Tertia Riegler

Pleasure and Liberation Embodiment

highly sensitive person

Am I Energy Sensitive? Signs & Tips To Master Your Energy

When you’re sensitive to energy it plays a big role in your entire life. 

If you know that you are energy sensitive, and you have learned how to manage your energy, it helps you become more empowered in how you live your life.

If you don’t know that you are sensitive to energy and so you’ve never learned how to master and manage this you might find that you feel like a victim of circumstance, powerless and even helpless.

Signs that you are energy sensitive

1. Highly empathic

You may experience the feelings of others as if they are your own. It can be difficult to distinguish between what feelings are yours, and what belongs to someone else. When you are not aware of this, you may be terribly affected by the moods of others. If others are happy, you feel happy too. Unfortunately, the opposite is also true, when others feel upset, you experience that too. It will be helpful if you learn to separate your energy from other people’s energy. And something else which is important to know is that their feelings may activate unresolved traumas or blocks within you.

2. Sensitive to the energy in a room

You might know this – when you walk into a room during or right after someone had an argument. You may feel the tension or “stickiness” that is left in the space. You may also feel activated when you go to a shopping mall where you pick up on the energy of all the people in that space.

3. Struggles with addictive behaviour

This could possibly be due to the desire to numb out feelings of overwhelm and overstimulation. Addictions can be anything from getting lost in the social media rabbit hole, to sex or porn, to using alcohol and drugs to numb yourself. These addictions are used as a coping mechanism.

4. Struggles with intimacy

As a sensitive person, you are sensitive to the feelings and moods of the people in your life. This can cause you to withdraw and avoid confrontation as you pick up on the moods of those around you. Many sensitive people may avoid asserting themselves and so fall victim to people who take advantage of them. This can lead to avoiding opening up and becoming vulnerable in relationships as a way to stay safe.

How to manage your energy to become more empowered

I have four tips to share with you on how you can empower yourself by mastering your energy so that you can live your best life.

1. Uphold healthy boundaries

Creating stronger energy boundaries doesn’t necessarily mean that you should “protect” yourself from others. Rather, develop the awareness of being able to distinguish between what are your thoughts and feelings, and what belongs to someone else. Exploring the boundaries somatically, and feeling into how it feels to uphold such boundaries can be helpful.

2. Assume responsibility for your own wellbeing

You can not control another person, the only thing you have control over is how you are being. Often we may think that other people should change in order to accommodate those of us who are more sensitive. But, the responsibility does lie with you to ensure that you honour your sensitivity and mindset so that you begin to live empowered instead of being affected when others don’t behave like you think they should.

Become a master

You are the creator of your experiences. So, even though you may not cause the actual events and situations, your response to them will determine your experience to a large extent. No one else is in charge of your life or your energy. Begin to view yourself as a powerful creator and start acting in that way. Your sensitivity is a gift that you can use to live an empowered and fulfilling life.

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How To Let Go Of Grudges And Forgive (Letting Go Of The Past)

Letting go of the past, and dealing with our grudges and resentments is something that most of us have struggled with at some time or another. And, as the years go by, our experiences tend to pile up.

We all have a past, and it’s made up of both joyous and sad experiences. But, when we focus more on our disappointments and resentments, it can keep us stuck in the past. And, being stuck in the past like that determines how we show up for ourselves and those in our lives, every day.

Highly sensitive people in particular, can be quite good at holding grudges (speaking from experience here), because we remember all of the slights that have happened to us.  Also, we have very high standards that we hold ourselves and others too, making it easy for us to become disappointed.

The problem with holding on

Holding on to past painful experiences, can cause you to adapt a victimized mentality. 

If you live in the story of a victim by constantly going back on reliving and re-experiencing all the wrong-doings and unfairnesses, you see more of that show up in your life because you are training your brain to show you that.

Your brain shows you more of what it thinks you want to see, based on your thoughts.   It’s called the reticular activating system (R.A.S.)  

