Tertia Riegler

Feminine Embodiment Coach

confidence

SECRETS OF RADIANT & MAGNETIC WOMEN

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Learn about the secrets to being confident, radiant and magnetic in every day life. In this video, we talk about the energy around being a confident woman and locking into your own self-worth.

I share with 4 secrets of radiant and magnetic women and how you can start cultivating that in your own life.

If you prefer to read instead, here is the transcript

Hey everyone and welcome back to another video. In today’s video, we are going to be talking about ways in which you can become a more radiant and magnetic woman. If this is the first time that you’re watching one of my videos then welcome. My name is Tertia, and I’m a feminine embodiment coach. And if you are a regular viewer, then welcome back. So I was having coffee the other day with a friend and we were talking about confidence, what it means to be confident, what it looks like to be confident and often what happens is we, we might tend to think that confidence is only reflected like outside, it’s reflected in the things that I do out there, but confidence comes from within. It’s an inherent feeling and energy that we carry within us. When we are locked into our own self worth, that’s when we can become radiant and magnetic in all areas of our lives.

So it doesn’t matter if you’re wanting to magnetize or have something physical, like a car or a house or a situation like a relationship or a new job, a career, or whether it’s a feeling that you want to magnetize such as feeling more abundant or feeling more resilient. Now, when I think about being radiant or being magnetic, the first thing that comes to mind for me is the ability to experience pleasure. So this is such a deep and sensitive topic. And as I always say in my videos, pleasure, the pleasure that I’m speaking of here is sensual pleasure. It can be sexual pleasure too, but it starts with sensual pleasure. And so often we don’t always get the skills, we don’t always get taught how to be fully in a pleasurable experience with our senses in the body. Now, internally you might experience some resistance to having pleasure, like you feel that you don’t deserve it, or you feel that there’s simply not time.

You’ve got other responsibilities to take care of. And something else that I also see with my clients is that they sometimes see pleasure as inconvenient. I can experience pleasure now, I can do something that that I enjoy, and that really fulfills all my senses, but then I’ve got to clean up afterwards. I’ve got to take time out of my day, which is going to make it more difficult for me to get to all of the things on my to- list or whatever the case may be. So pleasure becomes inconvenience. It becomes like a task that I need to tick off. And really the thing that we need to understand about experiencing pleasure is that that is our feminine birthright. Okay. If we really want to deepen into our feminine energy to access that feminine flow, then experiencing pleasure is one of the doorways into that.

So you can find pockets in your day that you can take a pleasure break. That’s something that I’ve started doing recently. And it’s really wonderful. So I learned it from Bonnie Bliss who’s a pleasure expert, and she’s one of my mentors. And that is like throughout your day, just pause for a moment and do something pleasurable for yourself. So it can either be feeling into your body, feeling into the muscles and just moving your body around a bit. It can be making yourself a cup of tea with intention. So bringing some mindfulness into that, but then allowing yourself to experience it through the senses. It could be just gently giving yourself a hand massage or a foot massage. So really looking for ways throughout the day to increase the pleasure that you are having. And what you’re gonna find is this will begin to build your pleasure capacity so that if you are experiencing these barriers and resistance, because it’s inconvenient or it takes up too much of your time, or you feel that you should first do all of the things that are required from you first finish all of your responsibilities before you can relax into experiencing something pleasurable or relax into doing something that you really enjoy.

When you begin to take these daily pleasure breaks, it’s going to increase your capacity and it’s gonna reduce those barriers. It’s gonna reduce the resistance. Okay. So that’s the first thing that comes to mind. When I think about being a radiant and a magnetic woman, is allowing yourself to experience that pleasure and to let that pleasure then flow out into all other areas of your life. The second thing that I think is gonna be so helpful for you, if you want to start building your radiance and magnetism is to learn that your triggers are gifts. Begin to view your triggers as doorways into deepening into the relationship with yourself. So for us to be truly radiant and magnetic, and to have that full life experience and step into our feminine flow, we have to be connected to our whole selves. We have to connect really into the depths of who we are.

