Tertia Riegler

Feminine Embodiment Coach

Building Good Habits

3 Easy EMBODIMENT PRACTICES to Awaken Feminine Energy

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Embodiment practices allows us to deeply connect with the wisdom of our bodies. In this video, I share 3 easy embodiment practices to awaken your feminine energy.

These are practices I regularly do myself, and they are focused on letting you deepen into your feminine wisdom.

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In this video, I want to share with you three very easy and simple embodiment practices that you can do at home to awaken your feminine energy. Now, you are probably aware that we hold both divine masculine and divine feminine energy within us. And we want to be able to access both of these energies. But what sometimes often happens is that we lead our lives and we express mostly from our masculine energy. And more often than not, this masculine energy may be wounded or unhealthy. So you might have heard the term like she’s coming from a masculine, or she’s being hyper-masculine. And that might even be something that you identify with. It certainly used to be something that I identified with for a big part of my life, that I was leading too much with my unhealthy masculine. And as I said earlier, we want to be able to access both of these divine energies. But what happens is when we are habituated and conditioned into relying mostly on our masculine to get things done and to get on with our life, what we do is we end up suppressing and denying our feminine energy. So your feminine energy is not lost. You don’t have to go search for it. It is just lying dormant. And more often not, we just need to develop the skills and the sensitivity to awaken our feminine energy. The embodiment practices that I’m going to share with you in this video will help you do that. My name is Tertia. And on this channel, I talk about self-worth and self-love, feminine energy and femininity, and of the ways in which you can stand sovereign in your power. If that speaks to your soul, then I invite you to join our community and subscribe, and also make sure you hit the bell. And this way you’ll get notified each time that I upload a new video. Let’s skate straight into it. And here are my three embodiment practices to help you activate your feminine energy. The first practice is to learn how to drop into your body. Our bodies hold so much truth. It has so much wisdom, our truth and our wisdom. Our bodies inform us about our boundaries and how we can sense our yes or our no. But when we are hypermasculine, when we tend to spend a lot of time in our masculine energy, we can become disembodied. And I made a video about this last week, which I will link for you in the description below. So go and take a look at that to find out some of the signs of being disembodied. When we are disembodied, as I explained in that video, it means that often we spend most of our life living only in this part. We have all of our energy directed upwards as the masculine. It goes upwards and out, and we don’t really pay much attention to what’s happening inside the body. So by dropping into your body, this is how you begin to become sensitive to this wisdom and this truth that your body holds. If you want to learn how to tap into your intuition, and you want to be able to trust your intuition so that you can follow that in your decisions and in the way that you lead your life, then one of the doorways into really connecting deeply with your intuition is by becoming sensitive to the body. So you can close your eyes because that helps focus the attention and the awareness inward. So close your eyes, and then you can start off by simply noticing the breath and not trying to change the breath in any way, but just noticing the breath and how the breath feels as it enters into your body, how it lands inside your body. And then once you have become comfortable in the rhythm of your breath and of the experience of how it feels to be breathed, then you can dive a little bit deeper and start to become curious about: “What is it that I’m feeling now? What sensations am I noticing? What textures is it that I’m feeling inside of me? Where are these sensations located?” Not with an idea to do anything with them, but just simply to become aware of them, to become sensitive to the language of your body. And if you then find that you drift off and you start thinking about other things, then you can focus on: “How does that thought feel inside my body?” See if you can trace the energetic feeling or the texture or the sensation that this thought leaves inside your body. So that’s the first process or the first practice that you can try out. The second practice is the practice of touching your body. So again, it’s an embodiment practice. We want to land inside the body. And there are very many different ways in which you can do this. One of the things that you can do is for example, after you’ve had a bath or a shower, let’s say you put oil or cream on your body. Is to really be present to all parts of your body as you are moving your hand over your skin. And then you can also drop in and see, “How does this feel to me? What reactions or responses am I having towards my body? What is it that my body likes? What is it that I enjoy feeling?” And again, just becoming aware of the sensations and the pleasantness that you experience, the pleasure that you experience by touching yourself in this way. Another thing that you can do is to put your hands on your body without moving them. For example, you might find it quite comforting to put one hand on your heart. Maybe you don’t like to put it on your heart. Maybe you’d like to put it somewhere else, but putting one hand, for example, on your heart, another hand on your belly, or crossing your hands over and just gently patting yourself. So just really experiencing, how does it feel when you hold yourself? Not only the physical sensations in your hands and on your skin as you touch yourself in this way, but also how does the comfort express itself in your body? Do you feel a feeling of comfort by holding yourself like this? What awakens inside of you as you make this deeper connection with your body? All right. And then the third embodiment practice that I have for you is to move your body. And this is one of my personal favorites. This is a practice that I do every day, and it’s not simply dancing. A lot of times when we dance, we let the music move us. So you’ll find that you end up moving to the beat of the music. So if it’s a slow song, then you might move slower. And if it’s a fast song, then you will move with a faster tempo. The movement that is really helpful in terms of this embodiment work is where you move as the sensations that you are experiencing. So if we use the access that we get to our inner world and our inner-felt senses through the process of dropping in and through the process of touching ourselves, then you can become aware of how these feelings and emotions and sensations are alive inside of you. And then you can become curious as to how can I move as this? So this is something that you can try for yourself at home, if it feels safe for you to do so. Is again to close the eyes, to bring the awareness inside, and to notice what is present in my body now? What kind of feeling is it? What kind of sensation is it? It might be an ache in my shoulder. It might be a flattering in my stomach. It might be a feeling of hope. So notice what feelings and sensations are coming to my awareness right now. And then how can I move with this? So again, this is not really interpreting what hope or flattering in my stomach should look like, but it’s rather how would my body have me move with this hope, with this anxiety, with this sore shoulder that I have? I’d love to know how these resonated with you. Try these practices out, and then let me know about your experience in the comments. In my experience, these embodiment practices have really supported me very deeply in activating and opening up to my feminine energy. And I hope that they will do the same for you. If you enjoyed this video, please let me know by giving it a thumbs up and also share it with someone who you think might find it helpful. If you are still not a subscriber, then I would love to have you join our community. So please consider subscribing. Thank you so much for watching. I appreciate you. I love you, and I will see you in the next one. Bye.

