Tertia Riegler

Feminine Embodiment Coach

Shift your Mindset

DEEPEN INTO FEMININE ENERGY: WHY I’M NO LONGER RAISING MY POSITIVE VIBRATION

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On this journey of exploring the sacred feminine, you will find that you let go of certain views and ideas along the way. One view of mine that has changed, is the view I had around being high vibe all the time.

I am no longer raising my positive vibration, and in this video, I share with you why I’ve stopped doing it, and what I’m doing instead that’s letting me deepen into my feminine energy.

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In today’s video, I want to talk to you about why I’ve stopped raising my positive vibration, and I fully acknowledge that my experience might be completely different to yours. And so that’s why I am just with this video sharing my view and what I am doing instead. My name is Tertia and on this channel, I talk about self-worth and self-love, feminine energy and femininity, manifesting, mindset, and all of the things that you can do to access and stand in your personal power. If that’s something that sounds interesting to you, then I invite you to join us and subscribe, and also make sure that you hit the little bell, and this way, you’ll get all of the notifications each time I upload a video. So I’ve made many videos about raising your positive vibration on this channel, and I’m not going to take them off. They’re still going to stay there because many of you might be on a different path or in a different aspect of your journey. But I really wanted to talk to my experience with why I’m no longer going for raise your positive vibes. So the reason I’m not doing it is because I believe that there is an inherent danger in doing this. So if I just take you back a couple of years to when I first started learning about the power that we have of creating our own reality through our thoughts and through our mind, I was in my early 20s, and for some reason, I interpreted this as very literal, as in positive thoughts create positive experiences and attract positive things into your life. So my interpretation was, you can’t really have negative thoughts because negative thinking brings bad things your way. So you have to do everything that you can to make sure that you stay positive and that you only think positive things and don’t allow any negative feelings or any negative thoughts in. So you can see where this is going. The solution that I had was to take all of the negative things and turn them around and make them positive. The problem was though, whenever I said affirmations, and don’t get me wrong, affirmations have a place. You can still use affirmations very effectively. But the way that I used to use affirmations back then is whenever I said them, and I expressed this affirmation, in the back of my mind, I could still hear the thing that I was actually believing and the thing that I tried to avoid thinking about. And also whenever bad things happen to me, bad things, I would always blame myself. And I would always say, it’s probably because I wasn’t positive enough or I was thinking negative thoughts. So that’s why I’m saying that there’s an inherent danger in thinking that the only or the best way is to raise your positive vibration, because I know that I’m not the only one who has interpreted this concept in this way. Okay, so this is the problem. When we don’t allow ourselves to feel certain negative feelings, or when we don’t allow ourselves to have negative thoughts, when we go into a spiral of feeling down, which is a normal reaction, because we are human, so we are going to feel done at times. But when we are in this place of being down and we judge and we criticize ourselves for not being more positive and for not being more upbeat, what you end up doing is you end up suppressing and denying your feelings. And the thing with feelings and emotions and our life experience is you can think of it as a scale. So you’ve got, let’s call it, extreme darkness and heartache on the one end and extreme joy and bliss on the other end. Now, because we don’t want to feel what is on this side, on the darker side, we suppress that and we shut down our feelings. So our feelings, our ability to feel, the scale and the bandwidth of our feeling this, becomes shorter. But what we don’t realize is that it also becomes shorter on the other side, because things are balanced, the scale is balanced. So as much as you, and I hope this makes sense, as much as you suppress and deny these feelings, as much of the joy and the bliss and the pleasure you prevent yourself from feeling. So you end up playing and having a bandwidth of only this much. So you only allow yourself to experience this much of sadness and this much of joy instead of this entire bandwidth that is available to you. So if we look then at vibration through a feminine lens, what does this look like? Now, I think collectively, we have this idea that higher is better, right? High vibrations, positive vibrations, we always want to ascend. And we also want to work with the upper chakras and the higher chakras, but from a feminine embodiment perspective, we say instead of going high, we want to go deeper instead. So what does this look like practically? Going deep means that you face those tender parts of yourself and you are vulnerable to them. Going deep means that you speak your truth, even if it is something that makes you really uncomfortable. Going deep means understanding where your boundaries are and being able to enforce them with compassion. And these are the things that’s going to change your vibration. By virtue of you going deeper, by virtue of you exploring those tender parts of yourself and releasing the shame and the tension that you unconsciously carry inside of you, you are changing your vibration. And this change in vibration is going to cause you to resonate with others, other people, and other experiences that is more harmony with where you are vibrationally right now. So my invitation to you is instead of going for the high positive vibration, what would it look like if you could go for the deeper, more heartfelt tender change in your vibration? I’d love to know your thoughts about this, so let me know in the comments. And also, I have some ideas of future videos that I’m going to be making for you, and I’d also love to know from you what videos would serve you. So what videos would you like to see here on my channel? And you can also drop some comments for me around that in the comments section below. As always, if you’ve enjoyed this video, then please give it a thumbs up and share it with anyone who you think might find it helpful. If you’ve been watching up until now, and you are still not a subscriber, then please do join us and subscribe to my channel. I’ll really welcome you and I’ll appreciate the support. And then finally, thank you so much for watching. I love you, I appreciate you, and I’ll see you in the next one. Bye.

