Stop connecting your worth to your output! Leave the pressure to perform and be super productive by the door and make the time to focus on yourself this year 🙂 In this hyper-masculine world, it’s easy to think our worth is connected to our output, and that we must compete with each other for love, approval, and even the right to have an opinion.
In this video, I share with you some tips on how you can begin putting yourself first, so that you can have better experiences in all areas of your life.
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Hi, ladies. And welcome to my first video for 2022. What I want to do in this video is take you through some of the ways in which I think we can experience more joy and pleasure in the year that’s lying ahead. If we look at the year that we’ve just come from, there has been a lot of external focus on the horrors that happened in the world and all the heartache and trauma and heartbreak that so many of us experienced. So there was a lot of outward focus, and I think it’s really time for us to learn how to bring our focus inwards, to learn how to focus on ourselves. And I’m going to share with you in this video, how to do that. I’m also going to share with you at the end of this video, some of the things that you can expect from my channel and my coaching going forward. If you’re new here, my name is Tertia. And on this channel, I talk about all things self-worth, femininity, feminine embodiment, spirituality, and how you can stand in your power. I’d love for you to join our community if you haven’t yet subscribed. So please do subscribe. Also, hit the like button, because that feeds the algorithm. And then also say hi to us in the comments. Okay. So let’s talk about why it’s important to focus on yourself and why this is a good year to do this. So I said earlier that we’ve just come out of a year where there’s been a lot of external focus and also, we’re running on the tail end of most of us realizing that we’re living in a hyper-masculine world. We’re living in a world where often our self-worth, well, not often, most of the time, most of the time our self-worth is connected to our output. So we have these beliefs that have been cultivated in us as we were growing up and through the exposure of our culture, the society that we grew up in that tells us that who we are is directly connected, or rather what our value is, is directly connected to our output and what we contribute. And when we begin to focus on ourselves, it actually turns that narrative on its head because we need to source our self-worth from inside. And I have three ways that I’m exploring in 2022, that I’m going to be sourcing my self-worth and I’m going to be expanding deeper into this. And that’s what I want to share with you. So the three areas where I think the best opportunity is for us to really begin to embrace ourselves fully and enter into the journey of discovering who we are and then fully loving and accepting all parts of ourselves. The three areas for that is to work and balance our masculine and feminine energies. It is about cultivating our inner wisdom, and it’s about becoming sovereign in our life. So let’s just explore those a little bit. So when we talk about balancing masculine and feminine energies, I think that for me, especially as a highly sensitive woman, I tend to intellectualize things a lot. So what this means practically is I spend a lot of time in my head and not so much time connected into my feelings. So at least that’s the history of my journey, where I would intellectualize things instead of feeling them. And intellectualizing, living in the mind, living only in this one third part of our body or one quarter part of our body, that’s really a masculine energy trait. I said earlier that we’re living in a hyper-masculine world where productivity and results and goals and output and discipline is valued. And while there is definitely so much space for this to be there while we allow for this to be there, we also need space to soften into receiving. We need to create that space to allow for chaos, our emotions, our senses, it’s chaotic. The feminine is about fluctuation and flow and full life expression. And if we are going to live only in this intellectual part of our lives, where we are completely disconnected to the wisdom of our body, can you see how you are only living a quarter of your full possibility? All right. So certainly for me, one of the ways in which you can begin to focus on yourself is by looking into creating balance between the masculine and the feminine aspects within you. And this ties into the second point, which is cultivating wisdom. Our bodies have all the answers, right? And there are really two types of intuition that cultivating the body’s wisdom speaks to. So the first is the intuition, which is a little bit more mystical, where you will get signs of the universe as it were. The intuition that I want to talk about is the body’s wisdom, the body intuition, where your body has all the answers. And the problem that happens is when we are so intellectualized, when you are only living in this part of your experience or everything just happens here in the thinking part of your experience, you really are disconnected to the messages that your body sends to you. Now, our bodies shows us when things feel good and when things don’t feel good. And we can become sensitive to this intuitive wisdom of our bodies, which will allow us then to make better decisions. It will allow us to really step and stand in our power. It allows us to draw strong boundaries and stand up for the things that we believe in, but we can only do that by cultivating a sensitivity to the message of the body. So we need to drop out of the mind and into our body. And this leads then into the third point, which is really about being sovereign. So sovereignty to me means that I recognize that I am the authority in my own life. It means that no one other than me knows what is best for me. One of the ways in which we often give away our power is by believing that other people know better than us. We think that others know what we need. We wait for others to tell us what to do. Sometimes we even wait for others to tell us how to think or whether what we’re thinking is right or wrong. When we start exploring our self-worth and the limiting beliefs that we have around our worthiness and around being good enough and around being lovable, when we examine how our habits of being perfect and doing everything just right is linked to our sense of self-worth and sovereignty, then we can begin to see that when I’m standing sovereign, when I honor myself as my first point of authority, that amplifies my self-worth. It means that I don’t have to connect my worthiness to anyone out there or to any results out there that who I am just as I am is enough. So what I want to do now is just talk to you about the things that you can expect on my channel going forward. So first off, you’ll notice that my videos have a different upload time. So from now on I’m uploading my videos every Friday at 4:00 PM Central European Time. That’s the first thing. The second thing is I’ve spoken to this before in my newsletter and on Instagram, but I just want to speak it again into existence. And that is that I’m currently doing my training as a feminine embodiment coach. Already now, my coaching sessions will use these feminine embodiment principles. So I will use that. I’ll also use EFT tapping where the situation calls for it, but I’m really bringing these embodiment principles into my work because I’ve seen in my own life, what a powerful, powerful modality that is. So on that note, if you are interested in getting one-on-one coaching with me, then you can hop on a free call where we can meet each other, talk about how I work and what you can expect. We’ll also do some deep diving into what it is that you want to create for yourself and how you want that to feel in your body. And there’s a link in the description below where you can just complete the application form and then I’ll get in touch with you. Also, as we’re standing at the doorstep of a brand new year, and we’ve got a whole year of possibility unfolding in front of us, I want to ask you if there’s anything that you would like me to make a video about for you, anything that is going to support you around topics of masculine-feminine energy, femininity, self-worth, self-love, even being a highly sensitive person and navigating your life through that, then please let me know by leaving me a comment in the description below, or you can also get hold of me on Instagram and you can send me a DM there. So this is then the end of my first video for 2022. Thank you very much for watching. Thank you very much for being part of my community and I’ll see you next week. Bye.