Tertia Riegler

Feminine Embodiment Coach

highly sensitive person

ARE YOU FEELING EMOTIONALLY DRAINED? TRY THESE PRACTICES.

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Feeling emotionally drained is a theme that has recently come up in my own life and in this post, I want to share with you some of the practices I use to support me when this happens.

Looking back at 2020, nobody expected it would be such a very hard, demanding, and ruthless year in so many aspects.  

We have to really dig deep and stay true to who we are to be able to ride this wave but this is not always easy.   These are then some of the practices that I use in my own life to help me ride the wave and help me deal with feeling emotionally drained.

Recently, I was doing research on holiday stress, as a blog topic. 

It’s nearing the end of the year and typically this is the time of year when most of us are experiencing even more stress than usual.

While doing this, I realized that I was feeling many different emotions about the past year.  

Most notably, I was feeling a lot of resentment and anger.

I was also feeling exhausted and emotionally drained from connecting to what is going on in the outside world.

The problem with this is when you are so connected into the story of what is happening out there you’re leaving yourself powerless.

Watch this video on Feeling Emotionally Drained on my YouTube channel.

An insight from my past

I want to tell you a story to put this into perspective.

Many years ago I was going through quite a difficult patch in my life.

On this one particular evening I was lying in the bath and had a cry-fest.

I remember being very sad and sobbing my heart out.

I was just crying about the world,  I was crying about my own life and  I was crying about the people in my life.

I then had a very interesting and illuminating experience. 

While crying one part of me started observing myself as I was lying there, in the bath, sobbing.  

This observer did not have any emotional feelings or any attachments to what I was seeing.  It was merely being very curious.

I curiously looked at what I was crying over and observed how I was crying.  I also noticed the emotions I was feeling.

Looking back, there were 3 aspects or timelines at play here.  

The first was the present reality where I was in the bath.  The second was that I was crying over something that I was thinking and feeling about and the third aspect was that I was observing myself doing this.

This was a pivotal turning point in my life as I realized that I was not the crier.

I was the crier and the observer.

What became very clear for me while I was observing myself crying like this is that I was completely stuck in the story of my life.

The reality was that I was in a bath that was very comfortable and warm but in my mind and in my emotions I was in a completely different  place.

I   had completely bought into the belief that I am powerless and that there were not many options.  I felt exhausted, helpless, like a victim, and that nobody understood me.

I felt I needed to control my world in order to feel safe.

I wonder if you took a look at your life, if you would find any places where you too are stuck in story?  Where you are feeling emotionally drained?

Are there areas where you believe you have no power, where you feel victimized, and without any choices?

Getting out of story when you’re feeling emotionally drained

Connecting to your breath is one of the things that will bring you into the present moment.

When we are stuck in story it holds us either in the past or it holds us in the future.

Your breath is in the present moment because our body lives in the present moment!

So, one of the fastest most effective ways that I know of to connect to your body and into the present moment,  to become mindful of the present moment, is to connect with your breath.

In my experience, a very good time to do this is the first thing when you wake up in the morning.

Usually,  as soon as we wake up we tend to engage with the story of who and by connection with the breath as a conscious practice you can loosen the threads of the story.

How to consciously connect to your breath

The way that you connect with your breath is very easy.

Try this, tomorrow morning while you’re lying in bed still with your eyes closed.

Lay one hand on your heart and simply focus on the sound and the sensation of your breath as you inhale and exhale.

This is a powerful technique to disengage you from the story that you have running in your mind.

Start to do this regularly every morning when you wake up before you do anything else before you begin to think about who you are and where you fit into the world.

Use meditation to become mindful of the present

I talk about meditation quite often in my videos and here on my blog.

I believe that it is an incredibly helpful tool to get you centered and grounded.

However, here is the thing.   When I try to meditate when I’m feeling emotionally drained, I end up feeling more anxious.

I seem to have all of the anxiety driven thoughts and fears flooding my brain and body.

I kept on trying out different things and then I discovered that if I give my mind something to do then it allows those thoughts to calm down.

The meditation technique that I use that helps me the most is a body scan meditation.

We are more powerful than we think

We are so much more powerful than we give ourselves credit for.

We let ourselves become emotionally drained and mentally drained by all of the stories that we buy into.

The moment that your thinking mind or your story mind begins to run the show is the moment where you lose your power.