TIME TO FOCUS ON YOURSELF IN 2022

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Stop connecting your worth to your output! Leave the pressure to perform and be super productive by the door and make the time to focus on yourself this year 🙂 In this hyper-masculine world, it’s easy to think our worth is connected to our output, and that we must compete with each other for love, approval, and even the right to have an opinion.

In this video, I share with you some tips on how you can begin putting yourself first, so that you can have better experiences in all areas of your life.

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Hi, ladies. And welcome to my first video for 2022. What I want to do in this video is take you through some of the ways in which I think we can experience more joy and pleasure in the year that’s lying ahead. If we look at the year that we’ve just come from, there has been a lot of external focus on the horrors that happened in the world and all the heartache and trauma and heartbreak that so many of us experienced. So there was a lot of outward focus, and I think it’s really time for us to learn how to bring our focus inwards, to learn how to focus on ourselves. And I’m going to share with you in this video, how to do that. I’m also going to share with you at the end of this video, some of the things that you can expect from my channel and my coaching going forward. If you’re new here, my name is Tertia. And on this channel, I talk about all things self-worth, femininity, feminine embodiment, spirituality, and how you can stand in your power. I’d love for you to join our community if you haven’t yet subscribed. So please do subscribe. Also, hit the like button, because that feeds the algorithm. And then also say hi to us in the comments. Okay. So let’s talk about why it’s important to focus on yourself and why this is a good year to do this. So I said earlier that we’ve just come out of a year where there’s been a lot of external focus and also, we’re running on the tail end of most of us realizing that we’re living in a hyper-masculine world. We’re living in a world where often our self-worth, well, not often, most of the time, most of the time our self-worth is connected to our output. So we have these beliefs that have been cultivated in us as we were growing up and through the exposure of our culture, the society that we grew up in that tells us that who we are is directly connected, or rather what our value is, is directly connected to our output and what we contribute. And when we begin to focus on ourselves, it actually turns that narrative on its head because we need to source our self-worth from inside. And I have three ways that I’m exploring in 2022, that I’m going to be sourcing my self-worth and I’m going to be expanding deeper into this. And that’s what I want to share with you. So the three areas where I think the best opportunity is for us to really begin to embrace ourselves fully and enter into the journey of discovering who we are and then fully loving and accepting all parts of ourselves. The three areas for that is to work and balance our masculine and feminine energies. It is about cultivating our inner wisdom, and it’s about becoming sovereign in our life. So let’s just explore those a little bit. So when we talk about balancing masculine and feminine energies, I think that for me, especially as a highly sensitive woman, I tend to intellectualize things a lot. So what this means practically is I spend a lot of time in my head and not so much time connected into my feelings. So at least that’s the history of my journey, where I would intellectualize things instead of feeling them. And intellectualizing, living in the mind, living only in this one third part of our body or one quarter part of our body, that’s really a masculine energy trait. I said earlier that we’re living in a hyper-masculine world where productivity and results and goals and output and discipline is valued. And while there is definitely so much space for this to be there while we allow for this to be there, we also need space to soften into receiving. We need to create that space to allow for chaos, our emotions, our senses, it’s chaotic. The feminine is about fluctuation and flow and full life expression. And if we are going to live only in this intellectual part of our lives, where we are completely disconnected to the wisdom of our body, can you see how you are only living a