Self abandonment is what happens when dismiss your own thoughts, feelings and values.
You dismiss the things that are important to you.
And you dismiss your own boundaries.
When you put the needs of your own needs (all.the.time), you know you’re doing it.
Or when you value the opinions of others more than you value your own opinion, and so you live your life in a way that pleases others.
So when we self abandon, we are not being authentic. We are not being true to ourselves.
It is a learned response and coping mechanism that filters into all areas of our lives and quite simply it’s an exhausting way to live.
Usually we develop these coping mechanisms in our childhood.
When your emotional needs haven’t been met as a child, then you find ways to compensate for that.
And then you carry that with you into adulthood.
Now this is a problem.
It’s really hard to live an authentic and sovereign life where you feel fulfilled and have meaningful relationships if you keep on dismissing yourself.
Self Abandonment: Stop Abandoning Your True Self
Here’s the secret to healing self abandonment.
You need to heal the relationship with yourself first.
You need to see that you are worthy. You need to see that you are lovable. You need to see that you are good enough just as you are, and that you don’t need others to validate you.
You don’t need others to approve of you.
And when you can come from this place where you are authentically connected to your own self-worth, it completely changes the way that you show up in relationships.
You begin to feel confident enough to start asking for what you need.
It also changes the way that you are able to assert yourself when establishing your boundaries and saying what you are available for and what you are not available for.
In this episode, you will learn the ways in which we self-abandon, and how to start healing that.
I talk about
- My definition of self abandonment
- The different ways in which we abandon ourselves
- Healing the relationship with yourself
- How to heal the habit of self abandonment