And often we don’t like experiencing those undesirable sensations, those undesirable feelings, but those are actually the key to unlocking your radiance. It’s the key to unlocking your confidence so that you can show up in your most potent powerful, most feminine expression of yourself. So the third thing that I think is going to be so helpful is learning to uphold your boundaries. Now, boundaries here, I’m speaking both of emotional boundaries and our mental boundaries. We really struggle sometimes to uphold those boundaries again, because of the conditioning, because of our cultural situation. And also because of the way that we see ourselves. So your own self worth, your level of self love, your ability to be intimate with your own feelings and your own experiences is going to determine your ability to uphold boundaries. And often what happens with boundaries is if we are not able to uphold them we fluctuate between two ends.

So you either have your boundaries are leaky where you just give in and you overgive, and you sacrifice yourself at the cost of, or on the other hand, you’re very rigid in your boundaries and you stonewall and you don’t let anyone in, but then at the same time, as much as you don’t let anyone in, as much as you don’t allow any intimacy in, you also don’t allow any love and intimacy to go out. Now, one more thing that comes to my mind, if I imagine a radiant and magnetic woman, what comes to mind is that they feel very safe in their bodies. So there are so many things that cause us to not feel safe in our bodies, you know, through growing up again through our culture, through situations and events that might have happened to us. And in order for us to be able to attract into our lives, that what we want, whether it’s a relationship where a healthy relationship where there is good communication and where you feel truly fulfilled, or whether it’s a career path or any kind of life situation where you feel honored, where you’re respected, where you are able to like really show up as your true self and be loved.

You need to be able to feel safe in your own body first. And there are a few ways that you can begin to do this. Obviously, this is one of the things that I work a lot with with my clients, but really for you to begin to venture into feeling safe in the body, to landing into the body, I think what will be helpful for you are things like working on kindness and compassion towards yourself. So really beginning to reparent yourself, this is something that I spoke about in a video around self worth. So I’m going to link that video for you down in the description below. You can go take a look at that.

And something else that I want to add to this is also in order for us to really fully embrace who we are so that we can be confident and radiant, one of the things that we start with is by allowing and accepting all of us. Okay? So this is where some shadow work is going to be really helpful for you, where you can begin to integrate those shameful, shameful parts of ourselves that we suppress. I always speak a lot about the amount of energy that it requires to hide those undesirable aspects of ourselves. So when you start working with integrating all of these aspects of yourself, when you start bringing those shadows into the light, through inner child work, or through shadow work, or through embodiment practices, what’s gonna happen is you freeing up this life force energy, and then you can begin to direct this feminine flow into being more radiant, into being magnetic. And actually I’m saying that wrong. You don’t have to even direct it into being that you’re going to become that, it is going to be a natural result of, of freeing up these inner tensions that we carry inside.

So the bottom line that I want to share with you is that all of us have this ability, we all have this feminine flow, this feminine freedom, this feminine frequency inside of us, we all can be radiant and magnetic and confident and have those situations and peoples and feelings in our lives that we really want. And we can begin to do that by creating the deep, intimate connection with ourselves, by being able to uphold our boundaries by working with our triggers and allowing that to, to kind of guide us into what needs to be seen, what part of me needs to be heard and how can I honor myself in that. So I’d love to know how this video landed for you. Let me know in the comments below, share your thoughts. If you enjoyed it, give it a thumbs up, and then I’ll see you in the next video. Thank you so much for watching. Bye.

WHAT IS EMBODIED LIVING?

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In this video, I unpack what it means to stand in your truth and how that relates to our feminine power.

Many of us may experience putting productivity ahead of pleasure, but what we don’t realize is that this is a direct consequence of living in a hyper-masculine world. Living in an embodied way, counters this internalised capitalism and allows us to be in fuller self-expression.