These practices to help you when you’re feeling emotionally drained will begin to restore your personal power, one day at a time.

HEALING THE UPPER CHAKRAS FOR HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE

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This is Part 2 of the series on healing the chakras for Highly Sensitive People (HSP).  In Part 2 we discuss the upper chakras.  If you haven’t read part 1 yet, you might want to do that first.

I prefer to use the term upper chakras simply because higher chakras makes it sound as if the top chakras are better than the lower chakras.

Since the lower chakras are foundational to a healthy and well-balanced energy system, it is an important distinction to make.

The upper chakras that we’ll be discussing today then the heart chakra, throat chakra, third eye chakra and the crown chakra.

A note before we start: This information serves as a general guideline for you to find a point to start to work with the chakras and the energy system as a whole.

You can watch the video on healing the upper chakras for highly sensitive people on Youtube

The Heart Chakra

The heart chakra is in the center of the 7 chakras, and connects your upper chakras with your lower chakras.  It is also the center of who we are.

The theme of the heart chakra is love and connection.

The heart chakras of highly sensitive people (HSP) could be overactive.  HSPs often put others ahead of themselves and this could cause the heart chakra to become imbalanced.  

It could show up as problems with setting boundaries and neglecting of the self, where you neglect taking care of your own needs. 

If you are overactive in one chakra, you might find that the 2 neighboring chakras are underactive.

Perhaps you don’t speak up for yourself which relates to the throat chakra.

Or, you might suppress your stronger feelings such as anger, and avoid confrontation which relates to the solar plexus.

To heal the heart chakra, you have to strengthen and balance your root chakra, solar plexus chakra, and throat chakra.

When you bring the solar plexus and throat chakras into balance, it will strengthen and open your heart chakra.  The chakras never work in isolation as they are interconnected.

A closed heart chakra

Your HSP sensitivity to the responses of others can also lead to the heart chakra closing down.

If you’ve been hurt one time to many times, you may do this in an attempt to protect yourself

But, by shutting out the pain of the world and everyone in it, we also shut down our own feelings.

A closed heart chakra prevents you from feeling peace, joy and centeredness.

The first step  in opening your heart chakra is to practice forgiveness.

Forgive yourself and forgive others.   When we forgive someone we release the energetic attachment to that person or event.  You don’t condone what happened, and you gain freedom.

A second part of opening your heart is to make self-care a regular part of your life.  Through practicing self-care you begin to honor your needs.

And finally, and perhaps most importantly – when you do this inner work (as much of this content on my blog is about), you begin to heal and balance your energy centers.

Working on inner child healing and core wound healing is not easy to do on your own, and this is where working with a Coach or Practitioner is very helpful.

The Throat Chakra

The throat chakra is the center of our authentic expression.

This energy center is all about communication and about speaking our truth.

Imbalances in the throat chakra may show up in the form of thyroid problems, or any problems with the throat, the neck, and the shoulders.

Growing up there are many things that teach HSPs to be quiet and not speak up or stand up for themselves. 

HSPs are very conscientious about the feelings of others.

So, in avoiding hurting the feelings of others the HSP shuts their own communication down.  

Most HSPs I know have some struggles around people-pleasing.  

Because the HSP is so aware of the moods and the subtleties when engaging with other people, they are very aware of not rocking the boat too much.

To heal the throat chakra and step fully into your authenticity, you have to speak your truth.

Begin by voicing your opinions and standing up for yourself and the things you believe in. 

Connect to your purpose

The throat chakra is connected to our purpose.

I believe that our purpose unfolds within us when we are aligned with our own truth.

By doing the inner work, aligning with your essence, and doing the healing your life purpose begins to unfold organically as a result.

A practice that will begin to activate this upper chakra for the highly sensitive person is to be your word.

Being your word means that you do what you said you will do, and when you said you will do it.

It is a cornerstone of taking responsibility for your life and the choices you make.

When you become your word, you treat your word as sacred.

When we make a commitment to someone else,  or to ourselves, we honor that commitment and follow through on it.

You avoid telling white lies even if you are trying to make someone else feel better (A habit of HSPs is trying to make others feel better!)

Standing your personal power in this way, also strengthens the solar plexus.  

Often, HSPs tend to overcommit in their attempt to be helpful and nice.  This relates to weakness in both the solar plexus and throat chakras, and is another opportunity for doing deeper work.