We continuously remind ourselves who we are, we remind ourselves about our past – this is how we know how to show up in the world, right?  But sometimes these stories become outdated and they stop serving us.

Letting go of the past

Letting go of the past starts with a conscious decision to do so.  

You decide that you are ready to let go.   You decide that you are no longer going to be a person who holds resentments and who bears grudges.  You decide that you’re not a person who clings to the past.

Then, when you get triggered you remind yourself who you are being now.

Letting go and forgiveness

I  believe that we forgive with our minds first and then with our hearts.

Forgiveness requires insight.  Forgiveness requires a shift in the way in which you think otherwise you forgive someone but you never forget what they did!

It’s really about getting over and past yourself because your resentments and grudges and your disappointments live in your mind.  So you need to get over yourself to get beyond them.

It requires self-work 

If you’re here, then it means you are already doing some self-work!

One of the first ways to detach from your past is to become more present.  When you are in the present moment, it is difficult to be fixated on the future or to be stuck in the past.

Two techniques that you can use for becoming more present, are grounding and embodiment techniques. 

Working with a therapist or a coach can help clear some of the foundational issues that make you feel justified in holding on to your anger, resentment and disappointment.  As long as you stay stuck in these emotions, you will not be able to move forward in life.

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Setting Personal Boundaries As A Highly Sensitive Person

Setting personal boundaries as a highly sensitive person is probably one of the more difficult things that we experience.

I believe it is partly because we are so aware of the emotions we invoke in other people and how we make them feel.  That may make it hard for us to say no and not be accommodating.

If we don’t have personal boundaries,  that can really drain us, and make us feel overwhelmed and overstimulated.  Ultimately,  it can make us feel resentful and we can walk around with a lot of suppressed anger.

In this post, I want to share with you 3 easy and practical things that you can start doing right now to help you set personal boundaries as a highly sensitive person.

Why are setting boundaries difficult for HSPs?

We teach people how to treat us and the way that you view yourself energetically, tells other people how they can treat you.

If you have a limited self-view, You’re not very self-aware in terms of your own needs and wants it becomes very difficult for you to uphold any kind of boundary.

Maybe you never learnt how to set boundaries. Growing up, having boundaries was not something that was featured in our house.  

Watch Tips for setting personal boundaries as a highly sensitive person on my Youtube channel.

So, as an adult, you have to take responsibility for your own well-being and teach yourself how to begin to set boundaries because it is a skill.

Because HSPs usually try and avoid conflict and confrontations we are hesitant to say no, to put our foot down, or to not do what people want even if it doesn’t suit us.

Other times, you might feel guilty if you uphold your boundaries.  You may think that you are making life difficult for the other person or that you should actually help out because there’s no reason why you can’t.

It’s necessary for us to reframe the way we see how responsible we are for other people. 

You are not responsible for someone else’s well-being, the only thing that you are responsible for is how you are going to show up in the world.

What happens when you don’t uphold your personal boundaries?

When our boundaries are violated we end up feeling like we don’t have any control in our lives.

We feel as if we are just subjected to everything that is happening around us and that we have no say in what is happening.

Setting personal boundaries as an HSP is something that you continuously work on.  

You get in touch with your own needs, you get in touch with the things that are important to you, and from that space you are able to adjust your boundaries.

It follows then that beginning to work with setting and upholding your personal boundaries, has to start with self-awareness. You need to know who you are and what you need..

Starting to create personal boundaries as a highly sensitive person

Here are three practical tips that I want to share with you, that  you can use right now.

They are built around the phases of self-awareness because in order to have boundaries you need to know what works for you and what doesn’t work for you.   We really need that self-awareness to allow us to show up in the way that we want to.

Tip 1: Explore what you want

Make a list of all the things you want in your life when it comes to your boundaries.  The things that you’ll accept, the way you want people to treat you, and the things you are prepared to do. 

Take a couple of days on creating this list and don’t limit yourself with the wants and needs to put on the list.