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Now, you’re probably very familiar with the terms be authentic, stand in your truth, speak your truth, stop playing small. But I find that these terms can be quite vague. So in this video today, I want to unpack what standing in your truth means to me and how that relates to our feminine power. My name is Tertia. And on this channel, we talk about all things self-worth and self-love, feminine energy, femininity, pleasure, magnetism, and all the ways in which you can stand sovereign in your power. If that speaks to your soul, then I invite you to subscribe, join our community, and also make sure that you hit the little bell so you get notified each time that I upload a new video. So before we get into what standing in your truth looks like to me, I want to share a story with you. When I was preparing for this video, it was a couple of days ago, I was in my office at my desk and I was brainstorming and researching some ideas about videos that I wanted to make, but I was feeling very blocked and I didn’t really know how I wanted to express myself. And I was feeling very frustrated because I wasn’t getting anywhere. And I set a deadline for myself that by the end of that day, I needed to come up with a few ideas, at least. So I was thinking really, really very hard, but it didn’t seem to help very much. My thoughts kept on drifting to being outside because it was so beautiful. The sun was out. The sun hadn’t shone in a couple of days. So it was really a very beautiful day. So what I did is I closed my laptop and I went for a walk. Now, a few years ago, I never would’ve done that. What I would’ve done instead is I would’ve sat at my desk and I would’ve kept on thinking until I came up with something. But what happened is, as I went for my walk, I really relaxed. And I had all these ideas and creative expressions that flowed into me. Now, I first heard about the term or learned of the term internalized capitalism from Bonnie Bliss, who is a pleasure expert. And in the podcast that I was listening to, when she explained this internalized capitalism, I was like, “What? That’s a thing?” Because this has been so prevalent in my own life. And I thought that that was just the way that I was built. And I thought it was the way that I was made. So internalized capitalism says productivity above everything. Internalized capitalism makes us believe that there is no time for pleasure. It makes us think that pleasure is self-indulgent and something that is inconvenient and something that takes up a lot of time and doesn’t really add any value. And internalized capitalism tells us that we should only enjoy pleasure once all of the work is done. Now, the biggest problem that all of us experience with this internalized capitalism which, by the way, is a direct result of the hyper masculine world that we live in. So if you think like this, if you have this experience of being driven by productivity, then it is not a reflection of you as a person. It’s a reflection of what’s going on in the world at large. Now, here’s the biggest problem that we have with internalized capitalism. And that is not only do we put productivity above everything else, but we also connect our self-worth to our productivity. We connect our self-worth to our output. Now, the way that we typically address this productivity monster inside of us, and maybe you recognize this in yourself. So you know that you are driven by this urge to complete things and make sure that all the work is done, and that it is difficult for you to find any value in your day unless you can like tick off all the boxes. So you might recognize this in yourself and you also recognize that this is an unhealthy behavior because it makes you exhausted. It makes you so tired. And then what you do is you decide that you are now going to take better care of yourself. You are going to have regular self-care sessions. You are going to rest when your body is tired and you are going to put some boundaries in place in terms of how often and how fast you reply to your email, for example. And then you are able to do this for a short period of time. And before you know it, you go back into your own pattern or you go back into your old behavior. And the reason is because you’re trying to change this internalized capitalism, this productivity drive, we’re trying to change it from the level of the mind and it actually lives in the body. So here enters embodiment. Now, when I went for that walk, and I fully recognize that I have privilege where I can choose how to spend my days because I’m self-employed and not everybody can do it in the way that I did it, but that walk that I went for to allow my creativity to flow, to allow my body to experience and relax in a certain way, that is an embodied way of living. So I’ve made some videos on embodiment and disembodiment, and I’ll link them for you in the playlist below. So go and take a look at those after you’ve watched this video. So what embodiment means, in a nutshell, is it is to inhabit the body. So typically we spend most of our awareness in our minds. So you spend a lot of time thinking and you also end up thinking about your feelings and your emotions and your challenges more than what you feel them in the body. So embodiment means that we inhabit the body and that we are present to the feelings and the sensations that are in the body. And to me, embodiment also means that we become intimate with the body. We become intimate with all of the textures and the sensations and the feelings that reside within. And this is where our true feminine power lies. The feminine is flow and fluidity and expression and even chaos. And all of that is inside of us. That is part of our life force energy. So living in an embodied way allows us to really connect, and becoming intimate with ourselves means that we really dive deep. And we don’t only explore our tender hearts, but we also explore our deep fire and we come to face our shame and our guilt, and we integrate those shadow aspects of ourselves that keep us playing small and that hold us back and that don’t allow us to speak our truth and stand in our sovereignty authentically. So here’s the thing. You can only speak your truth, you can only stand up for that which is alive inside of you when you know what that is. When we live in a full and embodied way, it also means that we open ourselves up to pleasure. We de-link this pleasure as a reward mindset. We de-link that my self-worth is connected to my productivity. And we open up our capacity to experience more pleasure. You probably know by now, if you’ve been watching a few of my videos, that I’m in training as a feminine embodiment coach. And by the time, depending on when you watch this video, I’m either going to still be in training or I will already be qualified. So if any of the things that I spoke to you in this video regarding embodiment, regarding living in an embodied way where we are connected to our aliveness and our pleasure and where we stop apologizing for our emotions and the way that we show up in the world but instead we show up in our fullest self-expression, if anything of that has landed with you, then I want to invite you to jump onto a free exploration call with me. It’s a 30-minute call where we can discuss and explore how feminine embodiment coaching can help you stand in your truth. I’d also love to know how this video resonated with you. You can share your thoughts and feelings and insights with me in the comments below. If you have enjoyed this video, you can also let me know, please, by giving it a thumbs up or drop a comment for me. And please subscribe if you have not yet joined our community. We’d really like to have you on board. Share this video with anyone who you think might find it helpful. Thank you so much for watching. I love you, I appreciate you, and I’ll see you in the next one. Bye.