quarter of your full possibility? All right. So certainly for me, one of the ways in which you can begin to focus on yourself is by looking into creating balance between the masculine and the feminine aspects within you. And this ties into the second point, which is cultivating wisdom. Our bodies have all the answers, right? And there are really two types of intuition that cultivating the body’s wisdom speaks to. So the first is the intuition, which is a little bit more mystical, where you will get signs of the universe as it were. The intuition that I want to talk about is the body’s wisdom, the body intuition, where your body has all the answers. And the problem that happens is when we are so intellectualized, when you are only living in this part of your experience or everything just happens here in the thinking part of your experience, you really are disconnected to the messages that your body sends to you. Now, our bodies shows us when things feel good and when things don’t feel good. And we can become sensitive to this intuitive wisdom of our bodies, which will allow us then to make better decisions. It will allow us to really step and stand in our power. It allows us to draw strong boundaries and stand up for the things that we believe in, but we can only do that by cultivating a sensitivity to the message of the body. So we need to drop out of the mind and into our body. And this leads then into the third point, which is really about being sovereign. So sovereignty to me means that I recognize that I am the authority in my own life. It means that no one other than me knows what is best for me. One of the ways in which we often give away our power is by believing that other people know better than us. We think that others know what we need. We wait for others to tell us what to do. Sometimes we even wait for others to tell us how to think or whether what we’re thinking is right or wrong. When we start exploring our self-worth and the limiting beliefs that we have around our worthiness and around being good enough and around being lovable, when we examine how our habits of being perfect and doing everything just right is linked to our sense of self-worth and sovereignty, then we can begin to see that when I’m standing sovereign, when I honor myself as my first point of authority, that amplifies my self-worth. It means that I don’t have to connect my worthiness to anyone out there or to any results out there that who I am just as I am is enough. So what I want to do now is just talk to you about the things that you can expect on my channel going forward. So first off, you’ll notice that my videos have a different upload time. So from now on I’m uploading my videos every Friday at 4:00 PM Central European Time. That’s the first thing. The second thing is I’ve spoken to this before in my newsletter and on Instagram, but I just want to speak it again into existence. And that is that I’m currently doing my training as a feminine embodiment coach. Already now, my coaching sessions will use these feminine embodiment principles. So I will use that. I’ll also use EFT tapping where the situation calls for it, but I’m really bringing these embodiment principles into my work because I’ve seen in my own life, what a powerful, powerful modality that is. So on that note, if you are interested in getting one-on-one coaching with me, then you can hop on a free call where we can meet each other, talk about how I work and what you can expect. We’ll also do some deep diving into what it is that you want to create for yourself and how you want that to feel in your body. And there’s a link in the description below where you can just complete the application form and then I’ll get in touch with you. Also, as we’re standing at the doorstep of a brand new year, and we’ve got a whole year of possibility unfolding in front of us, I want to ask you if there’s anything that you would like me to make a video about for you, anything that is going to support you around topics of masculine-feminine energy, femininity, self-worth, self-love, even being a highly sensitive person and navigating your life through that, then please let me know by leaving me a comment in the description below, or you can also get hold of me on Instagram and you can send me a DM there. So this is then the end of my first video for 2022. Thank you very much for watching. Thank you very much for being part of my community and I’ll see you next week. Bye.

