on our subconscious mind. The way that I think and perceive and experience the world is the right way and the way that someone else does things is the wrong way. So, in order for things to become better or things to change that person or those people should do start doing things differently. I’m not going to change who I am, instead they have to do the work, they have to you, know take the first step they have to change. One of the things that I’ve noticed which is, which aligns with this type of thinking is the prevalence of information. That’s available out there especially in the highly sensitive and empath community about energy vampires and narcissists. It seems that every second person is either a narcissist or an energy vampire out to get us and I think what happens is we tend to put so much power perceived power onto these narcissists and energy vampires that we forget that we have got sovereignty. We determine how we experience things through our thoughts and our feelings and people only have the power over us that we give to them.   So, instead of thinking that a narcissist should change or an energy vampire who should stop sucking my energy, what will happen if we start focusing our attention on ourselves, if we start taking responsibility for our own triggers, if we start taking responsibility for creating stronger boundaries so that we don’t fall victim and I don’t even want to use the word but for lack of another word that we don’t fall victim to people who might not have our best interests at heart. So, in instead of hoping that they will change their ways and that they will stop doing, what they are doing rather focus the attention on the self. See, who I can change in my being so that I can show strong, show up stronger and more powerful in a different way into the world. The second tip is to stop making your happiness dependent on external conditions and this is something that we all have done. At some point or another, where we again walk around with this belief or this idea that once we have achieved a certain goal that we’ve set up for ourselves either in our personal relationships or at work or a financial goal. We think that once we’ve attained that goal, we’ll be happy. We’ll feel that we’ve arrived and then we will start feeling more confident about ourselves and we’ll start feeling more valuable as people and we’ll feel happier about who we are and our own achievements.  Now, the problem with that is those goal posts keep on moving and whenever something then in the outside world shows up that is not in alignment with our goals that affects our sense of self that affects our sense of happiness. A far better way to be is to stop making your happiness dependent on what happens out there but focus your happiness meter on who you are as a person regardless of your circumstances, regardless of the things that happen in your life and regardless of the things that you have or that you don’t have. When we start making our happiness dependent on the things that are out there, either the things that happen or other people’s moods then what we start to do is we create a scarcity mindset within ourselves. So, you have a mindset of lack an idea of who I am being and what I have at this present moment in time is not enough and when you have the scarcity mindset, you can think for yourself. What are the types of thoughts and feelings that you generate every day? What are the types of things that you think about? So, what are you vibrating, what signal are you sending out into the universe? And remember the universe matches the, the, information that it receives from you, the transmission that it gets. It’s going to continue to try and match that because that’s how it works, right. And if you have the scarcity mindset, then you are going to continue to see more scarcity. Show up in your life. You’re never going to find that relationship that you’re longing for. You’re never going to feel fulfilled in your career or in your personal life. Now, point three is to change your inner talk. That is the third mindset tip that I have for you is change your inner talk. Our subconscious mind listens all the time and the way that you speak to yourself and the type of words that you use and you know the chatter that you have inside your own mind. Your subconscious mind is receptive. It listens all the time and if you have a particular way of thinking, if there’s like a pattern in your self-talk those create new neural pathways. So, you are programming your mind to continue to think in a certain way, to continue to have a certain unwritten rule. So, become aware of what type of inner talk you have and if you see then that it is not supportive for you to create the kind of life that you want and to have the kind of experiences that you want and to attract the kind of people that you want into your life, then begin to change that inner talk, begin to change that self-talk. Now, some of the more typical inner talk patterns that can be preventing you from actually raising your vibration is if you are someone who tends to judge others a lot. If you find fault with the way that other people are being and the things that other people do if you have a lot of criticism towards other people and towards the way that they live their lives especially if it’s not aligned with the way that you live your life, then that again creates another level of scarcity. It creates a separation which lowers your vibrational frequency. I want to talk about energy vampires and narcissists again. If we tend to think that we are surrounded by energy vampires, by narcissists and that we are living in an insensitive world that is not geared for sensitive people and nobody understands us because 80 percent of the world are different to, you know us. Small 20 percent of people who have a different way of thinking and experiencing things potentially, you could be creating this unwritten rule that you are living in an unsafe universe, you are living in an unsupportive universe and now think about this. If you think that the world is an unfriendly place, at what level are you vibrating? What is your frequency? When these are the subconscious thoughts that you have because you might not necessarily think that out loud but you programming your subconscious mind that the world is an unfriendly place, that the world is an unsafe place. So, you can think what are the experiences and the people that you will attract into your life. That’s going to vibrate at that same frequency. Now, the fourth tip that I have for you is to meditate and there’s a reason why I talk about meditation so much. First of all, as sensitive people, our brains need quiet time to process and to reflect. So, meditation is the perfect thing to do, to allow our brains to do this because you are then in a quiet place. You are not thinking so much about the world out there and the things that are going on in your life. You’re focusing on your breathing and you are really trying to quieten down and allow yourself to go into a relaxed space. So, this helps the brain of the highly sensitive person because our brains tend to over process and if you don’t know about how the highly sensitive brain works. I’m also going to put a link for you in the description below so that you can go and take a look at that video that I’ve created. Okay! So, getting back then to meditation, the second reason why meditation works is because meditation is a very effective way for you to work with. Your own energy, remember I said earlier that we are not only physical beings, we’re also spiritual beings. We are energetic beings and we need to work with our own energy. We need to learn how to work with our energy and in my mind energy work is as important as taking you know a daily bath or a shower. Now, one of the other things that meditation is also going to be helpful with is for you to start thinking or creating different mind movies for yourself. So, mind movies, mind movies are those stories that you play out in your mind. When you think about something that might happen or you think about something that has happened. So, if you are in the habit of playing out the worst case scenario and the worst thing that will happen or you are in the habit of replaying all of the bad things and annoying things and angry making things and irritating things and unfair things that people over the years have said or done or you know told you. You’re again reprogramming your mind. You’re reprogramming in a certain set of thoughts and emotions. Thoughts and feelings which is going to affect your vibrational frequency, so meditation is going to help you to begin, to make different mind movies for yourself and you can use creative visualization or a guided meditation to do this and the process is you decide on what it is that you want to create in your life? It can be you want to improve a relationship that you have with someone. You want to have a conversation with a person and you want this conversation to go in a certain way or you want you have a certain goal that you, that you are working towards and what you will then do is to create a movie where you play out the different things that will happen to lead you towards the outcome that you want and remember to, you know amplify the volume. Turn up the volume and you know make the light brighter and the colors brighter so that you can really get the biochemical juices in your body flowing and in your brain flowing at the same time.  So, that’s how you can use meditation and then the final tip that I have for you is to become intentional in your living and this is probably, this should probably have been at number one because this to me is the key of living your life in such a way that you begin to attract the things that you want and desire and that is become intentional, become conscious of who you are being? It is very easy for us to flip into autopilot mode. That’s how our brains have been designed. Become conscious of how you are thinking? How you are responding to people? Become aware. If you notice one of these automatic programs are busy running, become aware of how you think about things and again meditation and contemplation is going to help you do this because now, you are quiet enough to actually think about how you are thinking, right. And then once you see how you are thinking about things and you feel into how you, you, think about things and the world and people and experiences, then you can choose how to respond? You can choose to respond with forgiveness or compassion or love or understanding or any of these higher emotions, higher vibrational emotions which is going to allow you then to lift your own vibrational frequency. Pay attention to your thoughts and your feelings. Don’t get sucked into the story of them and don’t get lost in them but develop that muscle of being able to lean into the thought or the feeling to lean into the emotion and discover what the message is for you so that you can then clear it. We really have so much power in our own hands and I say this in so many of my videos because it’s true. We can give our power away and think that other people hold power over us and things hold power over us but they don’t. We have sovereignty in our own lives and we can choose every day. How we can show up? How we can experience things and how we can weather the storms because life is still going to happen. Things are always going to happen to us, right. But, it’s how we, how we get through that. That is going to determine our experience of it. So, I hope that these have been helpful for you and I would also like to know if you have any other mindset reset tips that you can share with us. If you do, please leave them for us in the comments below. 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TAKING RESPONSIBILITY AND LIVING WITH INTENTION