TIME TO FOCUS ON YOURSELF IN 2022

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Stop connecting your worth to your output! Leave the pressure to perform and be super productive by the door and make the time to focus on yourself this year 🙂 In this hyper-masculine world, it’s easy to think our worth is connected to our output, and that we must compete with each other for love, approval, and even the right to have an opinion.

In this video, I share with you some tips on how you can begin putting yourself first, so that you can have better experiences in all areas of your life.

Prefer to read instead? Here is the transcript.

Hi, ladies. And welcome to my first video for 2022. What I want to do in this video is take you through some of the ways in which I think we can experience more joy and pleasure in the year that’s lying ahead. If we look at the year that we’ve just come from, there has been a lot of external focus on the horrors that happened in the world and all the heartache and trauma and heartbreak that so many of us experienced. So there was a lot of outward focus, and I think it’s really time for us to learn how to bring our focus inwards, to learn how to focus on ourselves. And I’m going to share with you in this video, how to do that. I’m also going to share with you at the end of this video, some of the things that you can expect from my channel and my coaching going forward. If you’re new here, my name is Tertia. And on this channel, I talk about all things self-worth, femininity, feminine embodiment, spirituality, and how you can stand in your power. I’d love for you to join our community if you haven’t yet subscribed. So please do subscribe. Also, hit the like button, because that feeds the algorithm. And then also say hi to us in the comments. Okay. So let’s talk about why it’s important to focus on yourself and why this is a good year to do this. So I said earlier that we’ve just come out of a year where there’s been a lot of external focus and also, we’re running on the tail end of most of us realizing that we’re living in a hyper-masculine world. We’re living in a world where often our self-worth, well, not often, most of the time, most of the time our self-worth is connected to our output. So we have these beliefs that have been cultivated in us as we were growing up and through the exposure of our culture, the society that we grew up in that tells us that who we are is directly connected, or rather what our value is, is directly connected to our output and what we contribute. And when we begin to focus on ourselves, it actually turns that narrative on its head because we need to source our self-worth from inside. And I have three ways that I’m exploring in 2022, that I’m going to be sourcing my self-worth and I’m going to be expanding deeper into this. And that’s what I want to share with you. So the three areas where I think the best opportunity is for us to really begin to embrace ourselves fully and enter into the journey of discovering who we are and then fully loving and accepting all parts of ourselves. The three areas for that is to work and balance our masculine and feminine energies. It is about cultivating our inner wisdom, and it’s about becoming sovereign in our life. So let’s just explore those a little bit. So when we talk about balancing masculine and feminine energies, I think that for me, especially as a highly sensitive woman, I tend to intellectualize things a lot. So what this means practically is I spend a lot of time in my head and not so much time connected into my feelings. So at least that’s the history of my journey, where I would intellectualize things instead of feeling them. And intellectualizing, living in the mind, living only in this one third part of our body or one quarter part of our body, that’s really a masculine energy trait. I said earlier that we’re living in a hyper-masculine world where productivity and results and goals and output and discipline is valued. And while there is definitely so much space for this to be there while we allow for this to be there, we also need space to soften into receiving. We need to create that space to allow for chaos, our emotions, our senses, it’s chaotic. The feminine is about fluctuation and flow and full life expression. And if we are going to live only in this intellectual part of our lives, where we are completely disconnected to the wisdom of our body, can you see how you are only living a