The Third Eye Chakra and Crown Chakra

Now we are moving into the spiritual dimension when we look at these two upper chakras.

Your root chakra up to your throat chakra is more connected to the physical and the third eye chakra and the crown chakra are more connected to the spiritual dimension.

The third eye chakra which is located between the brows on your forehead is your connection to intuition.

HSPs are naturally more intuitive and sensing subtleties is one of the key traits of being a highly sensitive person. 

So, this ability to be more sensitive and the other HSP trait of overthinking and intellectualizing can cause the HSP to spend a lot of time in these upper chakras.

The crown chakra is our connection to the Divine.

This is where we remember that we are not separate but that we are one.  We are connected to each other and connected to the Divine.

As I said, HSPs can spend a lot of energy and time in these energy centers and the result is that you may feel ungrounded.

You might describe it as being spacey, flaky, ungrounded or even out of touch with reality.  You may feel a disconnect between yourself and the outside world.

If your upper chakras are overactive, the way to bring them back into balance is through working on the lower chakras.

Grounding exercises strengthen the root chakra and the root chakra is foundational to creating a well-balanced energy system.

Look at the lower chakras and upper chakras as a whole 

It’s important to look at the energy system as a whole.  All the chakras are interconnected.

Working with any one chakra and doing healing or clearing work will have an effect on the other chakras.

Everything is connected and interconnected with each other and the things that we do on one level are automatically going to flow through onto the other level.

This is why doing inner healing and inner work is fundamental to us creating happy and balanced lives, because when we work on healing different core wounds it gives a benefit to all areas of our life.

HEALING THE LOWER CHAKRAS FOR HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE (HSP)

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Highly sensitive people (HSP) can benefit especially from lower chakra healing.

We are so much more than our physical bodies. We also have energetic bodies. 

In the same way that our physical bodies can become sick due to stress, anxiety, a passive lifestyle or not eating the right types of food, our energy body also becomes unwell and imbalanced by some of the things that we experience in life.

This post is part 1 of a 2-part series on healing the chakra system, especially for HSPs.

In part 1 we are going to focus on  the three lower chakras.

What chakras do

I will start by giving you an overview of the chakra system.

The chakras are energy centers.

Think of them centers in your body that organizes the movement of energy – how we receive energy and also how we transmit energy.

Throughout our body we have got energy pathways or nadis.

Where these energy pathways intersect with each other you find a chakra.

7 Main chakras

Starting at the bottom of your spine and moving upwards they are

  • Root – safety and security
  • Sacral – creativity and sensuality
  • Solar plexus – self-worth and personal power
  • Heart – love
  • Throat – self-expression and communication
  • Third eye – awareness
  •  Crown – Spirituality

Because of our sensitivity to energy and stimuli in our environment, lower chakra healing for the HSP is a useful practice to support healing.

I found it a useful tool in my toolbox or self-care and personal wellbeing.

If you want to watch this on Youtube, you can click here.

An imbalance in the chakra system

Generally speaking, when your chakras are unbalanced it means that the energy doesn’t flow through the body and through the energy pathways in the best way possible.

Our memories, beliefs and stories about our past can be stored in the chakras and these may cause blocks or imbalances.

It is possible to clear these blockages through inner healing, developing new supportive habits and creating new ways of thinking.

Affirmations are one of the tools that you can use to help balance your chakras and clear out some of the limiting beliefs that might be stuck in there. 

Here are some affirmations that you can try for yourself.

Healing the physical, emotional and spiritual body.

Our chakras don’t only relate to our emotional state.

There are also physical illnesses that can show up as a result of our chakras being out of balance.

Some of the most common examples are digestive issues, heart problems, sugar problems, problems with your feet, your legs and problems with your teeth.

All of these can be traced back to an energetic imbalance in the body.

So, not only are we beginning to heal our emotional and our spiritual body when we work with the chakras but also our physical body and some of the physical symptoms that we have.

Whether we identify as being highly sensitive or not we all are made up of energy.  We all have these energetic pathways and chakras, so really, everyone benefits from balancing and working with their energy centers.

Healing the Root chakra

The first chakra, or Root chakra is located at the base of your spine.

The root chakra is connected to the element of earth and this chakra has everything to do with physical and earthly matters.

This is our chakra center that is focused on matters of survival, our safety and our security.

