We women have things that happen to us that can really affect our confidence in life. We age, our bodies change, people might start treating us differently and we might even face betrayal. Many women put their careers on hold to care for their children, and others might try and do it all as a supermom.
All of these things have such an impact on how much you believe in yourself and how confident a woman you are. Not only that, but it also affects how you feel about yourself, and how you treat yourself.
Life is definitely much more fun when you have confidence and I want to share some tips and tactics with you to become a more confident woman.
What is a confident woman?
Let’s start by defining a confident woman. I see her as someone who stands strong in her personal power.
She knows her worth and she sets loving boundaries.
She is not afraid to take risks and she learns from her mistakes.
A confident woman has this inner knowing that she will be ok, no matter what happens, and she loves and accepts herself.
Now, no matter what your life situation is, you can learn these 5 confidence skills.
#1 Trust trusting yourself
Trust yourself and your own judgment. We give a lot of our power away to things outside out ourselves.
The media tells us we need to look a certain way or dress a certain way to be acceptable.
None of that is true! Be who you are.
Start by reevaluating those childhood messages. Our parents unknowingly might have shamed us or made us feel insecure. But, they did the best they knew how.
Today, you are the only person who knows what is best for you. Believe that and trust that.
There is no point in being afraid to be yourself. So, people might not like that. But really, do you want to hide who you are just so you don’t make other people uncomfortable?
#2 Get to know yourself
What are your dreams? Do you have a vision for your life? Start thinking about all of the things you can do to bring you closer to that vision.
We get so caught up in the role of sister, mother, friend, and partner that we lose sight of what we want for ourselves, and what excites us.
Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses. Look at this with a critical eye so you can acknowledge what you’re good at, and decide on which parts you want to work.
It is usually much easier to only focus on the negative, so you might find it a bit strange in the beginning to become your own cheerleader!
#3 Know your personal core values
Think of your personal core values as your internal navigation system. It is a map of the things that you want to be and do in your life.
When you make decisions or behave in a way that contradicts your core values, it creates inner conflict and disharmony.
As you start learning about your core values, you might also discover what triggers you have.
Now you can start clearing that and turn your attention inwards to grow your emotional intelligence.
#4 Release the past
Don’t let your past define you. Don’t let the mistakes you have made hold you emotionally hostage.
Most women I know, myself included, can really punish ourselves with feelings of guilt for what we did or didn’t do.
Walking around with a chip on your shoulder, or beating yourself up doesn’t serve any purpose except for making you feel bad about yourself.
And it’s very difficult to feel bad about yourself and be a confident woman at the same time!
Forgive yourself. Forgive the other person.
Release your past so that you can start to create a different future for yourself.
Take the things that happened and use them as lessons going forward.
#5 Stop comparing yourself to others
I talk about this a lot because it is something that I used to do.
When you compare yourself to someone else, you will almost always take second place.
Your brain will always find proof to support your theory that you are not enough, it’s called confirmation bias.
Self-belief is like the two sides of a coin.
On the one side, you can believe you will never get ahead, that it doesn’t really matter what you do it won’t make a difference, or that you have nothing of value to contribute.
The other side of that is the belief that you are valuable, that you are worthy and that you have the power to create your life in any way you want to.
#6 Bonus tip: Raise your personal expectations
I don’t mean that you should push yourself harder, instead, start expecting more from yourself.
Take better care of your physical body. Get enough sleep, exercise, and healthy meals.
Start to think better thoughts about yourself. Stop putting yourself down to make other people feel better.
Honour yourself as a confident woman and begin to appreciate the things that make you, you.
Becoming confident and believing in yourself is an action, you have to do confidence!
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