quarter of your full possibility? All right. So certainly for me, one of the ways in which you can begin to focus on yourself is by looking into creating balance between the masculine and the feminine aspects within you. And this ties into the second point, which is cultivating wisdom. Our bodies have all the answers, right? And there are really two types of intuition that cultivating the body’s wisdom speaks to. So the first is the intuition, which is a little bit more mystical, where you will get signs of the universe as it were. The intuition that I want to talk about is the body’s wisdom, the body intuition, where your body has all the answers. And the problem that happens is when we are so intellectualized, when you are only living in this part of your experience or everything just happens here in the thinking part of your experience, you really are disconnected to the messages that your body sends to you. Now, our bodies shows us when things feel good and when things don’t feel good. And we can become sensitive to this intuitive wisdom of our bodies, which will allow us then to make better decisions. It will allow us to really step and stand in our power. It allows us to draw strong boundaries and stand up for the things that we believe in, but we can only do that by cultivating a sensitivity to the message of the body. So we need to drop out of the mind and into our body. And this leads then into the third point, which is really about being sovereign. So sovereignty to me means that I recognize that I am the authority in my own life. It means that no one other than me knows what is best for me. One of the ways in which we often give away our power is by believing that other people know better than us. We think that others know what we need. We wait for others to tell us what to do. Sometimes we even wait for others to tell us how to think or whether what we’re thinking is right or wrong. When we start exploring our self-worth and the limiting beliefs that we have around our worthiness and around being good enough and around being lovable, when we examine how our habits of being perfect and doing everything just right is linked to our sense of self-worth and sovereignty, then we can begin to see that when I’m standing sovereign, when I honor myself as my first point of authority, that amplifies my self-worth. It means that I don’t have to connect my worthiness to anyone out there or to any results out there that who I am just as I am is enough. So what I want to do now is just talk to you about the things that you can expect on my channel going forward. So first off, you’ll notice that my videos have a different upload time. So from now on I’m uploading my videos every Friday at 4:00 PM Central European Time. That’s the first thing. The second thing is I’ve spoken to this before in my newsletter and on Instagram, but I just want to speak it again into existence. And that is that I’m currently doing my training as a feminine embodiment coach. Already now, my coaching sessions will use these feminine embodiment principles. So I will use that. I’ll also use EFT tapping where the situation calls for it, but I’m really bringing these embodiment principles into my work because I’ve seen in my own life, what a powerful, powerful modality that is. So on that note, if you are interested in getting one-on-one coaching with me, then you can hop on a free call where we can meet each other, talk about how I work and what you can expect. We’ll also do some deep diving into what it is that you want to create for yourself and how you want that to feel in your body. And there’s a link in the description below where you can just complete the application form and then I’ll get in touch with you. Also, as we’re standing at the doorstep of a brand new year, and we’ve got a whole year of possibility unfolding in front of us, I want to ask you if there’s anything that you would like me to make a video about for you, anything that is going to support you around topics of masculine-feminine energy, femininity, self-worth, self-love, even being a highly sensitive person and navigating your life through that, then please let me know by leaving me a comment in the description below, or you can also get hold of me on Instagram and you can send me a DM there. So this is then the end of my first video for 2022. Thank you very much for watching. Thank you very much for being part of my community and I’ll see you next week. Bye.

