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WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE FEELING SELF-CONSCIOUS – IMPROVE YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS

February 18, 2016 by Tertia Riegler

feeling self-conscious

Have you ever felt awkward during a conversation with someone that you meet for the first time?  I know I have.  

That feeling of self-consciousness where you can think of absolutely nothing to say.  And your amygdala is sending out stress signals causing you to blank out to the point where you can’t even remember the name of the person you are speaking to.

I remember being at a dinner party one evening, where I hit a total blank while speaking to someone.  I had a big cheesy smile on my face while inside my head the conversation went something like: Did I say her name right?  She thinks I’m an idiot. Oh crap, I don’t know what to talk about!

When you are self-conscious it typically means that you are worried about what others will think of you. 

And your ever-helpful subconscious is constantly on the lookout for confirmation to prove that what you are thinking is true.  (That’s why it’s called a self-fulfilling prophecy).

Feeling self-conscious can happen at the most inconvenient times, I know.  It’s also something that happens to almost everyone at some point.  It’s called being human.

The trick is to learn to handle it when it happens.

Here are 2 things you start doing the next time you feel self-conscious

Firstly, you can lean into the feeling.  This type of acknowledging helps calm the amygdala, which in turn can help you feel more in control.

 A big part of my work is centered around acknowledging and accepting what you are feeling.  Because no-one likes feeling unpleasant feelings our automatic response could be to ignore, suppress or avoid feeling them at all costs.  

That’s a little like thinking there is a boogeyman under the bed.  As long as you don’t have the courage to look under the bed to see that there is nothing there, the boogeyman grows bigger and scarier with longer, sharper teeth.

Avoiding uncomfortable feelings is like avoiding looking to see that there is no boogeyman after all.  

Secondly, make it about the other person.  We are all concerned about ourselves and about what is going on in our own lives. 

If you really take the time to think about it, you will see that people are far less concerned about what we do or say than we think they are.  

Instead, you can look for real connection. Ask them what they think about a certain topic, or ask them to explain something to you.

Realise the importance of how you make others feel. 

What do you do when you are feeling self-conscious?

Filed Under: Building Good Habits, Shift your Mindset Tagged With: confidence, personal growth

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