So often as highly sensitive people, our attention is focused on the needs of the people in our lives and in the process we don’t always pay attention to what is important for us.

The problem with doing that, is you start to feel resentful because subconsciously you feel as if you don’t have a say in your own life.

That’s why it’s helpful to identify what you want and what you will accept from others.

Explore what your values are and what is important for you, and then find ways in which you can begin to honor your values.

At the end of the week, take your list and reflect back over the week and about the times where your boundaries were set but you didn’t uphold them.  In this way you begin to slowly train yourself to not only have personal boundaries but keep them!

Tip2: Tune into your body

I believe that our bodies knows before our brains do.

Your body might respond in alarm, or go into fight or flight mode when the amygdala gets activated before you even realize something is happening.  As HSP’s our amygdala gets activated excessively because of the nature of our nervous system.

You might find your heart beating faster, you could experience a sinking feeling or a feeling of heaviness.  

Every person has their own signals, and so it will serve you to begin to pay attention to what responses, feelings, and emotions you have in the body.

Watch out though that you don’t get sucked into the feelings, as that is not very helpful.  What you want to do instead, is to pay attention to the messages your feelings are sending you so that you can then act on them instead of being reactive.

Tip 3: Use you voice

Using your voice and speaking up for yourself is foundational to having personal boundaries as a highly sensitive person. 

Expressing yourself when you agree with something may feel scary, especially when you usually avoid confrontation, so take baby steps.

If, during a conversation with your partner, something that they say makes you feel dismissed then tell them that.

Don’t be quiet and invalidate your own feelings.

Rather open the conversation and come from a place of being open and honest. 

Express what your feelings are about being dismissed or not listened to in the way that you really would appreciate.

Tell others if you are feeling overstimulated and there is something that they can do to help you.  If the television is too loud in the room next door, or your colleague is very loud on the phone next to you, speak up!

Know your self-worth

Setting personal boundaries and upholding them becomes easy when you honor your self-worth and understand your needs and your wants. 

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Healing The Upper Chakras For Highly Sensitive People

This is Part 2 of the series on healing the chakras for Highly Sensitive People (HSP).  In Part 2 we discuss the upper chakras.  If you haven’t read part 1 yet, you might want to do that first.

I prefer to use the term upper chakras simply because higher chakras makes it sound as if the top chakras are better than the lower chakras.

Since the lower chakras are foundational to a healthy and well-balanced energy system, it is an important distinction to make.

The upper chakras that we’ll be discussing today then the heart chakra, throat chakra, third eye chakra and the crown chakra.

A note before we start: This information serves as a general guideline for you to find a point to start to work with the chakras and the energy system as a whole.

You can watch the video on healing the upper chakras for highly sensitive people on Youtube

The Heart Chakra

The heart chakra is in the center of the 7 chakras, and connects your upper chakras with your lower chakras.  It is also the center of who we are.

The theme of the heart chakra is love and connection.

The heart chakras of highly sensitive people (HSP) could be overactive.  HSPs often put others ahead of themselves and this could cause the heart chakra to become imbalanced.  

It could show up as problems with setting boundaries and neglecting of the self, where you neglect taking care of your own needs. 

If you are overactive in one chakra, you might find that the 2 neighboring chakras are underactive.

Perhaps you don’t speak up for yourself which relates to the throat chakra.

Or, you might suppress your stronger feelings such as anger, and avoid confrontation which relates to the solar plexus.

To heal the heart chakra, you have to strengthen and balance your root chakra, solar plexus chakra, and throat chakra.

When you bring the solar plexus and throat chakras into balance, it will strengthen and open your heart chakra.  The chakras never work in isolation as they are interconnected.

A closed heart chakra

Your HSP sensitivity to the responses of others can also lead to the heart chakra closing down.

If you’ve been hurt one time to many times, you may do this in an attempt to protect yourself

But, by shutting out the pain of the world and everyone in it, we also shut down our own feelings.

A closed heart chakra prevents you from feeling peace, joy and centeredness.