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Taking responsibility for your life is something that anyone can do starting right now to change your life and raise your positive vibration.

Most of us have some tragic experiences or things that happened to us in our past, it is a part of growing up. 

If you’ve ever been in love,  chances also are that your heart has been broken.

Many people might have financial stress,  and you might even be in a situation right now, with everything that’s going on in the world that you are feeling completely powerless and helpless.

I’m sure you’ll agree that this is a very disempowering place to be in.

As a result, we might look for something outside of ourselves to make us feel better. 

Also, you might even look for someone to blame for your situation.

When we blame our circumstances, and our past, and our parents, and our broken relationships, we’re really disempowering ourselves. 

We’re diluting our ability to create the life that we really want.

Wake up to reality

Taking responsibility for your life is almost like taking the red pill like in the movie The Matrix. 

It really means that you wake up to your reality.   You wake up to the truth of what reality is.

And so, you begin to think for yourself. Also, you begin to stand up for the things that you believe.

You no longer blindly follow the herd.  

Ultimately, you begin to see the system for what it is, and for what it is doing to our world and to the people. 

Often we are being guided or led into a direction which is not necessarily the best direction for the highest good of all.

When you take responsibility you’re saying, this is my life, and I am taking ownership of how I’m going to feel.

You say, I will take ownership of the things that I will allow to affect me and ownership for fighting for the things that I believe in.

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