HACKING YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND (LIFE CHANGING PRACTICE)

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Overview

Discover how the subconscious mind determines your experiences and what you can do to shift your paradigm, when you want to change any stuck pattern.

In this video, you will learn a 3-step process to hack your subconscious mind. These are the exact steps that I use when I want to reprogram my subconscious and rewire my brain.

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We have an incredibly powerful built-in tool that we can use to shape our lives in any way, that we want this tool is the subconscious mind and in this video, I am going to show you how to use its full power to your advantage. By the end of this video, you’ll have a clear understanding of how the subconscious mind determines your experiences and I’m also going to share with you my three-step process that I use myself to shape my life in the way that I want. My name is Tertia and I show you how to use your inner power and the laws of the universe to transform your life. If you’re new here, then subscribe, join our community and say hi to us in the comments below and if you are ready to learn about how you can hack your subconscious mind, then hit the like button and we’ll get started now. In the first part of this video, I want to define the subconscious mind so that we’re on the same page. I’ve divided the video into three parts. So, in part one, we’ll define the subconscious mind. In part two, I’m going to take you through the process of how our subconscious mind determines our experiences and then in part three is where I will share my three-step process to use the power of the subconscious mind to your advantage.  So, let’s look at defining the subconscious mind. There is an iceberg analogy that has been around forever and I really like to use that analogy because to me, it really explains the relationship between the conscious and the subconscious mind. So, it goes like this. Imagine that your mind is an iceberg. Now, we all know what an iceberg looks like? You have a small piece out top and then you have a very big piece hidden underneath the water and the mind looks like that. So our conscious mind makes up the five percent. The tip of the iceberg and underneath the water level we have 95 percent of sub-consciousness. Now, in this part underneath the surface of the water, this part that is underneath our awareness, it’s made up of the subconscious mind, the unconscious and the collective unconscious. Now, exactly what percentage goes where I can’t tell you that we, nobody is sure about exactly how this is divided in and it’s not really important for the purposes of this video. What is important for you to understand is that your conscious awareness only is five percent of your total experience. So, 95 of your experience and your processes happens underneath the surface of the water.  So, it’s below your awareness. Now, obviously the things that are driving this awareness is what determines how you experience your world and if you can find a way to calibrate and condition and change what is underneath the surface, underneath the awareness on your terms. If you can find a way to do it on purpose, you will find that whatever happens in your conscious awareness in this five percent will change as a result and really these deeper layers of the mind is what affects everything in our experience. I’m going to link a video for you down in the description below. This is a video that I made about how we can’t always believe our thoughts and after you’ve watched this video, go and take a look at that video because it’s a nice compliment to what I’ll be talking about in this video. So, my definition that I like to use for the subconscious mind is that it is that part of us that is underneath or below our awareness which influences us and provides suggestions which determines our experiences, right. So, it’s that part that is below our awareness. That provides us with suggestions and that determines our experiences. So, now in part two, I’m going to take you through a diagram that I’ve created. That is really going to show you how this then works in reality? How it works practically? Everything that we experience in our life, gets filtered through a story that we tell ourselves. So, we tell ourselves stories about everything and those stories can also be called perception. We have a perception about certain cultural things. We have a perception about money. We have a perception about other people. We have a perception about how we are being treated. We have a perception about how other people treat other people. So, really this story that we tell ourselves about things and experiences is going to determine how we experience that experience or event, all right. Now, where do these stories come from and this is the interesting thing. These stories come from our thoughts. So, they come from what we think when we have a dominant thought that turns into a story and it comes from our feelings. Now, your feelings is often as a result of your thoughts. If you think something enough, you can start feeling whatever emotion that thought is driving but the feeling also has a feedback loop. So, when you feel something enough, then you start thinking that this is the true feeling. So, these two are always in relation to each other. Your thoughts and your feelings and these thoughts and feelings are what feeds the stories, they start building neural pathways in your brain, the filter through which you observe the world. Now, what happens with these stories is we believe them to be true. So, we engage with them. Engage! We, engage with them. And we never ever or rather we hardly ever question them. So, we believe them to be true and it’s going to be very difficult for anybody to change your story, right. It has to be an internal thing. We can only change our stories ourselves. It doesn’t matter how much somebody tells you something, if you at your core believe that it’s true through these neural pathways that you have created, then no one is going to change that for you but these stories that we tell ourselves that we engage with and that become our belief systems. They always have a consequence, all right.  So, it leads into a consequence and the consequence is always going to lead to action or inaction, all right. You are always making choices either consciously or unconsciously and taking action or not taking action based on the level of engagement and the level of belief. So, the consequence can show up where you are. For example, someone who sees a lot of injustice, you are someone who blames others for your condition or situation. It can be the consequence, can be you or someone who sees opportunity and everything and no matter what happens, you always land on your feet and you always find a way out and you always find a way to get up top. So, the consequence typically is that we have these patterns that continue to show up in our life. We have these patterns that we always fall into, all right. And this is specifically if these are patterns that are not supporting you in your growth and patterns that aren’t, um, helping you transform or up leveling your life, right. Those are the patterns that I’m talking about, that we want to change, okay! Part of why this works is because we have something called the reticular