UNLOCK YOUR FEMININE ENERGY TO INCREASE YOUR SELF WORTH

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How to Increase your Self Worth (unlock FEMININE energy)

There’s a link between your self worth and your feminine energy.  Things like self-sabotaging and people-pleasing and perfectionism, all have to do with the way that you relate to yourself and your feminine energy. I want to share with you four of the keys that are going to help you increase and improve and unlock your self-worth. 

What is feminine energy? I think there’s a misconception sometimes that being in our feminine means that we are very girly and very ladylike. And yes, it is an aspect of our feminine energy, but it’s only a  tiny small bit of what it means to be in touch and connected to our feminine essence. Being in our feminine energy means that we are connected to the body, connected to our beingness. 

We carry a masculine and a feminine energy essence within us. But most of us have been conditioned to mostly rely on or only use the masculine aspect of our energy. When we are in the masculine, when we come mostly from our masculine energy, it’s a very forceful, drive, determined, goal-oriented, achieving kind of energy. 

This masculine energy also has a shadow aspect. And the shadow aspect is when we start looking outside of ourselves for validation. So if you are finding that people-pleasing, sabotaging, and perfectionism, all of these things are showing up in your life, chances are that there are some shadowy aspects of your masculine energy at play here. So when we then want to move into a place of truly feeling worthy as we are, it means a couple of things, it means that we have to heal our wounded masculine, we have to work on that shadow aspect of ourselves. And it means that we have to embrace our feminine energy, our beingness being connected into the body. 

So now I want to share with you four of the keys which I believe will get you there. 

So the first key is that of “self-trust”. Self-trust is a very, very big topic. And to me, it has two aspects. It is the self-trust of trusting myself, but it also is related to trusting the universe. And I know many of us can feel like the universe is an unfriendly place. 

You feel that the universe doesn’t have your back, you feel that you are all alone and you have to simply rely on yourselves to get by. So we want to begin to examine the core beliefs and the past wounds, the wounding that we have around this feeling of being alone, this feeling of not being supported by the universe, and also not feeling supported by ourselves.  

So a lack of self-trust also implies that I feel that I don’t support myself. I feel that I can’t rely on myself and I was listening to a podcast the other day by I think it was Maddie Moon where she spoke about “your yes being your yes, and your no being your no. And you cannot know your “yes” from your “no” until you know what a “no” sounds like or feels like in the body”. 

To me, that’s a beautiful entry point into beginning to develop self-trust.  Begin to understand what does a hard “no” feel like to me so that I know what a hard “yes” feels like to me.  And if I am able to begin to tell my “yes” from my no, if I’m able to stand fully in my own “yes”, can you see how that leads to me knowing that I’m there for myself.  I can support myself, I can trust myself, I can trust my decisions. 

So the first key then to self-worth is to learn and enter into this relationship where you’re with yourself, where you can begin to trust, trust your decisions, trust your feelings and trust your knowing. 

The second key is to work with “self-acceptance”. So this is another big theme that I work with many of my clients, this theme around self-acceptance, and truly accepting all parts of yourself,  even the parts that we reject, the parts that we deny, the parts that we wish weren’t so.  

Self-acceptance is the key to self-love. You cannot love yourself if you don’t accept yourself, and it’s quite obvious, but sometimes we forget that step when want to work on self-love. And we tend to maybe only look at the external things that we can do to make ourselves acceptable to the outside world according to societal norms and conditioning. 

We don’t always take the steps to accept and work with our shadow aspects. Because again, if I’m fully going to accept myself, I have to face my shadows, I have to bring my shadows into the light, so that I can integrate them and take them on as a full part of my lived experience. 

The third key that will help you unlock your self-worth and unlock your feminine energy is to have strong boundaries. 

I talk about boundaries a lot because it’s so important. And here, I talk about both boundaries to the outside world and boundaries for ourselves, we have to be able to not only draw the line out there but also draw the line within ourselves. 