WHEN YOU CAN’T STOP PEOPLE PLEASING, HERE’S WHAT TO TRY

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Are you in the habit of people pleasing? If you put the needs of others above your own, and you feel responsible for the happiness of those around you, you may also struggle to say no.

In this video, I share with you how to stop being a people pleaser, and how you can learn to say no without feeling guilty about it.

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In today’s video, I want to talk to you about how to stop being a people pleaser. How do we stop pleasing people and how do we learn to finally say no without feeling guilty? If you are someone who is always the nice guy and you are always helping other people out to the cost of yourself, then you’re going to find today’s video very helpful. My name is Tertia and on this channel, I show you how to use your inner power and the laws of the universe to completely transform your life. My videos are all about feminine wisdom, self love, self worth, self growth, feminine spirituality, and if any of those things resonate with you, if it calls to your soul, then I invite you to subscribe, join our community, and also make sure that you hit the little bell so you can get notified each time that I upload a new video. If you’ve been trying to stop people pleasing or you’ve been trying to behave differently and you’ve noticed that it hasn’t worked, then I think the things that I’m going to be sharing with you will be very helpful to you. The first thing is the awareness. It’s always the awareness and I say this in so many of my videos. You cannot begin to change anything, you cannot begin to transform anything without the awareness thereof. And the awareness specifically is not just the head knowledge of yes, I’m a people pleaser, I can’t say no, people always take advantage of me because I never turn anyone away, that’s head knowledge and head knowledge doesn’t help me at all. The awareness that I’m talking about here specifically is to connect into the body and to notice when your people pleasing mode gets activated. Become curious and pay attention, is this usually around certain type of people, the same person? Is it usually in a certain situation? Is it when you get asked specific things? Is it with all things? So really become curious as to when this program is triggered and they notice what happens in the body when you resist it. What feelings are they? Can you notice any, I want to call it, energetic turmoil? Is there any turning or agitation that happens inside of you when you even think about resisting or saying no? And ask yourself, what is it that I’m afraid of? What is it that I’m afraid of if I don’t please these people, if I don’t give these people what they want? And that’s going to lead you into beginning to explore what is the driver that keeps this habit in place. Even though we all might have experienced the same thing as children, where we were being a peacekeeper or we were working for the approval of our parents, it manifests in different ways for all of us, even though we carry the same wounding when it comes to being a people pleaser. And that’s why it’s important for you to, as part of your self-awareness, begin to notice when does your pattern get activated. And then following it and understanding what happens in my body energetically, how does it feel? What are the emotions and these sensations? What is it that I’m trying to get away from because what you’ll notice is as soon as you give in to the urge to be accommodating or to be helpful, or to put yourself… or to put others, rather, ahead of yourself, there is going to be kind of a transaction that happens inside of you energetically. And if you can find out what this transaction is, it’s going to allow you to begin to change it. Can you see, it’s really moving from just thinking patterns and trying to think yourself out of a behavior to really working on it on a more energetic level. That’s the short-term solution is the awareness. In the moment, as soon as you notice that you become activated to go into people pleasing mode, notice what is going on with me. The second two points that I want to share with you are more long-term solutions. And the first one is to work around your self worth and your self love. The reason why you are people pleasing, if I can simplify it, is because you are looking for validation outside of yourself. You’re looking for others to let you know that you are okay, that you are valued, that you are worth something, that you are good enough. That’s part of that turmoil that you are trying to quiet inside yourself. And if you can begin to source your self worth from inside of you, instead of going to look for it everywhere outside, you won’t need to accommodate people at the cost of yourself in order to start feeling better, because you’ll be able to do that for yourself. The second long-term strategy that’s going to help you to stop people pleasing is to learn how to take back your own sovereignty, learn how to take back your own power. When we people please, because we are looking for that validation outside of us, because we are looking for the approval of other people, you will also find that there are so many things that you just go along and you don’t even know how you feel about that personally, because you’re always just the easy one, you’re always just going with the flow, you’re always following the crowd, not to rock the boat and to keep everyone happy. One of the things that you can do to begin to stand in your own sovereignty is to identify what are the things that I like? What are my goals? What is it that I long for and that I yearn for? In this process of getting to know yourself better, you can understand what are the things that drive you, what are your values. Part of what happens when we people please is not only are we unable to say no, but we also compromise our own values. And a lot of time, we don’t even know what these values are even though they are operating in the background on an unconscious level. By you learning what your values are, understanding what are those core things that you value most above everything in the world, you can begin to align yourself with that value. And by the act of aligning yourself with these values, by the act of you knowing this is what is important to me, and so I will choose actions and responses and behaviors that honor this which is important to me, that is going to create within you the ability to draw boundaries. If you don’t do that, you will notice that you become resentful. You’ll feel that people take advantage of you, but you don’t have to subject yourself to that. And by honoring your values, by knowing what your goals are, what are those things that are important to you, it’s going to help you stand in your own power. Another part of standing in your own power is learning the ability to hold self compassion and to be able to soothe yourself, to be able to soothe your inner child. So many times, the inner child is the one that pleases. The inner child is the one that is looking for that affection and approval and validation from outside. By learning self-compassion and self soothing techniques, you’ll be able to work with your inner child. And then another point that I can add here is, and this is especially for sensitive people or for empaths is as part of being sovereign is to learn how to separate what you feel from what others feel. A lot of times as empaths, we assume that the feelings of other people are our own and we take responsibility for making people feel better. And that’s also unfair because you’re taking away the opportunity of those people to have their own life experience. I’d like to hear from you now, so let me know in the comments below if you are a people pleaser. I’m assuming you are if you watch this video and perhaps more importantly, which of these strategies that I shared with you resonated the most. The answer to stop being a people pleaser and having the ability to say no without feeling guilty, it isn’t an overnight thing. You can’t just think yourself out of it, but there are definitely some practices that you can do where you take this habit from being just an automatic program that runs in the back of your mind and you bring it into your awareness, and from this point, you can start to change it. I hope that you found this video helpful. And if you did, please let me know in the comments. Also, let me know any other videos that you would like me to make for you around the subject of feminine wisdom or self worth or self love. Also, share this video with anyone who you think might find it helpful. As always, thank you very much for watching and I will see you in the next one.