Highly sensitive people are by nature of our trait overstimulated quite easily as we are sensitive to stimuli in our environment.

This can show up as not feeling secure or feeling unsafe,  which is directly related to the root chakra.

Our root chakra is also where we ground into the earth.

Now, HSPs tend to spend a lot of time in their heads.

We tend to overthink things, and so we spend much of our energy in our upper chakras, leading to feeling ungrounded.

Spending time in our heads means that we are not really connected into our bodies.  I’ve spoken before about how making time for grounding as part of our self-care ritual is so important to help reduce overthinking.

Some other things relating to our root chakra is our financial stability, our career,  and our sense of belonging. Lower chakra healing as an HSP will also benefit these areas of your life.

Being highly sensitive, we often feel different from everyone else.  We notice how others are so different to us in the way that they think and feel, and this can make us feel as if we don’t fit in anywhere.

This can contribute even more to not feeling safe and secure in our environment and relationships.

The things that you can do to bring some more balance to the root chakra is to practice grounding techniques and exercises that will connect you to your body and breath, like yoga.  

Any activity connecting the body to the earth is grounding.  Try stomping your feet, or mindful walking.

Healing the Sacral chakra

The Sacral chakra is located just below your navel.

It is our center for creativity, joy and for playfulness.

When this chakra is imbalanced you’re typically going to find very rigid thinking patterns.

Being stuck in repeating the same routine and being very inflexible in the things that you do are big signs of this chakra needing more balance.

Also, another sign that this chakra is out of balance is that you have a hard time relaxing, playing and taking down-time.

Highly sensitive people might often struggle with issues around self-trust and also with trusting others.

HSPs compare themselves to how the other 80% of the people in the world do things, and wrongly come to the conclusion that there must be something wrong with them because they are so different to the 80%.

They come to believe that they feel “too much” and respond “too intensely’ leading them to distrust their feelings.

Something that not many HSPs or empaths know, is that our sacral chakra feels the emotions of other people.

When this happens, we are often not  to tell our feelings from someone else’s.

A good activity to do is to learn how to create strong energy boundaries, an important part of lower chakra healing as an HSP.

Learn how to strengthen your energetic boundaries so that you don’t take on the feelings of other people!

Something else that you can do that’s going to help bring this sacral chakra into balance is to learn how to play more.

You want to learn to be more flexible and not be so strict with yourself.

This is our chakra center for joyful and creative expression, and learning how to play more is also such an important part of self-care.

Healing the Solar Plexus chakra

The solar plexus chakra is the seat of your personal power.

This chakra governs your personal power, your sense of self, your self-worth, your confidence and your right to be here and take action.

You might have often heard that you “shouldn’t be so sensitive” or “don’t cry so much” or “don’t overreact that way, 

Growing up, when you continue to hear these messages, you might begin to develop shame about who you are.

Shame is one of the things that brings the solar plexus chakra out of balance.

No-one likes feeling criticized but HSPs really take criticism to heart .

Because then we see it as a reflection of who we are as a person, it can lead to creating an imbalance in the solar plexus chakra.

As an HSP, lower chakra healing, especially of the solar plexus, can start by you giving yourself permission to be you.

It means that you accept all parts of yourself, even those sensitive parts because that is what makes you, you.

And secondly, in that acceptance you also take action.

The solar plexus is the center from which action happens, and you strengthen it by taking action.

Healing the lower chakras as a HSP

Our chakras are representative of our entire life,  so if you in your physical life find that you are struggling with limiting beliefs or habits and self-sabotaging behaviors, you will find that clearing the lower chakras will help you heal and create change.

5 SIGNS THAT SHOW YOU’RE A HIGHLY SENSITIVE EXTROVERT

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Do you suspect that you’re a highly sensitive person but you haven’t really been able to get your head around the idea that apparently you need to be an introvert? 

Have you always thought of yourself as an extrovert that’s too sensitive?

You might be a  highly sensitive extrovert and today I want help you identify if that is indeed the case.

It’s an important distinction to make.

When you understand that the conflict that you are experiencing is as a result of your high sensitivity and your extroversion you can begin to manage it.

You can kind of marry the two and then find a way to make it work for you.

What is a Highly Sensitive Person

Let’s talk a bit about what if means if you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP). 

I’m only going to cover it briefly, I’ve created several videos about this topic which you can view on my Youtube channel.