The first step  in opening your heart chakra is to practice forgiveness.

Forgive yourself and forgive others.   When we forgive someone we release the energetic attachment to that person or event.  You don’t condone what happened, and you gain freedom.

A second part of opening your heart is to make self-care a regular part of your life.  Through practicing self-care you begin to honor your needs.

And finally, and perhaps most importantly – when you do this inner work (as much of this content on my blog is about), you begin to heal and balance your energy centers.

Working on inner child healing and core wound healing is not easy to do on your own, and this is where working with a Coach or Practitioner is very helpful.

The Throat Chakra

The throat chakra is the center of our authentic expression.

This energy center is all about communication and about speaking our truth.

Imbalances in the throat chakra may show up in the form of thyroid problems, or any problems with the throat, the neck, and the shoulders.

Growing up there are many things that teach HSPs to be quiet and not speak up or stand up for themselves. 

HSPs are very conscientious about the feelings of others.

So, in avoiding hurting the feelings of others the HSP shuts their own communication down.  

Most HSPs I know have some struggles around people-pleasing.  

Because the HSP is so aware of the moods and the subtleties when engaging with other people, they are very aware of not rocking the boat too much.

To heal the throat chakra and step fully into your authenticity, you have to speak your truth.

Begin by voicing your opinions and standing up for yourself and the things you believe in. 

Connect to your purpose

The throat chakra is connected to our purpose.

I believe that our purpose unfolds within us when we are aligned with our own truth.

By doing the inner work, aligning with your essence, and doing the healing your life purpose begins to unfold organically as a result.

A practice that will begin to activate this upper chakra for the highly sensitive person is to be your word.

Being your word means that you do what you said you will do, and when you said you will do it.

It is a cornerstone of taking responsibility for your life and the choices you make.

When you become your word, you treat your word as sacred.

When we make a commitment to someone else,  or to ourselves, we honor that commitment and follow through on it.

You avoid telling white lies even if you are trying to make someone else feel better (A habit of HSPs is trying to make others feel better!)

Standing your personal power in this way, also strengthens the solar plexus.  

Often, HSPs tend to overcommit in their attempt to be helpful and nice.  This relates to weakness in both the solar plexus and throat chakras, and is another opportunity for doing deeper work.

The Third Eye Chakra and Crown Chakra

Now we are moving into the spiritual dimension when we look at these two upper chakras.

Your root chakra up to your throat chakra is more connected to the physical and the third eye chakra and the crown chakra are more connected to the spiritual dimension.

The third eye chakra which is located between the brows on your forehead is your connection to intuition.

HSPs are naturally more intuitive and sensing subtleties is one of the key traits of being a highly sensitive person. 

So, this ability to be more sensitive and the other HSP trait of overthinking and intellectualizing can cause the HSP to spend a lot of time in these upper chakras.

The crown chakra is our connection to the Divine.

This is where we remember that we are not separate but that we are one.  We are connected to each other and connected to the Divine.

As I said, HSPs can spend a lot of energy and time in these energy centers and the result is that you may feel ungrounded.

You might describe it as being spacey, flaky, ungrounded or even out of touch with reality.  You may feel a disconnect between yourself and the outside world.

If your upper chakras are overactive, the way to bring them back into balance is through working on the lower chakras.

Grounding exercises strengthen the root chakra and the root chakra is foundational to creating a well-balanced energy system.

Look at the lower chakras and upper chakras as a whole 

It’s important to look at the energy system as a whole.  All the chakras are interconnected.

Working with any one chakra and doing healing or clearing work will have an effect on the other chakras.

Everything is connected and interconnected with each other and the things that we do on one level are automatically going to flow through onto the other level.

This is why doing inner healing and inner work is fundamental to us creating happy and balanced lives, because when we work on healing different core wounds it gives a benefit to all areas of our life.

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Healing The Lower Chakras For Highly Sensitive People (Hsp)

Highly sensitive people (HSP) can benefit especially from lower chakra healing.