HOW TO GET STARTED WITH CYCLICAL LIVING (TAKING YOU THROUGH MY METHOD)

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How To Get Started With Cyclical Living (taking you through my method)

In this video, I want to explain to you what cyclical living is and then show you how I’m doing it, and how I’ve implemented it in my life.  I’m going to share with you why I’ve decided to do this and also some of the benefits that I’m seeing. And I hope that you can make enough sense of this if you’ve been interested in cyclical living if you’ve heard about it, but you don’t really know how it works.

 I’m a very practical person, so I’ve tried to make it very practical for myself.  So I thought the best way for me to explain to you how I’m doing cyclical living or incorporating it into my lifestyle is with my wonderful flip chart. I’ve created some charts for you that I’m going to take you through.

First,  I wanted to just share with you why I’ve decided to do this.  I’ve been on a journey of embracing my feminine energy this past year. And this really comes as a result of me feeling burnout and overwhelmed and struggling with chronic pain. I’m learning it all came because I was pushing too much from my masculine energy. 

So I was basically living from the head up. I think a lot of us do this. The world is set up that masculine energy is the driver, there’s a lot of focus on achieving, there’s a lot of focus on achievement. And yes, we need our masculine energy. But we also need the feminine, we need the yin and the yang, we need that balance, we need that union of energies. 

One of the ways that I’ve awakened my feminine energy, one of the ways that I’m really embracing that, and embodying it, is by following my menstrual cycle, and also by following the yearly cycle. 

And they are actually pretty similar, which I’m going to show you just now and what I found is it has allowed me to slow down. So that is one of the biggest things, one of the biggest lessons that I’ve learned and that I’m still learning is to slow myself down. 

I’m a typical type-A personality, always pushing, always driving.  As a highly sensitive person, I often overthink things and spend a lot of time deeply processing information. I’m an empath, feeling and taking on a lot of emotions of other people. 

So I had to come to a point where I needed to slow myself down,  where I needed to be able to draw strong boundaries, and where I could actually come back to myself. And this is one of the ways in which I’m doing this. So let me take you through how these cycles work. You can then see for yourself if this is something that you want to try out. 

The way that we have been conditioned to operate is regular emotions, regular moods, regular everything, the same amount of energy 365 days of the year. And that simply isn’t possible for us women because we have a hormonal cycle of 28 days.