Really, highly sensitive people have a super sensitive nervous system

  1. We tend to process information deeply so we think deeply about things,
  2. We are quite sensitive to the information around us and the subtleties in our environment.  So, we’re quite aware of things that other people might not pick up,
  3. We are very empathetic which means that we cry easily,
  4. And finally, because we process information so deeply and we absorb so much from our environment, we can get overwhelmed quickly by novel things.

The brains of highly sensitive people work differently to the brains of non-sensitive people.  It is not a disorder and there is nothing wrong with you that needs to be fixed!

High sensitivity is an innate trait which means that we are born like this.   We don’t become like this through our life experiences.

Regarding the numbers, highly sensitive people are by far in the minority as we make up only 15%-20% of the population.  That’s about 1 in 5 people.  

It could explain why it happens that we are so misunderstood and why our sensitivity is often criticized or judged.

Researching this trait of high sensitivity is a relatively new field.

I for one, am very happy that people are starting to learn more about sensitivity and it’s becoming more mainstream.  

Introvert or Extrovert 

The best definition that I know of is: 

  • an introvert gets energized by spending time with themselves, and
  • an extrovert gets energized by spending time with other people.

You can probably see the challenge here:  as a highly sensitive person you need that alone time but as an extrovert, you need to spend time with people.

Highly sensitive extroverts make up only about 30% of the highly sensitive population.

That’s a teeny tiny percentage of us that are extroverts!

I think that’s maybe why we’ve been overlooked a little bit.

If you look at social media and at all of the things that are written and spoken about high sensitivity,  I feel like a lot of it is aimed and targeted at the introverted highly sensitive person.

So, those of us that are definitely a lot more extroverted don’t always know if we can be highly sensitive too because there are things there that just don’t seem to fit!

5 Signs that you’re a Highly Sensitive Person

1. You become restless when you’re alone for too long

You enjoy being on your own and you feel recharged when you spend time in contemplation or thinking about things.  

However,  you are alone for too long a period of time, then you begin to feel restless.  You can begin to feel unmotivated and lethargic,  and you might even feel a little bit depressed if you spend too much time on your own.

But then when you go find some engagement and social activities, you soon can start feeling overstimulated.  

The main difference here between the introverted highly sensitive person and the extroverted highly sensitive person is that introverts really love spending time on their own, where for the extroverted highly sensitive person it’s more of a necessity.

That’s not typical for extroverted people, but if the highly sensitive extrovert doesn’t create that it can begin to affect them negatively in how they process the things happening in their world.

2. You’re always the first person to leave an event

You enjoy going to events, but you are the person who always leaves early!

This was definitely the case for me when my kids were younger and I used to participate in these mommy-toddler groups.

I used to enjoy being there but I could only be there for a little while and then I was always the first one to leave.

I remember feeling conflicted because I didn’t want to miss out on the fun, but I had a really hard time staying there as long as some of the other moms!

When I began to learn about my high sensitivity it started making sense that I wasn’t anti-social,  it was just that I reached a level of overstimulation and it was then time for me to retreat.

3. You find relief in talking about your feelings

Usually what you read about highly sensitive people seems to infer that we prefer writing in a journal to talking about our feelings.

A sign that you’re a highly sensitive extrovert is if you prefer to talk about your problems and verbally express the things going on in your mind as opposed to writing it out.

You might jot down a couple of things and make a few notes to order what’s going on in your mind.

But,  you definitely feel a lot more relief and get more insight when you talk about what’s going on for you as opposed to just simply writing it down in a journal and expressing it in that way.

4. You want novel experiences but you avoid taking risks

You crave new experiences and you want to experience novel, exciting things but you don’t want to risk yourself doing it.

People might even see you as a spoilsport because there are many things you won’t participate in even though it’s something you want to do.

That’s why it’s so important for you to learn not only about your trait of being a highly sensitive person but also to identify if you are an extroverted or an introverted highly sensitive person.

If you’re not aware that you are actually an extrovert even though you’re HSP you can experience all of this inner conflict when you want to try new things and participate in activities that will honor that extroverted part of you but the highly sensitive part of you goes No ways!

5. You crash and burn quickly, often without warning

It works like this: You’re the soul of the party and then all of a sudden you crash and burn.

Typically, you enjoy being in the company of other people and spending time in social activities.  You’re also good with people, a good listener and you are engaging.

Until you suddenly hit a brick wall of overstimulation.

