A few years ago my husband cut off the tip of his right index finger. He was getting dinner ready and had this little accident while using the electric slicer.
Well, it wasn’t really cut off as such; there was still a little piece of sinew and skin that get kept the tip attached to the rest of his finger. We waited for over two hours in the emergency room someone eventually helped us. And then the poor chap on duty couldn’t do much anyway. Finally, we were sent home with some antibiotics, an impressive bandage and an instruction to contact a plastic surgeon in the morning who could better deal with said appendage.
The plastic surgeon did not have much hope that finger could be saved. Fortunately, he was wrong.
To cut a long story short (no pun intended), his finger fully recovered. There is no scar. The nail looks normal like the rest of his fingers. You cannot tell the trauma his finger suffered. And here is the catch – he never got any plastic surgery!
Now before you think this post is going to be like some scaly infomercial selling the latest cure non-plastic-surgery surgery, it’s not.
It is about Tapping, also known as Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) and that is what I did on my husband like a woman obsessed. We both believe that tapping is partly what helped his finger heal so nicely.
Okay, so let’s get back to my husband. While we were sitting in the waiting room at the ER, I tapped on him the whole time, sometimes speaking, sometimes just being quiet. I did another session when we climbed into bed that night. I tapped every day for the whole week until he had to see the plastic surgeon again for his check-up.
Today I want to teach you how to tap on yourself.
Important: I am not a doctor and this does not constitute medical advice. See your health provider for any serious physical or mental ailments.
For brevity and simplicity’s sake, I’m sticking to the basic recipe as our introduction in this lesson. Plus, I’ve made you a totally neat follow-along which you can [thrive_2step id=’210′]download here[/thrive_2step].
You can also get it by clicking on this picture . My pleasure.
You lightly tap with your fingertips on acupressure points on your face and body while you repeat specific statements. And yes, it does look weird.
You can either tap on yourself, or someone else can tap on you. Of course there is more to tapping than only, well, tapping. The basic recipe is the tapping, and then there are various additional techniques that you combine with the basic recipe to achieve results.
In a 2011 study published in the Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease, subjects who received EFT had lower levels of cortisol levels (stress hormone) than those who didn’t.
Apart from the obvious benefit of reducing stress-related cortisol, EFT can be used on a wide range of “issues”; including:
- helping you overcome feelings of not being good enough
- gaining clarity when you are feeling confused
- helping you make a decision when you are stuck between 2 choices
- calming you down when you are feeling stressed out
- relief for headaches and migraine
- calming you down before you give a presentation
- overcoming a bothersome memory from your past
- relieving back ache
- helping you deal with an emotional issue
- emotional support when you are pregnant
Tapping is simple to learn, and once you’ve learnt it, you can do it yourself. I really like that about it. Anyone can do it for themselves. You are not required to always see a practitioner to help you deal with an issue. Of course, it depends on the issue that you want to deal with. Many things, such as gaining confidence, decision making and stress management you can handle yourself, but it could be that there are sensitive emotional issues that require the help of a professional practitioner.
The basic Tapping method follows the same recipe every time
- Identify the issue you want to work on,
- Determine the intensity of the issue.
- Say a set-up statement that includes the words “even though I have this ___________” while tapping on the side of your hand.
- Repeat the issue while tapping various points on your face and body.
- Check the intensity to see if it has reduced.
Let’s make that a bit more practical, shall we? Grab your follow-along if you haven’t already done so.
Identify the issue you want to work on
Let’s say you are angry about something that your friend said to you at your birthday party. You want to get over it but you can’t. You keep on thinking about it but you are now ready to let it go and get back to the business of living. If you want, you can think of your own issue now. But make it a little issue okay? And be specific – what, where, when (that’s the trick).
Determine the intensity of the issue
Think about the issue as if it is happening right now. Not how your remember it, really put yourself in the moment. Yeah, you’re going to feel it. Now, give that feeling or intensity a score between 0 and 10. 0 means supercool I don’t feel a thing and 10 is oh boy I’m going to blow up.
Say a set-up statement that includes the words “even though [I have this] ___________, I deeply and completely accept myself”, while tapping on the side of your hand.
Now you fit your feeling/emotion/experience into the blank.
You can change the sentence slightly if your issue doesn’t fit with the [I have this] like such:
Even though Sam really made me angry at my birthday party, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Repeat the issue while tapping various points on your face and body.
Start at the top of your head and work your way down, following this sequence:
TH means on top of your head, at the crown
EB means where your eyebrow starts on the inside of your face
SE is on the outside of your eye, on the bone before the temple
UE is underneath your eye, in line with the pupil if you are looking straight ahead
UN means underneath your nose, above your top lip
Ch is on your chin, underneath your bottom lip
CB stands for collarbone. This is a tricky one, it’s 1 inch down and to the left or right of the U-shape on your neck.
UA is on your side, about 4 inches below your armpit.
Check the intensity to see if it has reduced.
You want to get your intensity down to 0 or as close as you can to it. Rinse and repeat steps 2-5 until you get there.
How long will it take, I hear you ask. Well, how long is a piece of string. It all depends. Sometimes a issue disappears after 2 rounds of tapping, and other times it takes longer. It depends on the number of aspects and linked events that may be attached to the issue.
The thing that I love the most about Tapping is that it could take hours instead of years to deal with an issue that has been bothering you. It’s by no means a quick fix, but I have seen fast results in many of my sessions with clients.
Don’t you just love stuff that works? I know I do!
Assuming that you did the run through with me (instead of just reading it which won’t make a difference, sorry) you now have a bit of a feel for it.
Your task is to give it a serious go. Choose a issue that you could really do without and tap it away. And then tell me how it worked for you in the comments.