We are so much more than our physical bodies. We also have energetic bodies. 

In the same way that our physical bodies can become sick due to stress, anxiety, a passive lifestyle or not eating the right types of food, our energy body also becomes unwell and imbalanced by some of the things that we experience in life.

This post is part 1 of a 2-part series on healing the chakra system, especially for HSPs.

In part 1 we are going to focus on the three lower chakras.

What chakras do

I will start by giving you an overview of the chakra system.

The chakras are energy centers.

Think of them centers in your body that organizes the movement of energy – how we receive energy and also how we transmit energy.

Throughout our body we have got energy pathways or nadis.

Where these energy pathways intersect with each other you find a chakra.

7 Main chakras

Starting at the bottom of your spine and moving upwards they are

  • Root – safety and security
  • Sacral – creativity and sensuality
  • Solar plexus – self-worth and personal power
  • Heart – love
  • Throat – self-expression and communication
  • Third eye – awareness
  •  Crown – Spirituality

Because of our sensitivity to energy and stimuli in our environment, lower chakra healing for the HSP is a useful practice to support healing.

I found it a useful tool in my toolbox or self-care and personal wellbeing.

If you want to watch this on Youtube, you can click here.

An imbalance in the chakra system

Generally speaking, when your chakras are unbalanced it means that the energy doesn’t flow through the body and through the energy pathways in the best way possible.

Our memories, beliefs and stories about our past can be stored in the chakras and these may cause blocks or imbalances.

It is possible to clear these blockages through inner healing, developing new supportive habits and creating new ways of thinking.

Affirmations are one of the tools that you can use to help balance your chakras and clear out some of the limiting beliefs that might be stuck in there. 

Healing the physical, emotional and spiritual body.

Our chakras don’t only relate to our emotional state.

There are also physical illnesses that can show up as a result of our chakras being out of balance.

Some of the most common examples are digestive issues, heart problems, sugar problems, problems with your feet, your legs and problems with your teeth.

All of these can be traced back to an energetic imbalance in the body.

So, not only are we beginning to heal our emotional and our spiritual body when we work with the chakras but also our physical body and some of the physical symptoms that we have.

Whether we identify as being highly sensitive or not we all are made up of energy.  We all have these energetic pathways and chakras, so really, everyone benefits from balancing and working with their energy centers.

Healing the Root chakra

The first chakra, or Root chakra is located at the base of your spine.

The root chakra is connected to the element of earth and this chakra has everything to do with physical and earthly matters.

This is our chakra center that is focused on matters of survival, our safety and our security.

Highly sensitive people are by nature of our trait overstimulated quite easily as we are sensitive to stimuli in our environment.

This can show up as not feeling secure or feeling unsafe,  which is directly related to the root chakra.

Our root chakra is also where we ground into the earth.

Now, HSPs tend to spend a lot of time in their heads.

We tend to overthink things, and so we spend much of our energy in our upper chakras, leading to feeling ungrounded.

Spending time in our heads means that we are not really connected into our bodies.  I’ve spoken before about how making time for grounding as part of our self-care ritual is so important to help reduce overthinking.

Some other things relating to our root chakra is our financial stability, our career,  and our sense of belonging. Lower chakra healing as an HSP will also benefit these areas of your life.

Being highly sensitive, we often feel different from everyone else.  We notice how others are so different to us in the way that they think and feel, and this can make us feel as if we don’t fit in anywhere.

This can contribute even more to not feeling safe and secure in our environment and relationships.

The things that you can do to bring some more balance to the root chakra is to practice grounding techniques and exercises that will connect you to your body and breath, like yoga.  

Any activity connecting the body to the earth is grounding.  Try stomping your feet, or mindful walking.

Healing the Sacral chakra

The Sacral chakra is located just below your navel.

It is our center for creativity, joy and for playfulness.

When this chakra is imbalanced you’re typically going to find very rigid thinking patterns.