Our hormones and emotions go up and down through the cycle.  if we reject that, if we are trying to just be the same every day, we start seeing our emotions, our moods, our bloatedness, our PMS, we start seeing all of these things as a liability.

 We buy into the societal norms that say, at certain times of the month women are so volatile and that it’s something to be ashamed of, or that something that’s really a problem and we reject our own essence in the process. 

So it’s really important when you begin to work with your feminine energy when you really embrace that part of yourself, to allow for all of these moods and all of these fluctuations to happen. What you’re also going to find is once you start living in accordance with these cycles, you are going to perform better in the sense that you are optimally aligning yourself with your body’s energy. 

So you are going to be able to plan, which is the masculine part, you’re going to be able to plan what to do when, so that, it is in alignment with where you are in your cycle.  And this applies not only in your menstrual cycle but also in the yearly cycle. 

So we have our menstruation cycle, we have the follicular cycle; ovulation, and then luteal. 

These four cycles of menstruation align with the four seasons of the year. So, menstruating is our inner winter, follicular is our innerspring, ovulation is our inner summer, and the luteal phase is our inner autumn. Now, obviously, the seasons of the year are quite clear, because we’ve got 12 months, four seasons, so it’s basically three months per season. 

So that’s easy enough, your three months of autumn, three months of winter, three months of spring, and three months of summer. And this is good to know once you start doing reflections and intention setting throughout the year. So you basically work in three months brackets. 

But in terms of our menstrual cycle, it’s going to be different for different women. So in essence, the time while you are bleeding, can be anything from three to seven days. When you are in your follicular stage, this can be anything from seven to 10 days. Ovulation can be anything from three to four days, and then your luteal stage can be anything from 10 to 14 days, and this makes up the amount of your cycle. 

So, not everyone is on a 28-day cycle. Some women have a 30 or 32-day cycle, some women have a 21-day cycle. So the first thing that you need to do if you want to start working with your cycle and start incorporating it into your lifestyle is first to take a month or two to see how many days are you in a cycle. Are you on a 21-day cycle? Are you on a 28-day cycle? And usually, if you are taking birth control, then you will be on the 28-day cycle. 

Once you know exactly the length of your cycle, you can begin to predict when are you going to menstruate, when are you going to be in your follicular, when are you going to ovulate and when are you going to be in luteal and then you begin to plan your month or even your week. That’s what I do. I do my weekly planning on a Friday. And because I know where I am in my cycle, I also know what to put into my plan for the next week. 

Let me now just take you a little bit deeper into what do you do then in the different sections. 

So we start again in winter and winter is typically a time for rest. So when you are menstruating, this is a time to raise your body, this is a time to reflect, this is a time to review. 

What happens in your body hormonally is your left and your right hemispheres are in sync. So it’s really a good time for your brain hemispheres to work together. So you are able to do that review, you’re able to do that assessment. You want to do activities such as walking or yoga. So really very gentle kind of activities that’s not strenuous. You want to tune into your intuition. You want to connect to your inner wisdom. 

These are really these aspects of you that are going to be easier for you to tap into and rely on when you’re menstruating, and also when it’s winter. So when you start doing your quarterly review or your seasonal review, you will do activities that have to do with reflection and looking back at where you have come from, you’re not going to take on new projects. Also, when you’re menstruating, you’re not starting with big new projects that are very demanding. This is really at the end of the cycle.

Then we move into spring, which is follicular and this is where the rebirth happens. So think yourself about spring, all of these new green leaves everywhere, everything feels alive, there’s lightness in the air, things feel charged. 

So we’re starting to feel more alive, we start to feel more active, so hormonally you are open to new things. All right, so this is the start of the creative juices beginning to flow. 

In winter, you’ve had time to connect into what it is that you want to create and what is important to you. . And now you can step into the creation thereof. 

The type of activities that you will do are things that are more invigorating. Things that can really start to use this energy of yours that’s coming alive. This is also a time of planting.  If you think about spring, it’s a time of planting. 

So, you are beginning to create the intentions, you’re going to sow the seeds for what it is that you want to co-create in your life, you’re going to tend to your garden, you’re going to weed out all of those things that don’t serve you. It’s a time to declutter. It’s a time for you to move your energy, it’s a time for you to start to let go of things. 