Looking at the boundaries with regards to self-worth, I want to talk about this industry that exists out there which preys on our insecurities.  We have to stop ourselves from being sold to, we have to stop listening to this industry that tells us that there’s something wrong with the way that we look. And that we need to change our appearance, our figure, our hair, our body shape, we have to change all of those things in order to be more acceptable. 

As long as you keep on looking for that validation outside of yourself, which is again, that shadow aspect, you’re looking for validation outside of yourself that who you are is acceptable. 

Can you see how that is blocking your road to self-worth? So as a practice, that I can suggest to you here is whenever you feel yourself comparing yourself to others, or you feel less than whenever you see something online or on social media, really check in with yourself and ask, “Is this the truth of who I want to be?” Does this support me in my growth, towards fully loving and accepting myself? So that’s a good reflection question for you to work with so that you can start to see where you want to draw your boundaries. 

The final key that I have for you is ritual. I think ritual, especially for us as women, is a beautiful way for us to drop back into our bodies to get out of the domain of the masculine, which is in the mind, into the domain of the feminine, which is the body and ritual is going to help us to do that. 

So, one of the things that are so important when we work with our feminine energy, is to keep in mind that the masculine is all about go, go go. It’s all about striving, the feminine is all about slowing down. And ritual is going to help you to do that. 

Now, the thing is we have rituals all the time, a lot of these rituals are unconscious, our brains have been designed in such a way that we create rituals around things to make us more efficient. 

So rituals are already a part of your life. And what you can begin to do if you want to use your rituals to increase your self worth to unlock your feminine energy is to become conscious of the types of rituals that you can engage in. 

So, for example, cyclical living is a ritual that I’ve adopted now, which allows me to slow down.

And there are very many different things that you can do in your morning routine, the way that you kind of wake up before you engage with the world. 

That kind of ritual will also help you to grow your self-worth depending on what it is that you do. 

Another ritual is “around meditation”. So just talking about meditation, I think meditation is a very powerful practice to help us become present, it helps to quiet the mind and it’s wonderful for anxiety. 

And what I want to talk about meditation from a feminine energy perspective is stillness meditation versus movement meditation. So the typical masculine energy meditation is about sitting still, it’s about quieting the mind, it’s about just focusing on the breath, and becoming still. 

The feminine types of meditations that I’ve been practicing are more of active imagination, meditation, where there’s movement and where there’s sound. And this kind of ritual is also going to help you to unlock your feminine energy. 

So this was a very brief overview of four of the different keys or aspects that will really help you to step fully into your self-worth and to love yourself and see that you are a valuable and wonderful human being. 

OVERCOME PERFECTIONISM: HOW TO STOP WORRYING TOO MUCH ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK

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Perfectionism lives in your mind and it causes you to set the bar very high for yourself. Perfectionism can also stop you from going after your goals because you worry too much about what others think of you.

I don’t know how perfectionism shows up for you, but in my life, perfectionism combined with the fear of what others will think of me, causes me to become very concerned about the actions, and the comments and the things that people do, thinking that it’s a reflection on my ability or my skills.

The problem is when you do that, you overcomplicate every little interaction and that holds you back.

What you will do is resist changing, resist trying to do something new. Resist going for that job interview or resist starting up your own business. You will resist asking that person on a date because you are afraid of what others will think.

1 Self-awareness

I talk about self-awareness a lot because you are unable to change anything in your life unless you have awareness of it.

So, start noticing when you hold yourself back, or change your opinion, or resist doing something out of fear of what others might think.

When you notice that, you can start changing your behavior.

2. People don’t really care about what you do

People all have their own lives and their own issues to deal with. They don’t really care what you do with your life unless it has a direct impact on them.

We think that our lives are in the spotlight, but they’re not. Everyone has their own challenges!

3. People don’t like it when we change

Often the reaction that we get from the people in our life when we change something, can be negative.

When this happens we end up not changing at all. But think of it as a dance. If I suddenly change my steps, you won’t know what happens next. So I need to give you time to catch up to me!

I’m sure you know this quote by Wayne D Dyer: What other people think of me is none of my business.