Being stuck in repeating the same routine and being very inflexible in the things that you do are big signs of this chakra needing more balance.

Also, another sign that this chakra is out of balance is that you have a hard time relaxing, playing and taking down-time.

Highly sensitive people might often struggle with issues around self-trust and also with trusting others.

HSPs compare themselves to how the other 80% of the people in the world do things, and wrongly come to the conclusion that there must be something wrong with them because they are so different to the 80%.

They come to believe that they feel “too much” and respond “too intensely’ leading them to distrust their feelings.

Something that not many HSPs or empaths know, is that our sacral chakra feels the emotions of other people.

When this happens, we are often not  to tell our feelings from someone else’s.

A good activity to do is to learn how to create strong energy boundaries, an important part of lower chakra healing as an HSP.

Learn how to strengthen your energetic boundaries so that you don’t take on the feelings of other people!

Something else that you can do that’s going to help bring this sacral chakra into balance is to learn how to play more.

You want to learn to be more flexible and not be so strict with yourself.

This is our chakra center for joyful and creative expression, and learning how to play more is also such an important part of self-care.

Healing the Solar Plexus chakra

The solar plexus chakra is the seat of your personal power.

This chakra governs your personal power, your sense of self, your self-worth, your confidence and your right to be here and take action.

You might have often heard that you “shouldn’t be so sensitive” or “don’t cry so much” or “don’t overreact that way, 

Growing up, when you continue to hear these messages, you might begin to develop shame about who you are.

Shame is one of the things that brings the solar plexus chakra out of balance.

No-one likes feeling criticized but HSPs really take criticism to heart .

Because then we see it as a reflection of who we are as a person, it can lead to creating an imbalance in the solar plexus chakra.

As an HSP, lower chakra healing, especially of the solar plexus, can start by you giving yourself permission to be you.

It means that you accept all parts of yourself, even those sensitive parts because that is what makes you, you.

And secondly, in that acceptance you also take action.

The solar plexus is the center from which action happens, and you strengthen it by taking action.

Healing the lower chakras as a HSP

Our chakras are representative of our entire life,  so if you in your physical life find that you are struggling with limiting beliefs or habits and self-sabotaging behaviors, you will find that clearing the lower chakras will help you heal and create change.

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5 Signs You’re A Highly Sensitive Extrovert

Do you suspect that you’re a highly sensitive person but you haven’t really been able to get your head around the idea that apparently you need to be an introvert? 

Have you always thought of yourself as an extrovert that’s too sensitive?

You might be a  highly sensitive extrovert and today I want to help you identify if that is indeed the case.

It’s an important distinction to make.

When you understand that the conflict that you are experiencing is as a result of your high sensitivity and your extroversion you can begin to manage it.

You can kind of marry the two and then find a way to make it work for you.

What is a Highly Sensitive Person

Let’s talk a bit about what it means if you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP). 

I’m only going to cover it briefly, I’ve created several videos about this topic which you can view on my Youtube channel.

Really, highly sensitive people have a super sensitive nervous system

  1. We tend to process information deeply so we think deeply about things,
  2. We are quite sensitive to the information around us and the subtleties in our environment.  So, we’re quite aware of things that other people might not pick up,
  3. We are very empathetic which means that we cry easily,
  4. And finally, because we process information so deeply and we absorb so much from our environment, we can get overwhelmed quickly by novel things.

The brains of highly sensitive people work differently from the brains of non-sensitive people.  It is not a disorder and there is nothing wrong with you that needs to be fixed!

High sensitivity is an innate trait which means that we are born like this.   We don’t become like this through our life experiences.

Regarding the numbers, highly sensitive people are by far in the minority as we make up only 15%-20% of the population.  That’s about 1 in 5 people.  

It could explain why it happens that we are so misunderstood and why our sensitivity is often criticized or judged.

Researching this trait of high sensitivity is a relatively new field.

I for one, am very happy that people are starting to learn more about sensitivity and it’s becoming more mainstream.  