activating system which I’ve spoken about in the video, which I’ll link below and your reticular activating system is always going to show you the data that supports what you are thinking because it’s programmed to do that and this reinforces your thoughts and feelings and what it also does is it reinforces the stories that you tell yourself. So, if we want to reprogram the subconscious mind, if we want to hack our brain, it’s something that we can do because of this functionality, because we have a reticular activating system, because the stories that we tell ourselves through our thoughts and our feelings can become stories that we want to create consciously. We can change the things that we believe, we can change our belief systems by changing the thoughts and changing the feelings and that’s a conscious act this we do that with a five percent that is above our awareness, we do this intentionally and then it becomes subconscious. We become competent in this new habit of thinking or feeling a certain way and I want to share with you now, my three-step process that I use myself to change and shift anything in my life. When I notice that there’s something that I want to change and I want to transform it. Now, it’s important that you follow these three steps in order, all right. You have to do one after the other because that is how it works and they build on each other. You can’t do the second one without having the first one in place.  So, let me take you through the steps. Step number one is awareness. You have to have awareness and it sounds quite obvious when I say it like that but we need to have the awareness to notice what it is that we want to change? This is what it means to wake up, this is what it means to start living with intention and living on purpose is you have the awareness of any patterns that you want to change, any behaviors that you want to change or any perceptions that you know are limiting you. So, when you have this awareness, you can now begin to change it but there’s a second step before the change happens. Step number two and that is to commit commitment is step number two. Commitment means that you are committing to taking responsibility for your thoughts and your feelings from now on and now step number three is where you take action, all right. You cannot change anything in your life. You cannot change anything in your experience simply by being wistfully thinking about it or for wanting it to happen, all right. Wanting something and desiring something is not enough to actually change it. You need to take action, all right. That’s key. So, step number three is we take action and you take action in the following way. The first thing that you take action on is you take action on your thoughts and basically how it works is you start to think as the person who you want to be.  So, if you’ve identified in step one and this is why it’s so important to put these in order or do these in order. When you’ve identified in step one, you’ve created the awareness about what story it is that you want to change and you are ready to commit to becoming a different story. Now, in step three you taking action by thinking the same thoughts that someone who is already, who you want to be would think like. So, for example, if there is something at work that you want to do and you want to maybe speak up more instead of having the argument with yourself or procrastinating or holding back when you’re sitting in a meeting and worrying about what other people will think and what other people will say and how and that they maybe won’t listen to you now. When you are in that meeting as soon as you realize that you are having this inner conflict again, you create a new thought saying I am someone who speaks up.  I speak up with confidence and then you behave like that person who you want to be and you can literally do this with every thought in your life. So, anything that you want to change, you monitor your thoughts, you monitor your thinking. The moment that you realize that you are thinking a thought which is reinforcing the old story that you have, you start thinking a new thought in its place. The second part to taking action is by changing the movies that you play in your mind. Now, we are constantly thinking about different scenarios and we are constantly projecting or fantasizing how things might turn out that leads us to being worried, that can also lead us to being confident depending on what the image is, that you are feeding yourself think about it where in your life do. You have some patterns that you are stuck in or some situations that don’t work for you and you are making these movies in your mind where you playing out the scenario and you imagining what will happen then and what this one will say and when that, with that one will say and what you’re going to do and you imagine how you’re going to feel and you’re building this soap opera in your mind which is only serving to keeping you stuck in the situation that you’re in. So, part of how we reprogram our subconscious minds is by recognizing as soon as you see that movie is playing, you stop it and you rewrite the script. You literally change the way that it plays out or you decide to just switch it off. You replace it with something else but you take conscious control of your brain. That’s busy running away with you of your mind. That’s busy running away with some scenario and then the third thing that you can do, that’s going to help you reprogram your subconscious mind is eft tapping. Now, I’ve made many videos about eft tapping you know. If you follow me that I’m a big believer in the power of eft to help you shift your experiences and shift your vibration, shift everything about your life that no longer serves you. I’m also going to put some videos for you down in the description so you can take a look at those and that will also support you to really complete what I’m teaching in this video, alright. So, just to recap our conscious awareness is only about five percent. So, only five percent of what we experience is in our conscious awareness. So, many other things, our perception, the suggestions that we get the way, that we relate to the world is an unconscious act. It falls below our awareness and our thoughts and our feelings create the stories that we tell to ourselves and the level at which we engage and believe in these determines how we show up in the world that determines the things that happen to us. It determines the opportunities that show up in our lives and if opportunities are there, it determines whether we take these opportunities or not and when we then decide to take conscious control of this, this is how we begin to hack our subconscious mind, this is how we take ownership of our lives and we really determine how we want to live and who we want to be in that life. Now, I’d love to hear from you. So, let me know in the comments below if you found this video helpful. Let me know any patterns that you’ve identified or that you know about. Now, that you are committing to change using the formula and the three-step process that I’ve shared with you and if you enjoyed this video about hacking your subconscious mind, also let me know by giving it a thumbs up. Remember to subscribe if you haven’t done. So, yet share this video with someone who will find it helpful and then thanks for watching. I’ll see you in the next one, bye!