That’s a good point to start from to understand that the fear we have about what other people think of us is really a mindset.

It is a self-created construct and because it lives in your mind, it’s also possible to change that.

Do you worry about what others think of you?

CONFIDENT WOMAN – EMBRACE YOUR INNER STRENGTH

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We women have things that happen to us that can really affect our confidence in life. We age, our bodies change, people might start treating us differently and we might even face betrayal. Many women put their careers on hold to care for their children, and others might try and do it all as a supermom.

All of these things have such an impact on how much you believe in yourself and how confident a woman you are. Not only that, but it also affects how you feel about yourself, and how you treat yourself.

Life is definitely much more fun when you have confidence and I want to share some tips and tactics with you to become a more confident woman.

What is a confident woman?

Let’s start by defining a confident woman. I see her as someone who stands strong in her personal power.

She knows her worth and she sets loving boundaries.

She is not afraid to take risks and she learns from her mistakes.

A confident woman has this inner knowing that she will be ok, no matter what happens, and she loves and accepts herself.

Now, no matter what your life situation is, you can learn these 5 confidence skills.

#1 Trust trusting yourself

Trust yourself and your own judgment. We give a lot of our power away to things outside out ourselves.

The media tells us we need to look a certain way or dress a certain way to be acceptable.

None of that is true! Be who you are.

Start by reevaluating those childhood messages. Our parents unknowingly might have shamed us or made us feel insecure. But, they did the best they knew how.

Today, you are the only person who knows what is best for you. Believe that and trust that.

There is no point in being afraid to be yourself. So, people might not like that. But really, do you want to hide who you are just so you don’t make other people uncomfortable?

#2 Get to know yourself

What are your dreams? Do you have a vision for your life? Start thinking about all of the things you can do to bring you closer to that vision.

We get so caught up in the role of sister, mother, friend, and partner that we lose sight of what we want for ourselves, and what excites us.

Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses. Look at this with a critical eye so you can acknowledge what you’re good at, and decide on which parts you want to work.

It is usually much easier to only focus on the negative, so you might find it a bit strange in the beginning to become your own cheerleader!

#3 Know your personal core values

Think of your personal core values as your internal navigation system. It is a map of the things that you want to be and do in your life.

When you make decisions or behave in a way that contradicts your core values, it creates inner conflict and disharmony.

As you start learning about your core values, you might also discover what triggers you have.

Now you can start clearing that and turn your attention inwards to grow your emotional intelligence.

#4 Release the past

Don’t let your past define you. Don’t let the mistakes you have made hold you emotionally hostage.

Most women I know, myself included, can really punish ourselves with feelings of guilt for what we did or didn’t do.

Walking around with a chip on your shoulder, or beating yourself up doesn’t serve any purpose except for making you feel bad about yourself.

And it’s very difficult to feel bad about yourself and be a confident woman at the same time!

Forgive yourself. Forgive the other person.

Release your past so that you can start to create a different future for yourself.

Take the things that happened and use them as lessons going forward.

#5 Stop comparing yourself to others

I talk about this a lot because it is something that I used to do.

When you compare yourself to someone else, you will almost always take second place.

Your brain will always find proof to support your theory that you are not enough, it’s called confirmation bias.

Self-belief is like the two sides of a coin.

On the one side, you can believe you will never get ahead, that it doesn’t really matter what you do it won’t make a difference, or that you have nothing of value to contribute.

The other side of that is the belief that you are valuable, that you are worthy and that you have the power to create your life in any way you want to.

#6 Bonus tip: Raise your personal expectations

I don’t mean that you should push yourself harder, instead, start expecting more from yourself.

Take better care of your physical body. Get enough sleep, exercise, and healthy meals.

Start to think better thoughts about yourself. Stop putting yourself down to make other people feel better.

Honor yourself as a confident woman and begin to appreciate the things that make you, you.

Becoming confident and believing in yourself is an action, you have to do confidence!

I want to hear from you which of these tips resonate the most with you, leave a comment below!

Share this with a woman you know who needs a boost of inner confidence!

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