So in your work, this is the best time to start working on your projects to really begin to bring them into fruition to do a lot of planning, to do a lot of visionary work is what you can do over here. 

Then moving along with the cycle, we move into summer, which is really the growth cycle. 

This is when you’re ovulating, hormonally, your verbal and your social centers are on fire. When you think about the summer season, things are growing, things are becoming lush, they’re becoming ripe. So this is a time to celebrate. 

It’s a time to celebrate, and it’s time to play; it’s a time to be joyous. So in your summer solstice reflection consider how you can play more. It’s a space for you to also do a little bit of shadow work, by asking yourself where do I sabotage play in my own life? How do I prevent myself from celebrating? Where do I stop myself from fully emerging and from fully immersing myself and really enjoying everything that life has to offer me? 

And then we move into autumn or our luteal phase. This is the harvesting phase. 

So now what’s happening is all of the things that you’ve been creating and tending to and allowing to grow are now ready to be harvested.  Hormonally, you’re very good with your attention to detail. It’s a time for you to complete projects. So start to bring things to the end. And harvesting is also a time of releasing; it’s a time of letting go so that we can move into our rest cycles. 

So when you are then on the autumn equinox, you can start reflecting about all of the things that you’ve been planting during the year, how has that developed? Where have you come from? You can reflect on where are you now? What are you harvesting? And then:  what can you release moving into rest phase so that you can then start to rebirth something new in its place. 

Most of this information regarding the hormonal side of how we can align with our menstrual cycle I’ve taken this from the book from Alisa Vitti called In the Flo. I can recommend it if you want to start aligning with your cycle. If you’ve been curious about starting with cyclical living then I hope my explanation of how I do it has been helpful to you!

SELF-CARE ACTION PLAN FOR HSP (+ FREE WORKBOOK)

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This post is part 2 in the 2-part series on Self-care for Highly Sensitive People (HSP). Find part 1 here.

In this post, I want to share with you a self-care action plan for highly sensitive people (HSP), which you can create specific to your needs, and some of the most important things that we need as highly sensitive people in our daily self-care practice.

Defining self-care

Contrary to what you may see on social media, self-care is not a luxury!  

Self-care is not about pampering yourself with facials, manicures and spending money on expensive treatments.

The kind of self-care I’m talking about is doing the things that nourish your soul.  The types of things that honor you and fulfill you.

Self-care is any activity that restores you, revitalizes you, and recharges you.

If you prefer to watch this on my YouTube channel, you can do that here.

HSP and self-care

If you’re a highly sensitive person your nervous system becomes more easily overwhelmed and overstimulated than people who don’t identify as highly sensitive.

Therefore,  highly sensitive people need self-care more than anyone, to be able to cope and to really thrive.

It really is a non-negotiable for us! And we want to make self-care a daily part of our lives and not a weekly task or when we are feeling exhausted. 

Highly sensitive people have three very specific self-care needs that supports our wellbeing.

1 HPS’s need movement

Any type of movement is very important for highly sensitives.  

Part of the HSP trait is overthinking. The deep level at which we process information leaves us spending a lot of time in our minds.

Movement has the effect of automatically grounding us back in the body.  This is a really good thing as our bodies are already in the present moment.

The present moment is right here, and right now.  When we are present in the moment it becomes almost impossible to think about our past or worry about the future.

2 HSP’s need time to process

We need time to think about the things that we have experienced.  

We really do well when we have time to think about our observations and the things that we’ve noticed and to really process and work through all of the experiences that we had.

3 We need alone time

Having or taking alone time it helps you to process all the information your taken in during the day.

Alone time (away from your phone, your laptop, and your “people”) allows you to become introspective and reflect on your thoughts, which really feeds our souls.

Self-care action plan for HSP

Download your free action plan workbook here to help you complete this activity.

Our aim here is to create a practical and useful self-care action plan for the HSP that you can do every day.

There are five core self-care categories that you can consider as you complete your action plan.

  1. Physical self-care (activities to take care of your body, movement, healthy diet, enough sleep) 
  2. Emotional self-care (activities that you do to support your emotions, healing core wounds, meditation, journaling)
  3. Mental self-care (activities to feed your mind, restricting social media, reading, using affirmations)
  4. Social self-care (engaging with other people in your life)
  5. Spiritual self-care (connecting to something greater than yourself through prayer and meditation)

Step 1

The first step in creating your self-care action plan is to brainstorm all the things that bring you joy.  Think of the things that restore you and make you feel recharged.