WHY YOU SHOULD STOP BELIEVING YOUR THOUGHTS (USE THESE 3 SIMPLE HACKS)

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In this video, you will discover why you should stop believing your thoughts as your brain has a unique way of tricking you – even if it is unintentional.

I share with you 3 simple hacks that you can use to stop believing everything that you think, and you will also discover an easy way to reprogram your subconscious mind so that you can become free from thoughts that don’t serve you.

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Your brain lies to you, and it lies to you a lot. Now, if you’ve ever had the experience of thoughts running through your mind, that makes you feel bad, you want to watch this video. I’m going to tell you to stop believing your thoughts. You can’t believe everything you think. Now, by the end of this video, you’ll have a clear understanding of how the brain lies to you. And I’m also going to be sharing with you, three hacks that you can use to deal with these thoughts, so that you can start choosing different thoughts instead. If you’re new to my channel, my name is Tertia. And on this channel, I show you how to use your inner power and the universal laws to transform your life. Now, I don’t know if you know this, but we only think about 5% of original thoughts every day, right? It’s said that at least 95% of our thoughts are automatic. So this means that we keep on thinking the same things without thinking about what we are thinking, right? Our thinking happens without us being active participants in this for 95% of the time during our day. So these things that we do every day, like walking, or talking, or eating, or climbing stairs, or sitting down, or standing up, your brain takes over the thinking function of that. But it also takes over the thinking function of many other things that we do habitually, many other things that we do over and over and over. So some of these automatic thoughts that we have is the belief systems that we build up through our own experiences, about your “failures”. These belief systems that we have that say, I’m not good enough, I’m not lovable. All of these thoughts come up, and you feel powerless. It makes you feel powerless. So the first hack is to understand that your brain does these things automatically. When you start hearing the thoughts of, “You’re not good enough. You screwed up. You’re being disrespected. Your partner doesn’t love you. Nobody can love you, because you’re not really lovable. You really are just such a loser.” When you start hearing these thoughts, understand that it’s a lie. It’s part of that 95% of automatic thoughts that the brain is thinking. And when you realize that it’s not a true thought, but a thought that comes from some pattern in your past, now it empowers you, because you can begin to change it. Now you might be familiar with this Harvard experiment, where they studied subjects to see their level of attention and how selective their attention really was. How it worked was you had two groups of people, white t-shirts, black t-shirts, and the subjects had to count how many times the white t-shirt group pass the ball amongst themselves. So, while this was happening, during this experiment, the people were throwing the balls, and then a gorilla came into the group of people, pounded its chest, and then walked off again. The question then that they asked the study group was, how many times did the people with the white shirts pass the ball? And the second question they asked was, did you see the gorilla? And more than half the time, the subjects didn’t see the gorilla. So, I knew about this experiment, and in preparing for this video I went to look at the video again, you can find the video on YouTube if you want to take a look at it. I went to look at the video again. And even though I knew that there was going to be a gorilla that comes up, my focus was still on counting how many times this ball was passed. So if you have to ask me, was the gorilla there? Yes, the gorilla was there, because I kind of noticed him in my peripheral vision, but I never looked at the gorilla. So if you asked me, what did the gorilla do? I still wouldn’t have been able to tell you. And I knew what this experiment was all about. So, our brains really are selective. Our brain focuses on only the things that it deems important. In my case, still