This is because while we’re engaging with people and having fun,  our nervous systems are processing so much information until it is too much all of a sudden.

When you know this about yourself, you will be able to pull back before you hit that wall.  

Learn how to manage your energy better. This will ensure that you can still participate in these things and honor your extroverted side but you will honor the highly sensitive side of you as well, and withdraw before you become overstimulated.

TERTIA RIEGLER

If we want to live healthy, balanced, and satisfying lives as HSPs we need to understand how to manage our own energy.

It is our responsibility to figure out how can we best fit into what is already existing in the world in a way that allows us to thrive.

GUIDED EVENING MEDITATION FOR HIGHLY SENSITIVES AND EMPATHS

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As highly sensitive people and empaths, it is vital that we clear our physical and energetic bodies daily to remove all the energy and emotions that don’t belong to us, and that can keep us stuck. Cleansing meditations like these, are both healing and restoring.  

This is a practice I do myself and I also teach to my clients.  I’ve created this guided meditation especially for empaths and highly sensitive people (HSP)  so that you can learn how to clear your own energy and practice energy healing on yourself.  You can do this every evening if you want!

Thank you for doing this guided meditation with me! I have some more videos on Highly Sensitive People and Empaths that you might enjoy.

You can click on this link to my YouTube playlist.

If you enjoyed this, then please share it with your friends!

Guided Evening Meditation for Highly Sensitives and Empaths | As highly sensitive persons and empaths it is vital that we clear our physical and energetic bodies daily to remove all the energy and emotions that don’t belong to us, or that keep us stuck. Cleansing meditations for empaths and meditation for overwhelm are both healing and restoring. This is a practice I do myself and I also teach to my clients. I’ve created this guided meditation especially for empaths and highly sensitive people (hsp) to show you how to clear yourself and practice energy healing on yourself. You can do this every evening if you want!

ARE YOU A HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON? DEFINITE SIGNS AND TIPS TO COPE

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If you’re feeling constantly frazzled or like everything is getting on your nerves you could be highly sensitive. Here, you will discover the signs to know for sure! In addition you’ll also learn some tips to help you manage your high sensitivity.

I’m a highly sensitive person and I know exactly what it feels like to think that you’re going crazy or that something’s the matter with you and I want to share with you my top strategies to help you manage this sensitive side of you which is actually a gift.

You can watch the video I made about the signs of being highly sensitive and my top tips to cope here.

What does being a highly sensitive person mean?

Chances are you landed on this page because you  probably already suspect that you are highly sensitive.  Let me then start by saying that there’s nothing wrong with you!  

You don’t have a condition, you don’t have an illness or a disease.   It’s not something that’s broken about you.  You don’t have anything that needs to be fixed.

Being a highly sensitive person simply means that we experience the things that happen to us in our outside world and in our inner world a little, or a lot, more differently to other people.  

Also,  and not all HSPs are shy and introverted some of us are extroverted and outgoing. 

The thing with being highly sensitive though is, because we feel everything so intensely, we are more prone to shutting ourselves off.  We easily disconnect from the world and close our hearts to protect ourselves from feeling pain.  

However there is a better way, and I want to show you how.  

Common signs of highly sensitive people

There are 4 main traits or signs that HSPs have in common and the first is the way that we process information so we process information very deeply and this is something that happens in our brain.

Depth of processing

Imagine there is a volume button that is in your brain and everything that you experience through your five senses is really amplified

Because we process information so deeply and so intensely we also end up spending a lot of time in our heads and we tend to overanalyze everything, such as the things that people say and the things that happen to us

We spend a lot of time analyzing this and we can also become self-critical and afraid of making mistakes, so we turn into perfectionists.

We don’t want to make any decisions, or we take a long time to make decisions because we don’t want to make the wrong decision because we think about it too much!.

Now, because we think about all these things too much (because our brain amplifies everything) we end up becoming easily overstimulated. 

Overstimulation

And we really get overstimulated by almost everything it’s like our brain doesn’t have a filter and because we take in so much information. 

This can lead to us easily becoming ungrounded or feeling spacey.

Emotional reactivity

A highly sensitive person  has high emotional responses and we’re usually also very empathetic so what this means is that we feel things very strongly.

We have a very strong emotional reaction to other people’s words, to their actions, to the things that happen in the world.  We also react strongly to  the things that we think about ourselves and the conversations that we have with ourselves.