Introvert or Extrovert 

The best definition that I know of is: 

  • an introvert gets energized by spending time with themselves, and
  • an extrovert gets energized by spending time with other people.

You can probably see the challenge here:  as a highly sensitive person you need that alone time but as an extrovert, you need to spend time with people.

Highly sensitive extroverts make up only about 30% of the highly sensitive population.

That’s a teeny tiny percentage of us that are extroverts!

I think that’s maybe why we’ve been overlooked a little bit.

If you look at social media and at all of the things that are written and spoken about high sensitivity,  I feel like a lot of it is aimed and targeted at the introverted highly sensitive person.

So, those of us that are definitely a lot more extroverted don’t always know if we can be highly sensitive too because there are things there that just don’t seem to fit!

5 Signs that You’re a Highly Sensitive Person

1. You become restless when you’re alone for too long

You enjoy being on your own and you feel recharged when you spend time in contemplation or thinking about things.  

However,  you are alone for too long a period of time, then you begin to feel restless.  You can begin to feel unmotivated and lethargic,  and you might even feel a little bit depressed if you spend too much time on your own.

But then when you go find some engagement and social activities, you soon can start feeling overstimulated.  

The main difference here between the introverted highly sensitive person and the extroverted highly sensitive person is that introverts really love spending time on their own, where for the extroverted highly sensitive person it’s more of a necessity.

That’s not typical for extroverted people, but if the highly sensitive extrovert doesn’t create that it can begin to affect them negatively in how they process the things happening in their world.

2. You’re always the first person to leave an event

You enjoy going to events, but you are the person who always leaves early!

This was definitely the case for me when my kids were younger and I used to participate in these mommy-toddler groups.

I used to enjoy being there but I could only be there for a little while and then I was always the first one to leave.

I remember feeling conflicted because I didn’t want to miss out on the fun, but I had a really hard time staying there as long as some of the other moms!

When I began to learn about my high sensitivity it started making sense that I wasn’t anti-social,  it was just that I reached a level of overstimulation and it was then time for me to retreat.

3. You find relief in talking about your feelings

Usually what you read about highly sensitive people seems to infer that we prefer writing in a journal to talking about our feelings.

A sign that you’re a highly sensitive extrovert is if you prefer to talk about your problems and verbally express the things going on in your mind as opposed to writing them out.

You might jot down a couple of things and make a few notes to order what’s going on in your mind.

But,  you definitely feel a lot more relief and get more insight when you talk about what’s going on for you as opposed to just simply writing it down in a journal and expressing it in that way.

4. You want novel experiences but you avoid taking risks

You crave new experiences and you want to experience novel, exciting things but you don’t want to risk yourself doing it.

People might even see you as a spoilsport because there are many things you won’t participate in even though it’s something you want to do.

That’s why it’s so important for you to learn not only about your trait of being a highly sensitive person but also to identify if you are an extroverted or an introverted highly sensitive person.

If you’re not aware that you are actually an extrovert even though you’re HSP you can experience all of this inner conflict when you want to try new things and participate in activities that will honour that extroverted part of you but the highly sensitive part of you goes No ways!

5. You crash and burn quickly, often without warning

It works like this: You’re the soul of the party and then all of a sudden you crash and burn.

Typically, you enjoy being in the company of other people and spending time in social activities.  You’re also good with people, a good listener and you are engaging.

Until you suddenly hit a brick wall of overstimulation.

This is because while we’re engaging with people and having fun,  our nervous systems are processing so much information until it is too much all of a sudden.

When you know this about yourself, you will be able to pull back before you hit that wall.  

Learn how to manage your energy better. This will ensure that you can still participate in these things and honor your extroverted side but you will honor the highly sensitive side of you as well, and withdraw before you become overstimulated.

TERTIA RIEGLER

If we want to live healthy, balanced, and satisfying lives as HSPs we need to understand how to manage our own energy.

It is our responsibility to figure out how can we best fit into what is already existing in the world in a way that allows us to thrive.

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