counting the balls and noticing whether there was a gorilla or not. So this is the second hack. In your brain you’ve got this control center, let’s call it a control center, called your reticular activating system, or RAS for short. And we take in so much information through our subconscious mind. We’re aware of everything that happens to us, but we only register those things which are deemed important. And our subconscious mind sends us this information, this data that it thinks is important, based on what we tell it. Now, when we use our reticular activating system in a way to support us, it means we can begin to reprogram some of these automatic thoughts that we have. When you keep on thinking the same thing over and over, when you keep on reinforcing your belief of I’m not good enough, or I’m unlovable, these core beliefs, you are always going to find proof of this. It’s always going to be brought to your attention. And by starting to think different thoughts, by starting to input different ideas and different beliefs into the subconscious mind, through the conscious mind, you’re starting to reprogram some of these automatic thoughts that run. So that the automatic thoughts that run in the future are going to be more supportive to you, rather than breaking you down and making you feel bad about yourself. The third hack that I want to tell you about is, where you become the observer of your thoughts, so you don’t buy into the story. Now, this is a little bit more of a trickier one where you become the observer. I’ve been able to maybe two or three times in my life do this spontaneously, where I was caught in a downward cycle, in a negative cycle, and I was able to remove myself and observe my thoughts and my feelings. And just by that act of observing, you’re putting distance between whatever is going on in your brain and in your emotions. And from a higher perspective, a higher vision, you’re observing this. And there are two kinds of questions that you can ask yourself, that’s going to support you to become the observer and to remove yourself from whatever it is that your brain is automatically thinking. So the first question is, is this helpful? And by asking yourself is it helpful, it’s forcing you to begin to analyze and study and critically explore these thoughts that you are having. So you no longer just stuck in the feeling of it, but you are really considering whether this is helping you, and often that’s enough to kind of get you out of it. The second question that you can ask yourself is, is this true? And here, I just want to say don’t go on your feeling. Don’t go on your gut feeling that says, “Yes it true.” Look for hard evidence, okay? Often we might be getting crossed signals from our intuition when you’re caught in feeling bad thoughts, okay? And it might not be the truth that you’re finding from your intuition, because it’s not really your intuition talking. So, look for facts, where before has this happened for real? And also this fact finding is going to allow you to kind of take a step back. What you just need to know, it doesn’t help if you only do it once, okay? It’s a process, you are then training your brain. You’re also reprogramming your mind. You’re giving yourself new automatic thought patterns. So, the reason why your brain lies to you, it’s because it is just how the brain works. It fills in the blanks. It’s very selective in its attention, because it’s trying to be efficient, and it is efficient. I mean our brains work, but it can work against you, if you allow yourself to believe all of these things that your brain tells you, okay? We want to become self-aware. We want to have self-inquiry, want to be able to separate ourselves from our thoughts and our feelings, so that we can see them for what they really are. So I hope that you have found this video helpful. And if you did, then please let me know by giving it a thumbs up. Also, if you like enjoying, or if you like enjoying, if you like videos about this, then let me know in the comments below as well. I can create some more for you, on how you can reprogram your subconscious mind, how you can counter these belief systems that we all have, because we are all human beings, okay? Share this video with anyone who you think might find it helpful. Subscribe, if you haven’t yet subscribed. And then, thanks very much for watching. I’ll see you in the next video. Bye.