We can also pick up information from other people because we are so sensitive and so reactive, and then we can easily think that we’ve upset other people if we feel their moods

The challenge is, because you’re taking on so much energy from other people, that it can make you feel exhausted and it can even leave you feeling burnt out.

Sensing the subtle

The fourth sign of being a highly sensitive person is that we are really good at sensing things.

We can pick up on  the things that are not said,  you can read between the lines you can also pick up on intentions of people. 

The downside again of this is often we assume the things that we pick up on is a reflection of us and we make it our own and that then affects us emotionally.

These traits don’t stand in isolation.  They all interact with each other and if any one of these aren’t managed, or if you’re not aware that this is something that could potentially upset you,  it really can have a negative effect on you.  

It can make you feel like you are going crazy or that no one understands you or that there’s something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. 

Tips to cope as a highly sensitive person

Here are some techniques that I regularly use myself ever since I found out that I was a highly sensitive person.

You can use them on a daily basis and they really will help you to understand your sensitivity trait but not only that, they will help you to cope so that instead of you being controlled by this way that your brain has been designed you can take back that control and you can decide how you want to show up in the world.

Develop awareness around your triggers

The first thing is to develop your awareness around your triggers.

All highly sensitive people differ from each other in that we have different response to stimulus.

That means that which is very arousing for you might not be so arousing for me and different things have different effects on us.

That’s why,  on this journey of discovering how you can manage this sensitivity trait  it’s important for you to identify what are your triggers so that you can then start taking control of that and you can start managing that. 

Alone time is one of the crucial things that’s going to help you build your resilience so that you can react more positively to these triggers.  When you manage your triggers you also manage these things that make you feel overwhelmed.

It doesn’t really matter at what time of day you choose to have this alone time, but it’s vital that you make this a daily practice.

The best time of day for me have alone time, since we have a young family, is before anyone else gets up in the morning.

I treasure this time,  and it really has made such a big difference in my life since I started doing this daily.

I use this time to do yoga, I meditate and journal and  I journal and I do whatever else I need in this space to help me feel anchored and grounded. 

Ground yourself

Because we spend so much time in our heads, it’s easy for us to disconnect from our bodies. By grounding yourself you literally bring yourself back into your body.

You connect with the earth so that you don’t feel so spacey.  Feeling spacey is actually one of the signs that you are not grounded.  Also when you feel floaty, or when you become clumsy.   

As you start developing your awareness around your triggers, you’ll also begin to notice when you are ungrounded. 

Protect yourself energetically

The third tip that I have for you is something which I’ve noticed not many people speak about and that is to protect yourself energetically.

In my experience, as much as I get affected on a physical or an emotional level by being highly sensitive,  I also get affected energetically.

Protecting yourself energetically  will strengthen your resilience and it would also help to protect you against this onslaught and this battering that we sometimes feel because of all the information that we’re getting from external sources.

Step 1

Imagine or visualize or feel a white light shining down on your energy body.   Let this light  heal all the bumps, holes, tears and the hooks that you have on your energy body because of your exposure to the world. 

Also let it wash off all of the negative and heavy energy that you don’t need anymore.

Step 2

Take a deep breath in,  and as you breathe in you imagine that you are pushing your energy body or your aura a few feet away from you. Hold the intention that it is strong and powerful.

Step 3

Imagine a bubble of light surrounding you.  This can be a golden light, it can be a pink light it can be a white light that doesn’t really matter. Imagine that this light is all around you covering you from the top of your head to underneath your feet.

It is protecting you and it’s stopping anything from coming inside that you don’t want to enter into your energy field.

You can do this when you have a shower in the mornings or before you leave your house or even before you go into a meeting. 

Do this anytime throughout the day when you feel that you need some protection and that your energy is feeling a little bit ragged. 

Daily energy balance

Doing a daily energy healing and energy balancing make a difference in your inner strength and mastery.

I love the work of Donna Eden, and you will find her five-minute morning routine on youtube. 

Setting boundaries

The final tip that I have for you that’s going to help you cope with your high sensitivity is to create strong boundaries.

We don’t want to erect a wall and disconnect instead we want to open our hearts with boundaries!

Setting strong boundaries means that, because you know yourself and you know what your triggers are, you can decide what you want to let into your world.  Also, you decide how you’re going to manage that when you let it in.