Allow yourself to daydream and don’t hold yourself back. At this point you are simply brainstorming ideas.

Step 2

It is useful to know what your particular triggers are, and that is what we explore in the next step.

When you know what your typical triggers are, you can create a plan, and anticipate what to do in a situation that has the potential to trigger you.

You might have your own signs that tell you you are triggered.  I tend to feel fried, or wired. You may cry at the drop of a hat, feel irritable or dizzy.

Some of the things that might trigger you are bright lights,  loud noises or crowds.  You may respond strongly to feeling hunger or being too warm or cold.  And how do you feel when you haven’t had enough sleep?

Step 3

The next step is to notice where you place your focus.

The fastest way to feel like you are powerless and a victim, is to focus only on those things that are out of your control.

So, take a moment and write down all the things that you can control.

Think about your emotional response, the way that you take care of yourself and the types of media and news that you choose to consume.   What about the way that you show up for yourself and for the people in your life.

This is such an important part of the self-care process,  because it has to do with personal healing.

Changing your focus from an external locus of control to an internal locus has power.  Now you can begin to choose how you show up  and how you will emotionally respond to the things that are happening in your world.

This will give you a sense of being more grounded and stable. When you focus on the things that you can control it gives you the ability to be there for yourself.

Step 4

The final step in your action plan is to put together a routine.

Routines are super helpful because

 a) it’s easier to stick to a routine and, 

b) you don’t have to think about what it is that you need to do.

Our brains like routine as it eliminates the need to think about what to do next, so routines are very useful when you want to begin to create a new habit.

Review your list now and take a look at everything you wrote down in the different steps.

Choose one thing from this list that you will be able to do every day,  keeping in mind your lifestyle and your current life situation.

Ideally you want to choose something that will be easy to implement and not change things so much that you would rather not do it, because it is too much effort!

Implementing your HSP action plan

The secret to creating good habits that stick is to start small.  Do a little bit every day and build your way up.  

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MORNING ROUTINE METHOD – TRY THESE 5 SIMPLE STEPS

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Most people will agree that having an effective morning routine method helps set a good foundation for your day.

However, many people struggle to find a morning routine that works for them, and there is a good reason why that is. What works for me won’t necessarily work for you!

We all have different life situations, we have different types of energy and ultimately we all have different goals and dreams.

So, it makes sense that you develop a morning routine method that actually works with wherever you are in your life.

The benefit of morning routines

When you start your day off with a morning ritual, you are basically taking control of your brain. It’s like you’re telling your subconscious mind, thanks for playing, but today I will take charge of my decisions, and my thinking.

It is easy to slip into autopilot mode where you simply go through the action of living without consciously creating your days.

The whole purpose then, of having an effective morning routine method, is to become the master of your life and future. You become intentional in your choices and ultimately you will find that you have more resilience in dealing with any daily challenges that may arise.

5 Simple Steps

Trying to plug someone else’s routine into your lifestyle can be frustrating and many people give up because of this. However, having a morning routine sets you up for the day, and it is a key ingredient in helping you achieve your goals!

When I started experimenting with different routines, I got frustrated because a lot of the routines out there simply didn’t fit into my lifestyle.

Over the past 2 years, I’ve managed to hone down my personal morning routine and in the process, I’ve identified 5 core ingredients to a successful routine.

1 Get up earlier

Getting up earlier gives you the time to be intentional with your life.

2 Get enough sleep

Get enough sleep so that you can maintain your energy levels during the day and not turn into a cranky monster.

3 Wake your body and mind

After being in bed for between 6-8 hours, waking your body and mind with exercise and meditation sets you up for the day.

4 Set a daily intention

Setting an intention grounds you and supports you in handling any challenges during the day.

5 Clutter-free space

Don’t let clutter distract you during this important time for yourself.

Next steps

Once you have these essential components in place you can bring in different things, such as journaling, reviewing your goals or reading for your personal growth.

Morning routines let you be intentional with your life, which in turn can improve many different areas of your life.

These 5 simple steps are the key ingredients to any successful routine.

If you struggle to nail down your morning routine, this method will help you create a routine that works with your life.

Let me know in the comments below how you design your morning routine!