TAPPING MEDITATION FOR SELF-LOVE & SELF-WORTH | ENERGY CLEARING SESSION

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Overview

We carry within us the power to heal ourselves and heal our lives, and I love combining EFT tapping and energy work for this. This tapping meditation for self-love and self-worth will help you connect, and begin to heal so that you can love yourself and accept your worth.

HOW TO DEAL WITH EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS AS A HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON HSP (MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS)

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Highly sensitive people tend to get triggered often, and you might believe that you don’t have a choice about it, but actually, you do. There are ways in which you can manage your emotional triggers as an HSP.

Triggers are strong emotional responses

A trigger is any strong emotional response where your emotional response is out of proportion to the event that has happened. 

It’s because you are not really responding to the event that is happening right. Instead, the response you have is to something in the present moment that reminds you of something in your past.

Take responsibility for your emotional wellbeing

When it comes to managing your emotional triggers as an HSP you need to understand that your triggers are your responsibility.

Start taking responsibility for how you are feeling.  Take responsibility for your own emotional growth and your own emotional healing.

Life will always happen, and people will always do things we don’t agree with.  But how you respond to that is up to you.

When you give your power away by releasing the responsibility of your emotional triggers to other people, you end up having your life lived for you.  You don’t have the possibility of stepping fully into your potential and living a well-balanced life.

A shift in your thinking

This can require a mindset shift.  You need to start thinking differently about the way you see the world and where you see yourself fit into that world.

Taking that ownership and shifting your view, offers you the grace to start the healing process.

HOW TO LET GO OF GRUDGES AND FORGIVE (LETTING GO OF THE PAST)

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Letting go of the past, and dealing with our grudges and resentments is something that most of us have struggled with at some time or another. And, as the years go by, our experiences tend to pile up.

We all have a past, and it’s made up of both joyous and sad experiences. But, when we focus more on our disappointments and resentments, it can keep us stuck in the past. And, being stuck in the past like that determines how we show up for ourselves and those in our lives, every day.

Highly sensitive people in particular, can be quite good at holding grudges (speaking from experience here), because we remember all of the slights that have happened to us.  Also, we have very high standards that we hold ourselves and others too, making it easy for us to become disappointed.

The problem with holding on

Holding on to past painful experiences, can cause you to adapt a victimized mentality. 

If you live in the story of a victim by constantly going back on reliving and re-experiencing all the wrong-doings and unfairnesses, you see more of that show up in your life because you are training your brain to show you that.

Your brain shows you more of what it thinks you want to see, based on your thoughts.   It’s called the reticular activating system (R.A.S.)  

We continuously remind ourselves who we are, we remind ourselves about our past – this is how we know how to show up in the world, right?  But sometimes these stories become outdated and they stop serving us.

Letting go of the past

Letting go of the past starts with a conscious decision to do so.  

You decide that you are ready to let go.   You decide that you are no longer going to be a person who holds resentments and who bears grudges.  You decide that you’re not a person who clings to the past.

Then, when you get triggered you remind yourself who you are being now.

Letting go and forgiveness

I  believe that we forgive with our minds first and then with our hearts.

Forgiveness requires insight.  Forgiveness requires a shift in the way in which you think otherwise you forgive someone but you never forget what they did!

It’s really about getting over and past yourself because your resentments and grudges and your disappointments live in your mind.  So you need to get over yourself to get beyond them.

It requires self-work 

If you’re here, then it means you are already doing some self-work!

One of the first ways to detach from your past is to become more present.  When you are in the present moment, it is difficult to be fixated on the future or to be stuck in the past.

Two techniques that you can use for becoming more present, are grounding and embodiment techniques. 

Working with a therapist or a coach can help clear some of the foundational issues that make you feel justified in holding on to your anger, resentment and disappointment.  As long as you stay stuck in these emotions, you will not be able to move forward in life.